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HEALTH— BEAUTY— SEXUALITY 

From Girlhood to Womanhood 



PLAIN ADVICE TO GIRLS THAT WILL BE FOUND INVALUABLE 
AS THEY GROW FROM GIRLHOOD INTO WOMANHOOD 



A Companion Book to Power and Beauty of Superb Womanhood 



BY 

BERNARR MACFADDEN 

AND 

MARION MALCOLM 



PUBLISHED BY 

PHYSICAL CULTURE PUBLISHING COMPANY 

29-33 EAST 19th STREET, NEW YORK 

12 and 13 Red Lion Court, Fleet Street 

London, England 



Prinfi in U. S. A. 



UBFiARY of CONGRESS 
Two Copies rteceivej 

DEC 17 1904 

, Copyrigiii entry 

CUSS e<. XXC Noj 

COHY d. 



Copyright, 1904, by 
Bernarr Macfadden 



Entered at Stationers' Hall 
All rights reserved 



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CONTENTS 

PAGE 

Preface 7 

CHAPTER I 
Admiration of Physical Beauty Universal .11 

CHAPTER II 
Conventional Teachings Prudish and Demoralizing .... 16 

CHAPTER III 

The Teachings of the Ancient Greeks — Kind of Men and 
Women Purity Produces 23 

CHAPTER IV 
False Ideas of Modesty 26 

CHAPTER V 
The Marvels of the Mysterious Instinct of Sex 33 

CHAPTER VI 

Acuteness of the Sex Instinct — Life's Greatest Guide and 
Protector 40 

CHAPTER VII 
How the Power and Acuteness of the Sex Instinct can be 
Developed 47 

CHAPTER VIII 

Illustrated Anatomy of the Organs of Sex — Their Uses and 
Functions — Some Things a Girl Should Know .... 52 

CHAPTER IX 
Menstruation and What It Is 58 

CHAPTER X 
Hygienic Care of Body During Menstruation . , . • . • 62 

CHAPTER XI 
Proper Attitude Toward Men and Boys 68 

CHAPTER XII 
Don't Think that Every Man who Smiles at You is in Love 
With You 76 

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4 CONTENTS 

CHAPTEE XIII p^^^ 

Character Influenced by Woman's Attitude Towards the Opposite 
Sex 79 

CHAPTEE XIV 
Physical Comeliness Affected by Association with the Opposite 
Sex 83 

CHAPTER XV 

Physical Qualities Men Like in a Girl — The Magnetism Born 
of Health 88 

CHAPTER XVI 
Mental Qualities Men Like in a Girl 94 

CHAPTER XVII 
Moral Qualities that Men Like in a Girl . 101 

CHAPTER XVni 

A GirPs Ideal Man 107 

CHAPTER XIX 
Signs in a Man that Indicate Weakness and Effeminacy . . , 119 

CHAPTER XX 

Temptations that Come to Girls — Effects of Bad Habits , . 125 

CHAPTER XXI 
How to Cure Bad Habits 130 

CHAPTER XXII 
Evil Thought and Conversation Must be Avoided .... 135 

CHAPTER XXIII 
Signs that Indicate Awakening Love in a Man 137 

CHAPTER XXIV 
The Attitude of a Girl toward the Man Whose Love She Desires 
to Win 144 

CHAPTER XXV 

TTow a Man can be Inspired by the Girl whom He Loves . . . 152 

CHAPTER XXVI 

Lives Made Miserable by a Wrong Attitude Toward a Possible 
Lover 158 



CONTENTS 5 

CHAPTEK XXVII 

PAGE 

You Must Kise Above and Beyond the Errors of the Past . . 163 

CHAPTER XXVIII 
Cultivate Happiness, Encourage a Play Spirit 167 

CHAPTER XXIX 
Natural Play Exercises are the Best 173 

CHAPTER XXX 
How a Girl Should Dress 179 

CHAPTER XXXI 
Diet of the Utmost Importance 184 

CHAPTER XXXII 
Hints About the Complexion, Bathing, and the Hair .... 187 

CHAPTER XXXIII 
Beauty is Merely Health and Physical Comeliness .... 192 

CHAPTER XXXIV 
How Strength and Beauty of the Body Can be Easily Acquired 
and Retained 197 

CHAPTER XXXV 
Exercises for Developing and Beautifying Neck and Shoulders . 202 

CHAPTER XXXVI 
Exercises for Developing and Beautifying the Arms and Chest . 214 

CHAPTER XXXVII 
Exercises for Developing and Beautifying the Waist and Hips: 
Of Special Value to Girls Who Want to Throw Aside Their 
Corsets 222 

CHAPTER XXXVIII 

Developing and Beautifying Upper Part of Legs and Calves . 230 



PREFACE 

Prudery of the prurient sort has stayed the moral 
and material progress of our race for centuries. 
Ignorance in regard to the more important affairs 
of life is very properly held to be a sign of neglected 
education, intellectual incapacity or disregard of op- 
portmiities. And so, we accord it pity or reproach 
as the case may be. 

Yet, thanks to the baneful influence of the ex- 
ponents of the prudery in question, there is one kind 
of ignorance that we are taught to hail with satis- 
faction and reward with approbation. It is an igno- 
rance that has wrought untold evil to mankind. It 
runs counter to the promptings and purposes of Na- 
ture. It breeds wreck and ruin where there should 
flourish beauty and prosperity. It is an ignorance 
of the most important duties and functions of hu- 
manity — those of sex. But, instead of regarding 
it with stern disapproval, we christen it ^ innocence," 
and crown it with applause. Meantime, however, we 
do not applaud its products ; the rickety babies, the 
anaemic girls, the yomig wives with shattered con- 

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8 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

stitutions, the middle aged women suffering tortures 
from diseases peculiar to their sex, the uncounted 
thousands of unhappy marriages. 

The prudes go a step further than merely fostering 
this deadly ignorance. Moral bats that they are, 
they not only shun the light of knowledge themselves, 
but with squeakings and flutterings seek to extin- 
guish it so that the darkness in which they live and 
move and have their being, may be maintained. 
^"For their works being evil, they love darkness 
rather than light," as an inspired authority puts it. 
So that those who endeavor to illuminate the pre- 
vailing gloom of sexual ignorance are often met by 
abuse and denunciation. The truth is that the aver- 
age prude is at heart a depraved creature, who im- 
putes evil to all and decency to none. He, and not un- 
usually she, goes through life sniffing out evil odors. 
To the prude all actions spring from one motive, 
that of licentiousness. As the critic must be pro- 
foundly imbued with the spirit of the thing that he 
criticises, so it follows that the prude must be steeped 
in moral corruption to the heart core in order to de- 
tect naught but vileness in the most beautiful and 
wonderful works of the Creator. And yet, such is 
the fatuity of our natures, we permit the prude to 
hold sway in our homes, our schools, and our legis- 



PEEFACE 9 

latures, blighting yoimg lives and blasting the lives 
that are to be. 

Of the two sexes, the female is perhaps the greatest 
sufferer from this order of things. Sexual ignorance 
prevents that opulent development of girlhood which 
is Nature's obvious intention. So that the majority 
of girls grow up stunted in body, dwarfed in sex and 
frequently narrow of intellect. They know nothing 
of themselves physically and their ideas regarding 
wifehood and motherhood are vague and distorted. 
They are encouraged, in fact compelled, to begin the 
journey through life in this sexual darkness. And 
the consequences of the errors that they commit be- 
cause of ignorance are regrettable in the extreme. 
They are made to pay heavy penalties for violating 
natural laws, though kept in ignorance of such laws 
by prudery. They are the victims of a system which 
is a disgrace to our civilization, a reproach to our in- 
telligences and a stigma on our affections as parents. 

This book has been written for the purpose of 
plainly setting forth to the budding woman the laws 
of self and sex. The truths taught herein should be 
familiar to every growing girl. There is nothing 
impure about sex. The impurity and the indecency 
with which the subject is sometimes viewed and 
credited exist only in the imaginations of the impure 
and indecent. 



10 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

Young girls, on the eve of coming into possession 
of the divine instincts and powers of perfected wom- 
anhood, must have knowledge in order to defend 
themselves against the evils which everywhere con- 
front them. Only in knowledge can there be found 
that force and protection that will enable the maiden 
to reach and retain ideal womanhood unscathed. 

Into the sculptor's imagination come ideals which 
he endeavors to express in marble and bronze. Into 
the mind of every growing girl there comes the ideal 
of the woman of whom she would like to be a counter- 
part. As a sculptor moulds a statue, so a yoimg girl 
can mould her mind, soul and body day by day. She 
is growing and developing. She can be strong or 
weak, comely or ugly, in accordance with the dictates 
of her mentality. All she needs is, first, the desire ; 
secondly, the determination, and finally the requisite 
knowledge. 

This book will furnish much of the last named es- 
sential. I am publishing it with the heart-felt hope 
and indeed belief, that every girl who peruses its 
pages will become purer in mind, stronger in body, 
and more attractive in person because of the knowl- 
edge which it will impart to her. 



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CHAPTER I 

ADMIRATION OF PHYSICAL BEAUTY UNIVERSAL 

" If anything is sacred, the human body is sacred. 

And the glory and sweet of a man is the token of manhood untainted, 

And in man or woman a clean, strong, firm-fibred body 

Is more beautiful than the most beautiful face." 

— Walt Whitman. 

The lines above were written by a man who did 
not hesitate to express his delight in and apprecia- 
tion of the beauty of the human body. This admira- 
tion for physical perfection is one of the strongest 
instincts of humanity. It is common to young and 
old, savage and civilized alike. It is perhaps more 
marked than is our regard for any of the other beau- 
ties of Nature. But it is the only art instinct to 
which we are forbidden to give unhestitating expres- 
sion. This because of the prudes. If you are un- 
conscious that you possess it, it is only because it has 
been repressed by unwise or stupid precept or ex- 
ample. 

As a rule no one who ever does so repress it, has a 
fine physique. Therefore in your early girlhood and 
young womanhood, cultivate a love for physical per- 
fection. It is thought which directs action and our 

actions shape our bodies. 

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12 FEOM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

''But I have been taught that I inherit my physical 
body from my ancestors," perhaps you will say. So 
you do, that is, the first body that you had. But 
don't you know that a few years after birth there is 
not one atom left of that original body? You have 
used it up. Naturally you did not realize that it was 
being used up because the change was so gradual. 
But every day you get through with a part of your 
body and it is thrown away, that is, you breathe it 
away, or you get rid of it through your pores or excre- 
tory organs, so that if you live a long life you will 
have many different bodies. By this you will see that 
you can reaUy inherit a body from yourself so to 
speak. You can decide on what kind of body you 
want, and so use the body you have that you can 
cause the minute cells composing it to produce other 
cells of a different and desirable character which in 
the aggregate, shall form the body you have decided 
that you want. 

It was once held that we acquired complete new 
bodies once every seven years. Scientists now think 
that every atom in the body at a given time is used up 
in much less than seven years from such time. 
Remarkable changes take place in the human system 
in a few weeks and the possibilities of a year or two 
of effort to a desired end are marvelous. 



PHYSICAL BEAUTY ADMIRED 13 

The young girl then, who wants her body to be more 
nearly in accord with her ideals than it now is, 
should cultivate her admiration of physical beauty 
in others, and seek to learn how they obtained it. 
She may feel fairly confident of bringing about the 
same results in her own body by using the same means 
as they did. If she admires graceful movements, she 
may decide that she will teach her body to move 
gracefully. If she likes a beautiful complexion she 
will eat only of that food which insures an unblem- 
ished skin, and so on. 

It must not be forgotten, however, that while it is 
possible for almost anyone to make changes in their 
physique, it is a much easier task for the young to do 
so than for those who are past maturity. Before the 
period of full development, which takes place in a 
woman at about twenty-five years of age in temperate 
climates, there has never been an absolute completion 
of the body. The structure has been in its plastic 
stages, subject to constant change. But once final 
maturity is reached, the cells of the body have ac- 
quired, what may be called a habit of producing cer- 
tain kinds of new cells to replace those eliminated, 
and so it takes much greater effort to attain the 
desired effects after full womanhood than before. 

Some of the most striking illustrations of the possi- 



14 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

bilities of the human body are furnished by the acro- 
bats in a circus. We see in these a charming grace 
of movement, suppleness, delicate yet suggestively 
strong curves of legs and arms, glowing complexions, 
bright eyes, superb carriage — a perfect human 
body. 

Compare this, you little girl who have watched such 
performances with wonder, with the shape and possi- 
bilities of your own body. Are your shoulders 
round? Does your abdomen *^ stick out?" Are 
your eyes dull and complexion muddy? Go to work 
and change it all ! Do as this book bids you and be- 
come as healthful and agile as an acrobat. You can 
make a beauty of yourself, even though you have not 
regular features or a classic form or golden hair. 
Because real beauty is nothing but the comeliness of 
health. It is the one form of beauty which not only 
attracts but holds admiration. 

The story is told of a girl who was what we call 
magnetic. All the young men of her acquaintance 
liked her. The other girls wondered why it was. 
*^I don't understand it at all," said one of them, ^^she 
hasn't good features." 

*^ Hasn't she?" replied a young man. ^^I never 
thought of that, perhaps because her complexion is so 
good." 



PHYSICAL BEAUTY ADMIRED 15 

''Why, she has freckles!'' returned the girl. 

*^ Perhaps so," was the answer, ^^but they come 
from an outdoor life which gives her so much vitality 
and energy and wholesomeness." 

^^Her eyes are not the ideally large eyes that men 
are supposed to admire," continued the girl. 

^^No? Well they are always so sparkling and 
bright that I never knew they weren't large." 

^^And she is really very short and her waist is 
large." 

^^But a short woman who carries herself with the 
air of a queen is decidedly preferable to one of larger 
proportions who does not hold herself well. As 
to her waist, it is normal. It has never been 
squeezed or pinched by a corset, and if girls only 
knew it, a man likes one of that kind much better 
than one of the wasp variety." 

And the girl who had wondered at her friend's 
popularity, wondered no longer. She began to 
understand. 

So you see it is not the conditions which are beyond 
our control which are the most important. But the 
ones which you, my dear girls, can control and deter- 
mine for yourselves. And these it is which will bring 
you womanly charm and beauty. 



CHAPTER II 

CONVENTIONAL TEACHINGS PKUDISH AND DEMORALIZING 

" Prudery is the bane of many people who fear to offend against the 
' delicacy ' that they wish to preserve in their children, forgetting that 
by leaving them in ignorance of certain subjects they subject them 
to the dangers belonging to the very worst descriptions of indelicacy." 
— Dr. A. W. Jacksox. 

The love of physical beauty which has been alluded 
to in the preceding chapter should be encouraged by 
teachers and parents. The chances are that you are 
unfortunate enough to have been subject to the in- 
fluence of prudes, those evil-minded people who teach 
that the human body is something to be ashamed of 
instead of being, as it should be, given reverence and 
admiration. Perhaps your young ears have heard 
shocked exclamations when you referred innocently 
to some part of your person. Perhaps your young 
eyes have seen reproving glances cast towards you 
when your skirt blew up and revealed a little more of 
your leg than custom allows you to show. And the 
natural result has been that you have grown to think 
of your body as something base, even wicked, some- 
thing to which you cannot give the regard and respect 
that you can give to your mind. 

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CONVENTIONAL TEACHINGS 17 

Let us see if there is any sense in this attitude of 
shame in relation to the body. Those who teach you 
these untruths about it usually claim to be, or con- 
sider themselves, God-fearing, sanctified persons. 
They say that God's gifts to mankind are all good. 
And yet that marvelous gift which is an essential to 
the individual, for there could be no individuality 
without it, the gift of one's body, they declare an 
evil thing, an inciter to iniquity, the foundation of all 
sin. 

They admit that God gave a commandment that 
man should be fruitful and multiply, yet they bow 
their heads and repeat day after day, ^^In sin did my 
mother conceive me ! " 

They say that they believe that our bodies are the 
temples of the Holy Ghost. And afterward they 
aver that the temples are not a decent topic for con- 
versation. Pharisees and hypocrites! 

It is bad enough to teach the young any kind of 
untruth, but to teach such foul perversions, such 
blasphemous lies as these about a matter of such im- 
portance as the human body is an occupation fit for 
an imp of Satan. 

Perhaps you have felt some of the effects of this 
false teaching. The young girl who has escaped it 
is rare, not so rare to-day though as she was even ten 



18 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

years or so ago. For the spread of the idea that love 
and admiration of physical beauty is right and that 
'it is even necessary to a good bodily development has 
been rai3id. And there is no doubt but that its 
growth in the future will be infinitely swifter and 
fuiiher reaching than in the past. Like a prairie 
fire it will sweep over and destroy all the rubbish and 
corrupt axioms of former teachings, leaving a clean 
field for the cultivation of purity of thought and 
action in regard to that admirable product of the 
Creator's hands, the human body. 

Did you ever hear a man or woman who was per- 
fect physically and broad mentally talking narrow 
prudery? No! It has been left to those whose 
bodies are defective to disparage the physical side of 
our natures. And the malformed shape of envy will 
often disguise itself in the cloak of religion. 

What such people believe about the body has made 
them poorly nurtured, under-developed weaklings. 
It has been the means of keeping them from any 
great mental achievement. Those who are the most 
vehement in declaring that their ideas are necessary 
to us, are invariably as poor in noble thoughts as 
they are in strength, stature or beauty. They are the 
very last persons that a young girl should take as 
exemplars or look to for ideals. 



CONVENTIONAL TEACHINGS 19 

If you, reader, still in your girlhood, have wanted 
to understand something about your body, and have 
asked for information of your mother only to be told 
that the subject was not fit to be discussed, you must 
remember that she, like yourself, is a victim of the 
prudery to which allusion has been made. Hence 
you must attach no blame to her. Like the good 
mother that she is, she believes that she is doing that 
which is best for her daughter. Mistaken she cer- 
tainly is in trying to keep you in ignorance of the 
things on which you should be duly enlightened, but 
yet not wilfully so. 

So, failing to obtain the information that you seek 
from its proper source, you must turn to books writ- 
ten on the subject. That is, the books which treat it 
in the intelligent, cautious and wholesome spirit 
which its gravity demands and which you have the 
right to expect. Beware of those books which tell 
you too little or acquaint you with too much. I think 
that a book shaped like this one will, through the 
medium of the knowledge which you can acquire with 
its aid, make you a purer, sweeter, nobler, healthier 
young woman than you could ever hope to have been 
had it not come into your hands. Don't look upon 
its contents as knowledge that you are to be ashamed 
of or as knowledge that will do you hurt or harm. On 



20 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

the contrary, it can only elevate and benefit you intel- 
lectually and physically. 

Have any of your teachers ever told you that the 
mysteries of the mind were not to be discussed*? Or 
that it, the mind, was not to be developed to the extent 
of its capacity, or that it was not to be put to the uses 
of which it was capable ? Has any one ever told you 
that the soul was not wholly good ? Or that you had 
better not know anything about it and the part it 
plays in the scheme of your being? That it was 
something to be ignored, tabooed and looked upon 
with suspicion amounting to dislike? 

iWhy no, of course not ! Then pay no more atten- 
tion to the individual who tries to pervert your grow- 
ing mind with ideas that your physical body is a thing 
of so little account and so innately evil that the only 
way to treat it is to either ignore or avoid it. Did 
you ever stop to think that it would be a mighty queer 
arrangement if Nature or God or whatever you 
choose to call the force which we understand to have 
created and maintained the Universe, had so ordered 
it that only two of the three parts of a human being 
were to receive attention? If, say, only our mental 
and spiritual natures could be talked of and studied 
and developed ? You would rightfully and adversely 
comment on such a lop-sided situation. 



CONVENTIONAL TEACHINGS 21 

.What would you think of an inventor who made a 
delicate machine in three parts, and then told the peo- 
ple who bought these machines that only two parts 
were of much account, and that the machine really 
worked better when the third part was out of order ? 
Also that it would be well for you not to examine or 
know much about that third part ? Yet that is what 
prudes preach. That is the conventional idea of 
propriety. From babyhood we are told and retold 
that this wonderful body of ours, if it be perfect, is a 
hindrance to soul development. That we must 
ignore it, and be ashamed of it and hide it, and that 
in some senses we would be all the better without it. 
If you have had no teaching in school about some of 
the most important things in life alluded to, prob- 
ably you have learned to use your brain somewhat, 
and if you are a logical little woman you will know 
that such reasoning is nonsense. And you will con- 
clude that the body, which is so necessary a part of 
us, had better be understood as thoroughly as possi- 
ble. And that the mind and the soul will be better in 
every way for our knowledge of our body. Isn't the 
body supposed to be the instrument of the mind and 
soul? And what workman was ever so foolish as to 
say that he didn't want good instruments? "What 
workman was ever so imwise as to refuse to look at 



22 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

and -imderstand the instruments he used ! Yet that is 
practically what we are bidden to do by those who 
look to us to make a success of the business of life ! 



CHAPTER III 

THE TEACHINGS OF THE ANCIENT GEEEKS — KIND OF 
MEN AND WOMEN PUEITY PRODUCES 

" Hold sex in thought as sacred, holy, consecrated to the highest of 
all functions, that of procreation. Recognize that, conserved and 
controlled, it becomes a source of energy to the individual." 

— Dr. Mary Wood- Allen. 

Never in the history of civilizations has there been 
a better example of what purity of thought and per- 
sistent purpose can do in the production of physically 
and intellectually gifted human beings than that fur- 
nished us by ancient Greece. The bygone Grecians 
had none of that fictitious morality which prompts us 
to regard beauty as a snare to entrap us morally and 
enslave us sensually. But instead, they looked upon 
beauty as divinity expressed in flesh and blood. 

But the Spartans did more than worship the beau- 
tiful. They sought, and successfully, to weld it to 
power and strength. And so they gave their youth 
such an education as secured them bodily and mental 
perfections. The schooling of the boys and girls 
consisted largely in listening to the conversations of 
their elders, in listening to and practicing the music 
of the bards, in exercise at the public dancing places. 
There was no undue strain on their minds, no forcing 

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24 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

into miniature brains wisdom fitted only for matm^e 
mentalities. Every boy learned how to plant, sow 
and harvest the crops, every girl was taught house- 
hold work. Their work was done principally in the 
open air, and under the light of the sun, and not over 
stoves and in heated apartments. They washed their 
clothing by the river side in trenches made for that 
purpose. Washing day was a gala day ; not, as too 
often now, a day of trial and temper losing. With- 
out over exertion, the young Spartans had sufficient 
active emjoloyment of both the mind and the body. 
They were never permitted to let their time hang 
heavily on their hands. Their elders knew that idle- 
ness breeds vices. 

Such a life produced the highest degree of health, 
and out of such health buds and blossoms a sweet- 
ness of temper which has a due effect upon the per- 
sonality of its possessor. How could there fail, then, 
to be a race of strong and beautiful people in Sparta "? 
The whole region of which Sparta was the center was 
especially famous for its lovely maids and matrons. 
With them there could be no beauty unless it was 
founded on perfect health, and such beauty continues 
long. Helen, celebrated as one of the most 
beautiful Avomen of history, was as handsome at fifty 
as at twenty. And she was but one illustration of 



TEACHINGS OF THE GREEKS 25 

the almost universal rule with the women of the land. 
Ideal physically and admirable intellectually, a race 
of such mothers could not fail but to give birth to 
noble offspring. 

But the Spartan women were above all things free 
women. They were not hampered by prudery or 
constrained by conventionality. It may be thought 
the perfect freedom of girls to go where and live as 
they pleased or their unchecked mingling with the 
boys in the gymnasiums, where only the slightest 
clothing was the rule, would favor looseness of 
morals, and perhaps prompt to licentiousness. But 
history teaches us that in the halcyon days of Sparta 
such things as seduction and adultery were practic- 
ally unknown. At all events these crimes in point of 
frequency were as nothing as compared with their oc- 
currence in those communities where the sexes were 
separated in education, and an almost impossible 
barrier erected between them in social life. 

After a thorough understanding a.nd appreciation 
of the relations between boys and girls, young women 
and men in Sparta, who can say but that a change in 
our own conventional methods would not fail to pro- 
duce a race far better than that that is now in evi- 
dence ? 



CHAPTER IV 

FALSE IDEAS OF MODESTY 

'' True modesty is a sentiment ^liich springs not from indiffer- 
ence or aversion to the sexnal offices, but from a delicate and 
reverent appreciation of their value and sacredness." 

— lilMAXUEL ZuGASSEJsrr. 

Every gM wants to be modest. It is a moral qual- 
ity wliicli she looks upon with reverence. She has been 
taught that it is an attribute of the womanly woman. 
And in so far as modesty signifies purity in thought, 
word and deed, she is right in her endeavor to be 
modest. Yet a difficulty arises here. Some girls let 
others decide for them what this purity is. They do 
not ask the question of their own hearts and minds, 
but put the query to and accept the answer of others. 
But you say, doesn't purity mean the same to every 
one ? No, it does not, because no two human beings 
are exactly alike in their modes of thought, and until 
you look to your ownself for a definition of purity 
you will never get one that will be alike satisfactory 
and faithful to you. 

Purity in thought, word and deed! Doesn't that 
mean that you are to look at natural things in a 
natural light? Doesn't it suggest that you talk 

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FALSE IDEAS OP MODESTY 27 

about them and think about them correctly and ra- 
tionally ? There are some girls who blush and look 
indignant if they see a mother nursing a baby. 
There are some who avert their glances rather than 
look at a pregnant woman. There are some who be- 
come angry if the conversation turns upon the sub- 
ject of the creation of human beings. And all this 
because they have been immodestly taught that these 
things are not modest. Not because that in their own 
hearts and minds they find them so, quite the con- 
trary. The divine instinct of maternity can not 
be crushed by prudish dictums. And so, if you 
question any normal young woman you will find that 
she hopes that some time she will have a baby of her 
own and nurse it and experience the many marvelous 
joys of motherhood. Why, then, should she object 
to seeing a mother give the breast to her child? She 
does not feel ashamed at seeing a child drink milk 
from a bottle. Yet the first is a natural and the last 
a more or less unnatural act. The reply is easy, she 
is reflecting the unnatural conditions that hedge the 
education of our girls of to-day. 

There is nothing more beautiful in the world than 
motherhood. Poets have sung it and artists have 
pictured it. Motherhood, that is the crown of 
womanhood, the pure, holy state that was consecrated 



28 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

by the Virgin Mother. Why, then, may I ask, do you 
object to seeing a woman who is on the eve of becom- 
ing a mother'? When you study botany do you hesi- 
tate to examine with interest the seed pod of a rose ? 
Why then blush at pregnancy? You won't do it in 
the future, will you ? Never again think that there 
is something about a pregnant woman to deprecate, 
for in truth she should be accorded respect, nay, 
honor. Prof. E. L. Larkin meant this when he said, 
writing of the respect that should be offered the pros- 
pective mother, '^ The gra^dd human uterus ought to 
be a precious object in the eyes of the people. Greater 
love, affection and honor, greater adoration, courtesy 
and esteem from everybody, ought to be given to the 
prospective mother." 

As to the subject of creation. Isn't it queer that 
we may talk as we will of the making of pies, hats, 
keuses, machinery ; we may tell all we know in regard 
to the production of steam, electricity and light ; we 
may speak of the way that microbes, germs and bacilli 
multiply, but we are taught that to allude to the man- 
ner in which a human being is created is innnodest to 
a degree! Is it not true, however, that the immod- 
esty consists in thinking the subject unclean? 

Do you know that before the day of the bicycle it 
was considered inmiodest for a woman to show her 



FALSE IDEAS OF MODESTY 29 

ankles. And that on a windy day it was difficult for 
a girl, if on the street, to hold her skirts down suffi- 
ciently to protect herself from being considered inde- 
corous ? 

You are free from the shacldes of this particular 
bit of prudery to-day because it was discovered that 
it was impossible for a woman to wear long, clinging 
skirts while riding a wheel. And so the short skirt 
obtained its vogue, and now on a rainy or a windy 
day a girl may expose her ankles without jeopardiz- 
ing her character or feeling her cheeks flush with 
shame. Custom admits of the anlde being shown, 
and no longer are there frantic clutches at skirts 
when breezes blow. 

No one is especially interested in the mere fact that 
the ankles are going to be on exhibition now and then. 
Hundreds of ankles can be seen whether the wind 
blows or not. It is only a question of individual 
taste as to how short the skirt shall be at any time 
now. Prudery has bowed to common sense, as it 
always must do in the long run. 

Do you know that it was formerly considered im- 
modest for a girl to take active exercise? The asi- 
nine prudes declared that it was just too dreadful for 
you to use your God-given muscles. Common sense 
again took up the cudgels in your behalf, and with the 



30 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

usual result. To-day there is hardly a private school 
for girls without its gynrnasium, and certainly not a 
college which is not so equipped. 

Are you aware of the fact that ten or fifteen years 
ago college girls would only allow members of their 
own sex to be present at their athletic exhibitions'? 
They then were acting under the prudish impression 
that it was highly improper to permit men to see 
them in their gymnasium costumes. But since bas- 
ketball has become so generally popular, the girls 
have lost their silly squeamishness, and now they wel- 
come the attendance of their brothers and fathers 
and friends' brothers and fathers at one of the con- 
tests. Common sense has removed the taboo from 
the bloomer. 

Not so long since, and at a female medical institu- 
tion which is under the auspices of one of the largest 
religious organizations of women in the United 
States, an informal lecture was given by a mission- 
ary who had just returned from Utah. She, the mis- 
sionary, a widow with one daughter, was on her way 
to Washington to use her influence in unseating Reed 
Smoot, the Mormon whose presence in the Senate is 
objectionable to many. Her topic was Mormons and 
their ways, and her audience, embryonic women doc- 
tors and a few of the faculty of the institution. In 



FALSE IDEAS OP MODESTY 31 

talking of life in Utali, slie said, ^'Why, tliey speak 
most freely of certain things, even to children. The 
youngest child who goes to school is perfectly famil- 
iar with sexual facts which we think quite wrong for 
a child to know anything about. Matters regarding 
which we never speak (it is a fact that here the 
woman blushed) and seldom, if ever, think of," and 
her voice was lowered to a whisper, ^Hhey talk about 
quite openly!" 

There was a sympathetic murmur of horror among 
the girl doctors at the idea that Mormons were so 
degraded that they did not think that sex matters 
were so essentially unclean as to be unfit for thought 
or speech. 

But one girl's eyes blazed indignation at this view 
of the case, and after the lecture, when some of the 
others asked her if she had liked it, she replied : 

*^ Frankly, I didn't like it at all. In the first place 
I think that any woman who regards sex in the same 
light as she did is perverted. And then again a 
women who asserts that she or we never speak of or 
think about sexual matters, tells a deliberate un- 
truth. We all hope some day to be married, and' 
each and all of us have thought a great deal about the 
physical relation which begins with marriage, and I 
for one don't hesitate to say so!" 



32 FEOM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

Don't you think tliat the indignant girl was really 
more modest and pnre minded than those who appar- 
ently agreed with the lecturer *? 

It will be seen, then, that much of the conventional 
modesty is a will-o-the-wisp. Every giii will find in 
her own imier consciousness certain promptings 
which, if followed implicitly, will teach her true mod- 
esty, which is that purity of thought, word and deed 
which ^ ' hath knowledge yet is not ashamed. ' ' 

Such a girl will blush where sex is referred to as 
an unholy subject, but not at the subject of sex itself. 
She will blush at the thought of degrading any part 
of the human body, but not at any normal function of 
the same. She will never be afraid to aid in public 
the mother with a child at her breast, nor will she be 
ashamed to extend to any pregnant woman, be she 
stranger or friend, the little attentions that are due 
to her. All hail, then, to the modesty of the truly 
modest girl. 



CHAPTER V 

THE MARVELS OF THE MYSTERIOUS INSTINCT OF SEX 

" Sex contains all, bodies, souls, 

Meanings, proofs, purities, delicacies, results, promulgations. 

Songs, commands, health, pride, the maternal mysteries, the seminal 

milk, 
All hopes, benefactions, bestowals, all the passions, loves, beauties, 

delights of the earth. 
All the governments, judges, gods, followed persons of the earth, 
These are contained in sex as parts of itself, and justifications of 

itself." — Walt Whitman. 

The sex instinct dominates all life. It is developed 
very early. It began to manifest itself when, as a lit- 
tle girl, you f omid it more pleasant to play with boys 
than with children of your own sex. It has contin- 
ued to develop with your growth unobtrusively, teach- 
ing you to be gentle and generous, sympathetic and 
sweet-tempered, beautiful of mind, soul and body, 
because these qualities will make you more attractive 
to the boys and young men of your acquaintance. 
You will see, then, that it has been an important 
factor in shaping you mentally and physically. 

All progress in art or science is the outcome of this 
wonderful influence of sex. It is much stronger in 
some people than in others, and the most perfectly 
sexed have done and still do the best work in the 
world. For the sex instinct does not expend itself 

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34 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

entirely on the propagation of human beings. It 
enters into and has an effect on every department of 
life. The poet and the philosopher, the merchant 
and the soldier, the student or the man of action are 
subject to its power as well as the lover and maiden, 
the husband or matron. 

Before the time when it is wisest and best, or even 
possible for a girl to become a mother, she may culti- 
vate this instinct and direct its growth. It will in 
this way be a source of the greatest good to her in the 
manner that has been indicated, namely, by prompt- 
ing her association with the manly, the good and the 
true of the opposite sex. 

But if a girl has been taught that the instinct 
is to be repressed until she is married, if she does not 
understand that it must grow and coincidently de- 
velop with her growth and development, she will 
never be strongly sexed, or in other words she will 
never be a perfect woman. 

Sex instinct is the incentive to creative acts of all 
kinds. The instinct makes a girl long to make 
something, to produce something, a dolPs dress, an 
essay, a picture — it matters not what. She is best 
able to do some one of these things if she has the en- 
couragement and co-operation of brothers, father and 
friends of the opposite sex. 



MARVELS OF SEX INSTINCT 35 

In after life, when a woman is married, she finds 
that there are certain times in the month when she 
feels most keenly the desire to create physically. In 
the case of girls who have reached puberty there is a 
period of a few days in the month — it will be found 
to be just after or just before menstruation — when 
she is better able to accomplish any task that she has 
imdertaken than at any other time. She can study 
better, she can work better. Girls and young women 
often wonder why they are on occasions seized with 
a desire to do certain work that they have long had in 
mind but have lacked the determination to commence. 
It is the creative principle within them that is mov- 
ing them. And when the impulse so prompts it 
should be implicitly obeyed. At such seasons, too, 
girls will feel impelled to follow the vocation for 
which they are most fitted if they are called upon to 
earn their own livelihoods. It is well to remember 
and take advantage of this fact. 

There was once a young woman teacher, a college 
graduate. She had been brought up to scorn house- 
work, was engaged to be married, but used to declare 
that no one would find her wasting her days in menial 
tasks. These ideas were instilled into her from 
childhood up, and she supposed that she had imbibed 
them thoroughly. But once every month, when her 



36 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

creative instinct was most acute, she threw aside the 
artificial barriers that had been placed about her real 
nature and cleaned house thoroughly and enthusias- 
tically. With her face flushed and her eyes bright 
with happiness, her sleeves rolled up and her curly 
hair tucked imder a cap, she seemed to be in her ele- 
ment, as indeed she really was. 

When she married she began to keep house, and al- 
though she could have and always did have servants, 
she took the keenest delight in doing the more im- 
portant work of the home herself. She was born 
with a talent for housekeeping just as truly as some 
girls are born with talents that fit them to be artists, 
teachers, di^essmakers, writers or nurses. Your spe- 
cial talent will become apparent to you when your 
sexual instinct, being at its keenest, illuminates your 
mental vision, so to speak. Watch out for its 
promptings. 

Your sex instinct will also show itself in a desire 
for association with the opposite sex. You will read- 
ily extend attention, sympathy, girlish counsel to 
your young men friends. It should be your natural 
inclination to so do, and by f ollomng it you wiU fos- 
ter your budding womanhood. It will make you 
smile more sweetly, laugh more musically and heart- 
ily, and assist you in being more truly yourself. 



MARVELS OF SEX INSTINCT 37 

It isn't natural for a girl to be too serious and 
sober-faced and unhappy. If she is so, it is prob- 
ably because her sex instinct is being crushed. This 
happens when a girl is deprived of all society of the 
opposite sex. No matter how freely she is encour- 
aged to play with other girls, no matter how much 
fresh air and sunshine she may enjoy, no matter what 
is done to make her well and healthy, unless she have 
those companionships of pure minded boys and 
young men, that Nature has taught her to desire, she 
will hardly become the bright-eyed, rosy-cheeked lit- 
tle woman that she otherwise would have been. 

There is something, we will call it magnetism for 
want of a better name, which vivifies and enlivens all 
a girPs faculties and powers, mental as well as phys- 
ical, which is brought into existence by association 
with the opposite sex in games and studies and work. 
If such association is encouraged, the young women 
who enjoy it will, when they marry and have children, 
find that the latter will be blessed with vitality, and 
intellectual and bodily powers. So you see, girls and 
young women, it is not for yourselves alone that you 
ought to understand the marvels and follow the 
promptings of your sex, but because you are likely 
to be called upon to bear children who will reflect the 
dominant characteristics of their mother. 



38 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

Let me again say that others have no right to keep 
you in ignorance of sexual truths which it is proper 
for you to know. Also that it is your duty to obtain 
from every legitimate source undefiled knowledge of 
those organs and functions of yours that, even in 
your unmarried state, play such an important part in 
your life and around which, when you have a husband 
and a home, will center so many duties and responsi- 
bilities, hopes and fears, joys or unhappiness. For- 
tunate are you indeed if you have a mother who, un- 
tainted with prudishness, gives you that warning and 
counsel that a young girl so greatly needs and de- 
sires. 

Edward Carpenter says in '^Love's Coming of 
Age": 

^^Will the man or woman, or race of men and 
women never come to whom love, in its various mani- 
festations, shall be from the beginning a perfect 
whole, pure and natural, free and standing sanely on 
its feet ? A few such men and women have appeared, 
and besides teaching to those whom they could reach 
personally the beautiful relation of sex to love itself, 
they have taken delight in spreading that knowledge 
to help the unfortunate ones who could not get it ex- 
cept from books." 

And so, whether you have had this teax^hing from 



MARVELS OF SEX INSTINCT 39 

your parents or not, you need not be ignorant of facts 
in regard to sex life, for they are fuUy discussed in 
books by noble minded men and women whose mo- 
tives are above suspicion. 



CHAPTER VI 

ACUTENESS OF THE SEX INSTINCT — LIFE's GREATEST 
GUIDE AND PROTECTOE 

" As true Freedom cannot be without love, so true love cannot be 
without freedom. You cannot truly give yourself to another, unless 
you are master or mistress of yourself to begin with." 

It is singular that anyone should doubt the signifi- 
cance of one's own feelings, isn't it^ Yet it some- 
times so happens. But only when one is confused 
by the advice of others as to what one should do or 
feel, such advice being not infrequently contrary to 
the promptings of our conscience or reason. 

We have had commands laid upon us that are not 
hidden in mystic phraseology nor are they whis- 
pered to us in uncertain voices. They are fairly 
thundered at us by the masterful instmcts of our 
bodies. Yet we of ttimes try to stifle them, more often 
ignore them, and instead, question fashion or conven- 
tionality, or society as to what we ought to do. Then 
comes the mental confusion alluded to. Just as a 
delicate, though powerful piece of mechanism, gets 
out of order by neglect, so our natural feelings or in- 
stincts, if long disused, become less and less acute, 

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SEX INSTINCT PROTECTS 41 

until we are uncertain if we have any left us, so atro- 
phied are they. 

^^ What's the good of following your instincts any- 
way, if they do not agree with conventionality 1 ' ' asks 
a girl. That is a fair question. The reply is that be- 
cause in the one case you are cultivating yoiu" true 
self, which will result in your happiness, and in the 
other instance you are making of yourself a Idnd of 
imitation girl, who can never experience the pro- 
found joys that come from the individuality born of 
the exercise of one's instincts. 

If you asked your instincts to guide you, what kind 
of boys and young men do you think you would like 
best! What kind of clothes would you wear? 
What flowers or perfumes would you prefer? 
Whom would be your favorite authors? What 
amusements would you favor? No one can answer 
these questions for you but yourself. The replies 
must come from you and you only, and you will be 
fully satisfied with them. Why then, if you are con- 
tent with your own judgment in regard to these com- 
paratively trivial matters, are you not willing to ac- 
cept its decision about those more important prob- 
lems that spring from your sex ? Why must you ask 
others to pass on these last instead of listening to the 
dictates of your instincts regarding them? 



42 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WO]VIANHOOD 

The sex instinct, if strictly obeyed, will never let 
you be a i3uppet in the hands of some one 
else. It will make yon sm^e as to whose society you 
like best, and will keep you from seeking the society 
of people who are not congenial or of benefit to you. 
Instinct may not always make for the greatest good 
to the individual perhaps, but it does insm-e the 
gi'eatest good to the human race in general. Nature 
is not striving to make you alone hapi3y. She is 
doing that which will result in the largest sum of ulti- 
mate happiness for humanity. 

The ^^ survival of the fittest'' is at first glance an 
iron law. It may seem cruel to you that only those 
shall survive who are best able to. As a matter of 
fact it is a most merciful provision of Nature, for 
were it not for its eliminating influences, the world 
would soon be peopled by swarms of weak, sickly in- 
capables. Don't you see, too, that the law makes you 
work out your own salvation and so assists in the sal- 
vation of your kind ? It depends in a large measure 
on yourself, as to whether you are to be one of the 
'^fittest." You are to follow your feelings, true, but 
if you find that they have been perverted by an evil 
heredity or improper current conditions of living do 
not obey their behests, but pause and reflect on 
whither they are leading you. Your natural un- 



SEX INSTINCT PROTECTS 43 

sullied instincts will never betray you. If you feel 
that you are being tempted to do that which it is not 
well for you to do, it is your instinct that is warning 
you that you are being swayed by questionable emo- 
tion and not by natural feeling. Heed the danger 
signal and the guidance of your instinct will reassert 
itself. 

Girls are often led into engagements while yet in 
their early teens because they believe that which they 
hear people say in regard to the advisability of 
youthful marriages. Now, never let other people's 
ideas influence you about marriage. If you are only 
sixteen or so, you are hardly qualified to judge as to 
whether you ought to become engaged or not, or 
marry or not. But even then, nothing in the world 
on the part of others should bias you. If you are 
compelled to make a decision, however, consult your 
inward monitor. 

Your instinct of sex if faithfully followed will di- 
rect you to mate with someone who is in harmony 
with you physically, mentally and spiritually. But 
as a girl's body develops faster than does her mind, 
it often happens that the first boy that she imagines 
herself to be in love with is her mate physically. She 
finds delight in his society, and wants to be much 
with him. If she has prudish and unwise parents 



44 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

and friends, they will begin to ask, ^'Are you en- 
gaged? Do you intend to be*? Do you expect to 
marry him when you are older?" And the poor, be- 
wildered little girl will begin to wonder if that is what 
it all amounts to — this strange pleasant content 
which she feels when with her boy friend. Does it 
mean that she is in love ? Left to herself she would 
not have come to such a conclusion perhaps. But the 
prudes who cannot bear to see two young people 
happy in each other's presence without imagining 
evil or suggesting marriage, have put the idea into 
her head that matrimony is the logical and indeed the 
^^ proper" outcome of her acquaintance with the lad. 
And so, lacking in experience and with but half 
fledged emotions, she has no way of understanding 
that a merely physical attraction is many degrees re- 
moved from actual love. But, incited thereto by the 
prudes, she may become a party to a premature en- 
gagement. When her instincts are fully awakened, 
she will find that love has nothing in common with 
the purely physical feeling. If she is married when 
she makes this discovery her lot is lamentable. The 
records of the divorce courts are records of self 
knowledge that came all too late. 

Understand that the being true to your instincts 
doesn't necessarily mean that you are to be entirely 



SEX INSTINCT PEOTECTS 45 

guided by any one of them without giving due con- 
sideration to the others. For if you are biased in 
favor of one you may be led into a position where you 
cannot give proper scope to the others. Ask any 
woman who has married happily at say, twenty-five 
years of age if she would have married the same man 
when she was sixteen or seventeen. The chances are 
that she was attracted in her girlhood by someone 
whom she would not find even interesting in those 
later years when self knowledge and feminine in- 
stinct go hand in hand. 

**It is important," says Edward Carpenter, — '^and 
especially perhaps as things stand now for girls — 
that each youth or girl should personally see enough 
of the other sex at an early period, to be able to form 
some kind of judgment of his or her relation to that 
sex, and sex matters generally. It is monstrous that 
the first experience of sex glamour — the nature of 
which would be understood by a little experience — 
should, perhaps, decide the destinies of two people 
for a life time. Yet the more the sexes are kept apart, 
the more overwhelming does this glamour become, 
and the more ignorance is there on either side as to its 
meaning. There is no doubt that one of the advan- 
tages of co-education of the sexes is that it tends to di- 
minish this evil. Co-education, games and sports 



46 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

wMcli are to some extent iii coimnon, and the doing 
away with the absurd idea that because Corydon and 
Phyllis happen to kiss each other sitting on a gate, 
they must therefore live together all their lives, 
would soon mend matters considerably. ' ' 

Your instincts will guide you and protect you, if 
you only give them a chance to fully develop before 
you entangle yourself in either an engagement or 
marriage. Precocity in regard to the relations of 
the sexes is one of the most fruitful causes of per- 
sonal unhappiness and national decadence. 



CHAPTER VII 

HOW THE POWER AND ACFTENESS OF THE SEX INSTINCT 
CAN BE DEVELOPED 

" The powerfully sexed woman has possession of powerful magnetic 
qualities, keen intuition, attractive force, and beauty, for all of these 
spring from the first common origin — well defined sex." 

— Edward Carpenter. 

^^She is a perfectly sexed woman." There are no 
words in the English language which can suggest 
more definitely the picture of a woman who has a 
superb yet exquisite physique, a broad receptive mind 
and a sweet and sympathetic soul. 

For the sex instinct is not alone related to things 
physical as has been noted before. Indeed, that 
woman is poorly sexed, who has no evidence of it ex- 
cept in her body. If she has not cultivated it in 
other respects, she is not attractive to many men, any 
more than is that otherwise admirable woman who, 
while training the intellectual side of her nature, has 
neglected to let her physical person express a perfect 
sexuality. 

When a girl wishes a good muscular system what 
steps does she take to secure it? She brings her 
body into as perfect a physical condition as she can, 
by means of proper diet and exercise. Her strength 

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48 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

gradually increases. To-day she may be able to lift 
only ten pounds, next week it may be twenty, and the 
week after, thirty. At any rate her muscularity is 
increased in proportion to her general health and the 
use that she makes of her initial strength. 

For the perfecting of the sex instinct then, you 
must &st see to it that your health is good. Next 
exercise your mind in thinking wholesome, elevating 
thoughts. Anyone who is interested in the question 
of sex will understand the close relations between its 
physical, mental and spiritual aspects. For one 
must be in general, mental and spiritual health to 
perfect one's latent sexual powers and influence. 

There is no girl living who has not some sex in- 
stinct, however weak. This instinct she nmst culti- 
vate and exercise. Its growth may show itself at 
first in a desire to be a little more than usually af- 
fectionate to her father. It may make her want to 
be more helpful to her brother. It may make her 
wish to put a pink rose in her hair so that she may be 
more attractive in the eyes of a young man friend. 
Whatever sex instinct you have, use, for you cannot 
acquire more until that which you have has been 
cultivated. Nature does not give added power of 
any kind to one who refuses to put into action that 
which he or she already possesses. If you are not 



DEVELOPING SEX INSTINCT: 49 

strongly sexed, you can just as readily develop a 
beautiful, strong sexuality by appropriate means as 
you can cause your biceps to enlarge by proper exer- 
cise. 

Don't be discouraged if there are at first, few and 
cold responses to the little thoughtful acts which your 
sex instinct prompts. Remember that the love which 
is the-fe«it of sex instinct, does not grow by what it 
gets, but by what it gives to others. Although the 
return is not the important part of the matter it is 
always sure to come in time. Keep on doing the 
little things you feel impelled to do, in a quiet, un- 
obtrusive, loving way, and they will bear a rich 
harvest in kind in due season. 

A young girl who had been kept from all associa- 
tion with boys outside the family by prudish parents, 
who thought that sex knowledge and sex feeling 
ought to be repressed, lavished all the ardor of her 
nature upon a brother a year older than she. This 
kept her sexuality alive and thriving, and when she 
finally escaped from her narrow home influences, she 
was physically blooming and full of vitality. Had 
she had no brother, it is impossible to say how far- 
reaching and disastrous would have been the effect 
of her sex starvation. 

The separate education of boys and girls is greatly 



50 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

to be deplored. The modern tendency to so train our 
girls that they think about the artificial rather than 
the real things of life is also most inimical to the in- 
stinct of sex. 

Prof. Fowler says, ^^This hot house system must be 
remodeled. Let those who can trace out effects from 
their causes, think to what we are drifting; and let 
mammas remember that good food with plenty of ex- 
ercise, less art with more nature, less toilet artificiali- 
ties with more robustness, less study with more play, 
less paint with more oxygen, and less f ashionableness 
with more womanliness, will render them incompar- 
ably more fascinating and every way better than 
they now are." 

Too close application to study is one of the worst 
enemies of perfect sexuality. It cannot be too 
strongly impressed upon the growing girl and the 
young woman looking for college honors that there 
is something vastly more important in life than the 
mere amassing of knowledge. One may have learn- 
ing in abundance, but if one does not know how to 
apply it practically, it is worse than useless. You 
had far better learn a little which will be of value to 
you than learn much for which you can find no use. 

The young woman who goes through high school 
and college, straining every nerve to attain honors. 



DEVELOPING SEX INSTINCT, 51 



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usually ends by losing her health. She had honestly 
believed that she was going to make a better woman 
of herself in some way by doing that which she did. 
And she failed utterly, physically and mentally. She 
can be neither a good wife or a good mother. She 
has lost that charm which comes alone from health, 
and without which she can never be united in truth 
or spirit to any man. She has sacrificed her most 
precious gift, her sexuality, to her pedantic ambitions. 
The girl who lets herself be governed by jealousy, 
selfishness, envy and malice is another one who is 
imperiling her sex instinct. For it is only the good 
emotions which express it, and the more they are 
exercised and the more the bad ones are suppressed, 
the more fully will one develop into that ** queen of 
the rose-bud garden of girls," — a superbly sexed 
young woman. 



CHAPTER VIII 

ILLIJSTEATED AXATOMY OF THE OEGAXS OF SEX — THEIR 

rSES AXD FUXCTIOXS — SOME THIXGS A GIRL 

SHOULD KXOW 

" But however things may change with the further evolution of 
man, there is no doubt that, first of all, the sex relation must be 
divested of the sentiment of uncleanness which surrounds it, and 
rehabilitated again with a sense almost of religious consecration; 
and this means as I have said, a free people, proud in the mastery 
and divinity of their own lives, and in the beauty and openness of 
their own bodies." 

That a girl may understand liow to care for her- 
self she must know something of the construction of 
her body. "While it is true that she may learn at 
school somewhat of the anatomy and physiology of 
her spleen and lungs, stomach and liver, she will be 
taught nothing regarding those organs whose perfect 
condition is of such prime importance to the health 
and happiness of every woman. The allusion is to 
the organs of generation. That they are so com- 
pletely ignored is due to the influence of the prudes 
who believe that knowledge is not power, but a thing 
of evil. Common sense and faith in Nature will con- 
vince any pure minded young woman that there is no 
reason in the world why she should not as freely un- 
derstand the functions of one paii: of her body as 

those of another. 

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THINGS A GIRL SHOULD KNOW 53 

The external organs of generation in the female 
are the mount of Venus, the labia majora, the labia 
minora, the clitoris, and the opening of the vagina. 

The mount of Venus is an oval eminence, covered 
at puberty with hair. The labia majora are two 
large lips, which extend downward from the mount 
of Venus. They inclose the labia minora or small 
lips which are two small folds of mucous membrane 
extending from the clitoris down the sides of the 
opening of the vagina. 

The clitoris is a sm.all and highly sensitive body 
partially hidden by the labia minora. There is not 
infrequently a small fold of membrane over the end 
of the clitoris which should not be there. Secretions 
may collect about it and cause nervous irritation, es- 
pecially in the case of young girls. This is a condi- 
tion very easily remedied by a slight surgical opera- 
tion, and if there be any irritation thereafter a per- 
fect cleansing of the parts which are visible will 
bring alleviation. 

The hymen is a thin, half -moon shaped fold of 
mucous membrane stretched across the lower part of 
the vaginal opening, or sometimes almost entirely 
covering it. The membrane is occasionally absent 
from birth however, or it may have been broken by 
the strain of childish exercise, such as running, jump- 



54 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

ing, and the like. Among the ancients and indeed 
many moderns, the presence of the hymen was looked 
upon as a sign of virtue, and on this account it was 
named after the god of marriage. But it is now def- 




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Outline Drawing of Female Organs, 



initely known to be more often absent than evident 
in virgins, and it is sometimes present in women who 
have had sexual intercourse. 

The vagina is a membranous canal about five inches 



THINGS A GIRL SHOULD KNOW 55 

long, extending from outside the body up to the 
uterus. It is lined with mucous membrane which 
lies in folds and is flattened from before backwards. 

Extending down into the upper end of the vagina 
is the uterus or womb. In the virgin it is pear shaped, 
about three inches in length and is situated in the 
pelvis between the rectum and bladder. The large 
portion of the organ is directed upward and forward. 
The small end extends into the vagina, downward and 
somewhat backward. It is supplied with a great 
number of arteries, veins and nerves. It has no at- 
tachment to bones, but is held in place by ligaments — 
bands of strong connective tissue. This is because its 
position has to change very materially when the 
uterus is performing the work for which it is in- 
tended, namely, the bearing and nourishment of an 
unborn human being. 

On each side of the uterus is a small body called 
the ovary, which is connected to the uterus by two 
long narrow ducts known as the Fallopian tubes or 
oviducts. The human ovary, or egg, is developed in 
the ovary. 

The human being is produced from an egg just as 
much as is a bird, the difference being that in the 
case of the latter the egg is expelled from the mother's 
body soon after it ripens, and its further development 



56 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

takes place in the nest. In the case of the hnman be- 
ing an ovum or egg is ripened once every month in 
the ovary, then passes into the Fallopian tubes and 
is carried to the uterus. Just how long it takes for 
an ovum to complete its journey through the tubes 
has not been definitely ascertained. In some animals 
it is known to take from three to five days. 

The uterus after receiving the ovum passes it on, 
if imimpregnated to the vagina. If, however, the 
egg is fertilized by contact with the male element or 
spermatozoa, which are active forms present in the 
fluid called semen that passes from a man to a woman 
during intercourse, it begins to grow into a baby and 
is not expelled from the uterus until it is a fully de- 
veloped child. The uterus is a very muscular organ, 
as its work of sending the little one into the world 
makes strong contractile powers very necessary. 

The young girl who does not take enough active 
exercise to keep the organs in her pelvis in a healthy 
condition is laying the foundation for a miserable 
motherhood. There is no pain known that can com- 
pare with that which weak women suffer at child- 
birth. And if the desire for motherhood were not so 
strongly implanted in a woman's nature, the untold 
agony which many mothers suffer would make them 
unwilling to ever give birth to more than one child. 



THINGS A GIRL SHOULD KNOW 57 

The corset is also a deplorable cause of this sad con- 
dition among girls who attempt to assume the duty of 
motherhood, and for this reason every normal girl 
should abhor its use. All of the important organs 
necessary in child-bearing have decayed or else be- 
come flabby and weakened in a woman who has worn 
a corset, and the consequences are that child-bearing, 
instead of being as easy as the ever unfolding flower 
laying bare its seeds to the wind, causes excruciat- 
ing pain and suffering. Let me warn my girl readers 
to beware of the corset as they would beware of a 
venomous serpent. 

Much of the pain of child-bearing is unnecessary 
if due attention be given to health during girlhood. 
Besides keeping your muscular system in good order 
by exercise and your blood pure by simple food, re- 
member, girls, that a perfectly poised nervous sys- 
tem is vitally important also. This means that you 
must sleep and rest sufficiently, that you must avoid 
over-study, worry of any kind, late hours, dissipation 
of every sort and that you must cultivate the things 
that breed sweetness of disposition, dignity of de- 
meanor, and placidity of temperature. 



CHAPTER IX 

MENSTETJATION AND WHAT IT IS 

" Woman is the more primitive, the more intuitive, the more emo- 
tional. To her, sex is a deep and sacred instinct, carrying with it a 
sense of natural purity." 

— ^Edward Carpenter. 

From what has been said in the preceding chapter 
the function of the womb or uterus will have been 
made plain to you. As intimated, it is designed by 
nature to be a ^^nest" or place of development for 
the fertilized ovum or human egg. In passing it 
may be added that out of the hundreds of eggs that 
ripen in the ovary of a normal woman during her 
lifetime only a very few serve the purpose for which 
they are designed. This apparent wastefulness of 
Nature is, however, the outcome of her precautionary 
measures against the dying out of the race. 

The lining membrane of the uterus is rich in smaU 
blood vessels, and the egg will begin its growth by 
attaching itself to this lining, presuming that it has 
been rendered fertile in the manner already told. 
When the ovum passes down to the uterus without 
having been fertilized, as it does in the case of 
virgins and not infrequently with married women, 

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MENSTRUATION AND WHAT IT IS 59 

there is no use for the blood which has been prepared 
by Nature in the membrane to nourish the egg. And 
so the blood gathers and the consequent pressure in 
the tiny veins gets more and more till there is a break 
in their walls and the mucous membrane which covers 
them. Then the escaping blood is poured out into 
the uterus from whence it passes into the vagina, and 
so out of the body. With it are mixed minute pieces 
of the lining of the uterus. This process as described 
is what we know as menstruation. It is estimated 
that from four to five ounces of blood are lost at each 
of such periods. The flow on an average continues 
for four days or more. In healthy girls it is less 
than in those who are weak. As the action ceases, 
the uterus grows a new lining which, after a few 
days' rest, begins to thicken and fill with blood as be- 
fore. The length of time from the beginning of one 
menstrual period to that of another is usually about 
twenty-eight days. 

In temperate zones a girl begins to menstruate at 
about fourteen years of age. If her sexual emotions 
have been unduly excited by reading erotic novels, by 
indulging in irregular habits or so called mild dissi- 
pation she may menstruate younger than is natural 
for her and to her great disadvantage in every 
regard. 



60 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

Medical men are yet in doubt as to what extent for 
evil the unnatural conditions of civilization have in- 
fluenced the menstrual flow. It is known, however, 
that more blood is lost by those who live amid the 
intensely enervating conditions of city life than 
there is in the case of those women who reside in the 
country. The flow is also found to be greater with 
those who are clothed heavily than with those who 
dress lightly. These facts lead to the question as to 
whether menstruation would not be reduced to prac- 
tically nothing if a woman lived under perfectly nat- 
ural conditions, wearing no clothes whatever except 
during those seasons when cold made them necessary, 
she having the added stimulus of an out-of-door life. 
The discovery by an explorer of a tribe of savages 
living on an island in the Pacific where conditions 
just as those suggested prevailed, strengthens the 
theory that such a result would ensue. It was found 
that the women on the island never menstruated. 

It often happens that the adoption of a plain and 
chiefly uncooked diet, the taking of daily cold baths, 
and such exercise as will build up the system in gen- 
eral tend to greatly reduce the quantity of blood lost 
at the menstrual period. It may be added that dur- 
ing menstruation certain changes take place in other 
parts of the body other than the sexual apparatus. 



MENSTEUATION AND WHAT IT IS 61 

Tlie breasts become enlarged and somewhat tender, 
there is a tendency to congestion of the skin, while 
dark rings develop under the eyes. Sometimes there 
is languor, nausea, headache, nervousness, irritabil- 
ity, sleepiness, loss of appetite, pain in the ^^ small" of 
the back and a general sense of uneasiness and sick- 
ness. In such instances, which are all too common, 
there is something radically wrong with the suifer- 
er 's genital organs, usually the result of improper diet 
or tight corsets. The painful hints of Nature thus 
given, must not be ignored for if they are, nothing 
remains but an impotent and agonizing womanhood. 



CHAPTER X 

HYGIENIC CARE OF BODY DURING MENSTRUATION 

" Health is the soul that animates all enjoyments of life which 
fade and are tasteless, if not dead, without it." 

— Sir N. Temple. 

If you have been careful not to overstimulate your 
nerves by excitement or weaken them by depriving 
yourself of your due need of sleep and rest; if you 
have kept out of doors a great deal, and have insured 
yourself fresh air while indoors; if you are a sensi- 
ble little woman who does not fill her brain full of 
nonsense by reading too many trashy novels, the 
chances are that your system is in such good con- 
dition that there will be no trouble in store for you 
during menstruation. 

If you have avoided the foolish, almost crinmial, 
habit of stuffing your stomach at all hours of the day 
and night with candy and other deleterious things, 
such as heating condiments and rich pastry, your 
bowels and digestive organs will be in good order and 
free from the pressure caused by that excessive accu- 
mulation of waste matter which comes from eating 
substances such as those described. 

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CARE DURING MENSTRUATION 63 

It is very important for you to remember this. 
You see that the position which the uterus occupies 
between the rectum and bladder makes it very sus- 
ceptible to the condition of the bowels, especially if 
the latter are overcharged. If there is any doubt in 
your mind as to whether the bowels are clear of clog- 
ging matter that should not be in them, you had better 
flush them thoroughly with warm water once a day 
for two or three days before you menstruate. 

It is not uncommon for a girl on the eve of men- 
struation to feel much more hungry than usual. Sat- 
isfy this craving with food of the plainest and drink 
freely and frequently of pure water between meals. 
By doing this you will, to a very great extent, over- 
come the imnatural hunger in question and in any 
event will guard yourself against overeating. Some 
there are who, during the first or second day of men- 
struation, eat nothing whatever. Uusually sucH a 
failure of appetite is a temporary fast inaugurated 
by Nature for helpful purposes. Even if your ap- 
petite remains with you, it is a good idea to initiate 
a fast on your own account for a day or so at the first 
indication of menstruation. 

If you feel tired, stop all work, mental and phys- 
ical, and rest yourself thoroughly. A woman's nerv- 
ous system is such that the tension upon it increases 



64 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

dming the inontli up to a certain point when it is at its 
highest. This niaximmn period is reached either just 
before or just after menstruation when it falls rapid- 
ly, rising again to a second lesser maximum usually 
a few days after the flow of blood has ceased. 

When your nervous force is at its lowest point, you 
may be very tired, irritable and altogether used up. 
If you then recognize your need of rest and take it, it 
may be that, in an hour or two, you wiU be greatly 
refreshed and your feelings in general will be much 
more nearly normal than they were before. 

When the tension is at its highest, you will feel 
like doing a great deal of work. Whatever it is that 
you like most to do you can now do to the best pur- 
pose. Do not fail to remember and take advantage 
of this fact. 

Learn to understand your nervous conditions and 
you can control your life much better. When the de- 
pression comes, as come it will, don't think that 
everything and everybody in the world is cruel, and 
that you are an especially badly abused little woman. 
Try to realize that it is your nervous system that is 
the thing that's out of order, and that the universe 
has undergone no change. And try particularly to 
control yourself for your own sake and the sake of 
others. Plan to be with those you love, and let their 



CAEE DURING MENSTRUATION 65 

affection soothe and comfort you, and before long you 
will be in harmony with the world and its people 
again. 

After the flow has begmi do not hesitate to take a 
tub-bath and local baths as often as necessary in 
order to keep perfectly clean. You will have to fol- 
low your own inclinations as to whether or not you 
can venture on a cold sponge or a cold plunge bath. 
To some they cause a shock to the system which stops 
the flow; yet others find them invigorating and as 
beneficial as they are at other times. But the old- 
fashioned idea that no bath should be taken whatever 
is utter nonsense. It is especially necessary for you 
to keep yourself spotlessly clean during menstruation. 
Inflammations of a serious sort sometimes resiilt from 
lack of care of the body at such periods. 

Do not wear a heavy napkin. It is unduly heating 
and unhygienic ; it interferes with the free movement 
of, and causes pressure on, the parts involved. Wear 
smaller ones and change them frequently. Be care- 
ful not to adjust your napkin so that it is too tight. 
Linen is better than cotton, wears longer and, in the 
end, costs no more. It is more comfortable because 
it is more absorbent, and on that account it washes 
more readily. 

If you suffer much pain during menstruation apply 



66 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

cloths that have been dipped in hot water to the lower 
part of the abdomen. They should be as hot as they 
can be borne, should be wrung quickly and changed 
frequently. Drinking hot water is also beneficial. 
If the bowels are not perfectly active and clean try 
flushing them as before suggested. 

Another way to obtain the benefits of heat is to 
take a hot sitz bath. This sometimes so relieves the 
patient that she will fall asleep immediately on get- 
ting into bed. Take good care not to chiU yourself 
as you go from the bath tub to your bedroom or the 
good effects of the former may not only be lost on 
you, but you may be greatly harmed in addition. 

Under no circumstances whatever take any of the 
patent medicines advertised to relieve painful men- 
struation. They all contain alcohol or some prepara- 
tion of morphine or drugs which are most dangerous 
for you to use. They are never of benefit and in- 
variably make for evil. 

If you have always suffered at menstrual periods, 
try and get your body and your nervous system into a 
thoroughly sound condition, and the time wiU surely 
come when you will cease to dread the monthly visita- 
tion. 

As to the cause of pain during menstruation, Mary 
Putnam Jacobi, in an interesting work on ^^The 



CARE DURING MENSTRUATION 67 

Question of Rest for Women,'' says that it is often 
due to lack of perfect bodily development by proper 
exercise and to working too long in one position, 
which results in the pressure of one part of the body 
upon another, causing an interference with the circu- 
lation. In this connection she says, *^The defects in 
the industrial or other work occupying our women 
lie, not in the degree of force required for its accom- 
plishment, but in the prolonged session during which 
the force must be exerted, or in the constrained posi- 
tion it necessitates. Whatever posture interferes 
with the free return of venous blood, especially from 
the pelvis, is injurious to a woman. Hence, of 
course, long continued standing is not to be advised.'' 
In either work or study you will accomplish more, 
and probably save yourself much pain during men- 
struation, if you learn to take occasional rests of a 
few minutes. Try the experiment and see if this is 
not so. 



CHAPTER XI 

PEOPER ATTITUDE TOWARD MEN AND BOYS 

" We are made for co-operation, like feet, like hands, like eyelids, 
like the rows of the upper and lower teeth. To act against one an- 
other, then, is contrary to nature." — Marcus Aurelius. 

A girl will notice a profound sympathy between 
herself and lier father if both she and he are well 
sexed. A girl loves her father in a different way 
to that which she does her mother. Certainly not 
better, but differently. His caresses, his approba- 
tion, his counsel, are peculiarly dear to her. 

The beauty of this sweet relationship of father and 
daughter will be marred in the minds of none but 
prudes, when it is understood that in it is an element 
which exists because of sexual di:^erences. But it 
will be a great help to a girl to understand this thor- 
oughly. It will show her that the expression of sex- 
kinship is good and sweet. She knows her compan- 
ionship with her father has helped her, and if she 
thinks and understands aright she will realize that 
companionship and comradeship with any good men 
or boys will also aid her in many respects. 

If girls were less afraid of themselves than they 
usually are, they would not miss so much of the sweet- 

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ATTITUDE TOWARD MEN AND BOYS 69 

ness of life of wliicli they are deprived by their con- 
ventional attitude toward the other sex. Don 't think 
of a boy, your own brother for instance, as a creature 
outside of your life. Don't think of the lads you 
know at school or elsewhere as beings who are unable 
to appreciate the things you are interested in, and do 
not believe that the things they like are those that 
you wouldn't care for. It is not so at all. There is 
nothing that a young girl thinks or feels or does that 
a boy friend cannot share in, either by advice or sym- 
pathy or helpful deedg. 

There is nothing in a young woman's life that 
might not be more complete and more satisfactory if 
she had young men friends as partners in it. And 
any girl or young woman who has not a father as a 
factor for happiness in her life will be fortunate to 
have instead a good, true friend of the opposite sex, 
older than herself, to whom she can turn for advice' 
and disinterested affection. 

No girl or young woman looks at life exactly as 
she should when she views it from the feminine stand- 
point only. She is inclined to trust too much to her 
impulses and emotions. A man, on the contrary, will 
bring his reason and judgment to bear on a problem 
of existence. A girl does things by intuition, a man 
acts on the deductions of experience. Working to- 



70 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOlMAis^HOOD 

gether, reason and intuition -will strike the liappy 
medium Trhereni is soundness and safety. Herein 
the benefit of male and female friendships. 

The girl who ignores men and boys and has no as- 
sociation with them is liable to become herself that 
repulsive personage, a harsh, masculine woman. So 
does ^Mature revenge herself on those who ignore the 
laws of the intermingling of the sexes. 

The girl who treats young men as if they were a 
different species from herself, who lies to them about 
her doings and about that which she thinks of them, 
who simpers when a man appears, and believes it to 
be the end and aim of her life to make her male 
friends wait upon her and minister to her fancies, is 
the effeminate girl, a creature who wearies and dis- 
gusts. 

The girl who likes men frankly, who treats them 
as comrades who can help her and be helped by her, 
who is S}Tnpathetically interested in their pleasures 
and sorrows, is the feminine girl, the womanly young 
woman. 

Helen B. Thompson, of the Department of Philos- 
ophy of Chicago University, recently made some in- 
teresting tests upon fifty students, half of the num- 
ber being men and half women. Among the other 
questions that she asked them was this : '^ Which do 



ATTITUDE TOWARD MEN AND BOYS 71 

you enjoy most, the society of men or of women'?" 
And a large majority of the men said that they pre- 
ferred to associate with women. But most of the 
girls declared that they either had no preference, or 
else liked the society of their own sex best. Now, 
who ever saw a college girl who did not consider that 
a day without a man was a day wasted? Whoever 
saw any normal, healthy girl who wasn't having a 
better time of it, either at work or play, if there were 
young men with her? Why no one! And if Miss 
Thompson did for one instant think that these young 
women were sincere in their answers, she must have 
had limited opportunities for observation of the 
feminine nature. These girls evidently thought that 
they ought to enjoy the society of their own sex best, 
and this it was that influenced their answers. 

Another question asked was whether the student 
considered herself or himself sympathetic and de- 
monstrative in affection. More of the men so con- 
sidered themselves than did the women, which does 
not prove by any means that men have the advantage 
in this respect. It only goes to show that the male 
students were not afraid of being credited with the 
qualities in question. 

A girl who has had the perverted notion drilled 
into her that she ^'musn't like the boys," often treats 



72 FROM aiELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

them with indirect indifference or direct disdain. 
Secretly she wonders and regrets that they do not 
seem to like her. Why, my dear girl^ don 't yon know 
that what you do and say is the only guide that the 
young man has as to how you feel ? And if you act as 
if you don't care for his company, you can hardly 
blame him if he shows that he doesn't care for yours. 
Don't be afraid to be friendly with young men 
friends and to let the gentleness and sweetness of 
your budding nature express itself as fully as it may. 
Robert Louis Stevenson said, ^^To know what you 
prefer instead of simply saying amen to what the 
world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept 
your soul alive." That is a very good thing for a 
girl to remember in regard to her conduct. Find out 
what it is you are prompted to do by your pure young 
heart, and never mind what others tell you is the 
proper thing under the circumstances. Many of 
those people who pretend to believe in the ^^ Divinity 
within us" are prone to go off and ask the Divinity 
within some one else for advice when they need it. 
Such people are the dead souls of the earth. Our 
human nature is really very sweet and generous and 
kindly if we will but trust it. You must remember 
that to each of us has been given a peculiar interpre- 
tation of life exactly adapted to our individual needs. 



ATTITUDE TOWARD MEN AND BOYS 73 

Do not accept, therefore, the ideas of anyone else as 
to what is best for you and refrain from imposing 
your idea of what is best for anyone else on others. 

When you go with a young man to the theatre, w^ho 
pays the bills? He does. I ask you ^^Why*?" 
^^Oh, indeed," you will reply, ''it is the custom." 
True, but don't you think it a queer custom that 
makes one party shoulder all the expense ^. What is 
the basis of the custom? Why, the old-time belief 
that woman doesn't know enough to earn money for 
herself. The ancient tradition that woman is man's 
slave. and had to have her pleasure dealt out to her 
by her lord and master precisely as was her food and 
clothing. That doesn't sound very agreeable to your 
twentieth century ears, does it, little woman ? 

Why should you expect a young man to foot the 
bills when he goes out with you any more than you 
would expect his sister to when you go out with her ? 
If you are very good friends with a girl, and with her 
attend a matinee, you may pay the bills it is true, if 
you are much better able to do so than she, or you 
may let her liquidate them if she is the more fortun- 
ately situated than you are. But if both of you have 
about the same means you share the expenses. Is 
there any reason why you shouldn't do exactly the 
same when you are with her brother? None what- 



74 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

ever. And if you do insist on bearing your part of 
the expense it will put you on a footing of equality 
and conn*adesMp with him that no amount of theory 
or submission to the conventional will ever bring you. 
Girls are very often thoughtless regarding the money 
that excursions and pleasures cost young men. 
Nothing but bearing half the financial burden will 
make them realize just what the burden is. 

Remember this doesn't mean that if a young man 
is well able to pay for everything, that he should not 
do so. Nor does it imply that if you are better able 
to do so than he, that you shouldn't pay the total 
of the bill. Won't your so doing make you unwom- 
anly, you ask. Nonsense, my dear. Is generos- 
ity and kindness, the wish to give happiness and the 
desire to share your pleasures with a friend, unwom- 
anly? You will hardly think so if you ask the 
question of and get the answer from your own heart. 



CHAPTER XII 

don't think that EVEKY man who SMn.ES AT YOIJ IS 
IN LOVE WITH YOU 

" The elements of joy lie under every hand waiting only the reach- 
ing out of that hand for their appropriation; and the will to reach 
and the ability to appropriate are required of every one of us with 
no exception." 

There are many girls who deprive themselves of 
much that they might otherwise enjoy by the foolish 
idea that every man who shows them some trifling at- 
tention is in love with them. 

They can't realize that a man may like a girl as a 
comrade without wanting her to be a sweetheart. 
When a girl shows a disposition to treat every male 
acquaintance of hers as if she thought him a suitor 
for her hand, men don't want to have anything to do 
with her. They feel that her silly egotism is liable 
to create all kinds of unpleasant situations for both 
her and themselves. They would rather never have 
her for a prospective friend than have her as a pos- 
sible enemy through her proneness to misunderstand 
them. A man may like a girl well enough and enjoy 
her society more than that of other girls whom he 
knows without for one minute entertaining a thought 
of actual love for her. Let me impress this on you, 

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76 FKOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

my dear girls, for a recognition of the fact may save 
you much unhappiness. 

When a girl has this false idea regarding a man, 
the latter reasons that the best thing for her and for 
him, too, is to keep away from her. She might per- 
suade herself that she was in love with him, he 
thinks, and make herself very miserable when she 
discovered that he did not love her after all. If she 
does not want him to love her, she may cause him 
much discomfort by misunderstanding his attitude 
toward her. No one can blame a man for reaching 
this decision in question when a girl is so foolish as 
to think that the smile on his lips or the kindly glance 
of his eye necessarily means that there is love in his 
heart. 

Just turn the tables and see how you would like it 
yourself. When you receive a man's attentions with 
kindness, wouldn't you think him presumptuous to 
at once conclude that you wanted to marry him just 
because you had shown a little liking for him'? 
Wouldn't you be sorry to have him spoil your pos- 
sible friendship for him by suggesting matrimony to 
you when you had never given him any special reason 
to think that he was more to you than any one of the 
rest of the young men whom you Iniow. 

If a girl friend brings you some flowers, and tells 



SMILES NOT ALWAYS LOVE SIGNS 77 

you that you are a dear, you don't conclude that she 
wants you for her one and only friend do you ? You 
simply think that she entertains a kindly regard for 
you, and wished to give some expression to it. And 
her so doing pleases you, but it does not occupy your 
whole heart and mind. And you don 't go around tell- 
ing other girls about it, and making a tremendous 
fuss over a minor incident ! 

So when John smiles tenderly and presses your 
hand, smile pleasantly and frankly back at him. His 
action only means that he is a trifle lonesome or home- 
sick or downhearted, and wants a touch of human 
sympathy. He doesn't for a moment intend to give 
you the impression that he is in love with you. In- 
vite him home, and with the aid of your mother and 
father, your brothers and sisters, do what you can to 
dispel the blues that he doesn't wish to have, but 
which he has gotten for all that. Suggest a game of 
tennis or a row on the river. That's the kind of 
thing he wants, not a sweetheart. 

The girl who is always expecting men to be her 
lovers murders the chances of their ever becoming 
such. For love by her is scared away before it has 
an opportunity to perch on their hearts. Of course 
there is such a thing as love at first sight, but cases of 
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78 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

accept a man as a friend for a day, will wait in vain 
for Mm to become a lover for a life. The rule of the 
game of hearts seems to be that the girl who does 
not look for lovers has the most of them. 

But in spite of all this, there is no reason in the 
world why, in the case of your having a comrade of 
the other sex, you should not both do what you can 
to make the time pass happy when you are together. 
What if the happiness is only for a day? Isn't life 
'made up of single days? String happy days to- 
gether and you have a happy life. 

Remember this, little woman, whether you be four- 
teen or twenty-four, there is always, for everyone, 
something to enjoy everywhere, and you had better 
take the commoner joys that life has to offer every 
day than to wait for and expect every day the rare 
blisses that life offers but seldom! 



CHAPTER XIII 

CHARACTER INFLUENCED BY WOMAN'S ATTITUDE 
TOWARDS THE OPPOSITE SEX 

" The Modern Woman sees plainly enough that no decent advance 
for her sex is possible until this whole question is fairly faced 
involving, as of course it will do, a life very different from her pres- 
ent one, far more in the open air, with real bodily exerci«6 and 
development, some amount of regular manual work, a knowledge of 
the laws of health and physiology, an altogether wider mental out- 
look and greater self-reliance and nature-hardihood. But when once 
these things are granted, she see that she will no longer be the serf 
but the equal, the mate and the comrade of man." 

— Edward Carpenter. 

Some one says that character is what we really are, 
reputation what others think us to be. And while 
every young woman understands that her reputation 
is affected by her attitude towards men, does she also 
realize that her real and inner self is also affected *? 
When a child is born it has that which people call a 
soul or an individuality or an indefinite essence, as 
the case may be. It is by the development of this 
mysterious something that we form character. 

In the past it was thought doubtful whether 
woman had any soul whatever. And men made 
slaves of women and denied them the exercise of any 
individuality just on that account. The result was 
that women were weak and inane creatures of imde- 
veloped body and stunted character. A girl be- 

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longed to her father till she married, and then she 
was supposed to become the property of her husband. 
That she really belonged to no one but herself did 
not seem to occur to her or any one. But women 
have for many centuries been learning, and although 
they do not remember the time when they were actu- 
ally slaves as described, they still conmiemorate the 
ancient order of things by changing their names 
when they marry, and by putting on a gold wedding 
ring instead of an iron wrist fetter as in the dark 
ages. 

And the fetter was welded to a chain that a mar- 
ried man used in order to j)revent his wife from get- 
ting away from him. Elopements must have been 
difficult in those days. So you see that a wedding 
ring is the one material thing that remains to remind 
us of the days when a woman's position was that of 
a serf, a mere chattel. And as the idea of servitude 
becomes additionally abhorrent to women, as they 
realize more and yet more that they belong to them- 
selves, they will refuse to wear even the wedding 
ring, because it helps to perpetuate the evil memory 
of what is dead and past. 

The time may come, too, when women will retain 
their own names after they marry. As it is, many 
feel that it is just as unnecessary for a woman to 



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change her name when she becomes a man's wife as a 
man would think it to be to change his. 

It is well that young girls should understand these 
things. For it takes an idea a long time to develop 
when it is contrary to established custom. And it is 
hard for a young woman to plan her life reasonably 
nowadays unless she has a clear understanding of 
much that it was once deemed inadvisable for woman 
to laiow. Such knowledge should be implanted in 
her at girlhood so that it may grow with her growth, 
and when she marries she will be in a position to put 
it into practice. Eevolutionary thought of a rational 
sort about woman and her status is the hope and the 
promise of the sex. 

If you are still under the influence of the old belief 
that woman is man's inferior, you will treat the 
young men you know as if you expected them to dic- 
tate the trend of your ideas and opinions. Or else 
your attitude toward them will be one of unvarying 
frivolity, because you don't think yourself capable 
of having opinions worth the stating even at second- 
hand. If, on the other hand, you realize that you 
are as separate and distinct and important an indi- 
vidual as any man living, you will assume an attitude 
of equality, while acknowledging that you have faults 
and failings which need the assistance of your com- 



82 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

rades of the other sex to correct, and you will take 
the position of a helpful friend who has virtues and 
qualities which may be of service to your male com- 
panions in helping them to round out their existences. 
Every good wish to you, little woman, in your ef- 
forts to get unto yourself a beautiful and womanly 
character. 



CHAPTER XIV 

PHYSICAL COMELINESS AFFECTED BY ASSOCIATION WITH 
THE OPPOSITE SEX 

"A young woman's magnetic qualities, her love, her emotions, her 
intuition and her sexhood are fostered by the companionship and 
friendly intimacy of a clean^ characterful friend of the opposite sex." 

The illustrative case that follows is taken from 
real life, and is told in detail because it admirably 
emphasizes the effects of preventing the association 
of young people of the opposite sexes. 

A woman came to a doctor's office with her daugh- 
ter, who was about sixteen years of age. The girl 
had been educated in a private school. Aiming to 
make her daughter a very clever woman, the mother 
made her devote all her time to her studies. Conse- 
quently she was not allowed to go to parties, dances, 
picnics, or indeed any place where she could meet 
male friends. 

The girl had entered school when twelve, being 
then healthy and strong. Her parents had taken her 
from the public schools where she had played and 
studied with boys so that she need not have her atten- 
tion distracted by them from her studies. All this 
the anxious mother told in answer to the doctor's 

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questions. But the girl was sick, there was no doubt 
about that, and yet, as the mother declared, she had 
been so careful of her daughter. Day after day the 
child had become more languid, the bloom on her 
cheek had faded, and her once clear eyes grew more 
dull and listless. She walked with a lagging step, 
her head di^ooped, her chest was sunken. She could 
not api3ly herself to her lessons, nothing interested 
her, she was listless and apathetic. She ate very lit- 
tle and that with no appetite. Still she had no pain 
and never complained of illness. 

The doctor listened to the whole story. Then he 
turned to the mother. ^^ Madam,'' he said, ^^have 
you a good memory?" 
^^Yes, but whyr' 

^^Do you remember when you were sixteen years 
oldr' 

"Yevj well indeed. I was strong and happy, al- 
though my mother never looked after me as I have 
always looked after my daughter." 

^^Were you educated as you are educating your 
daughter?" 

^^Xo. I was allowed to literally run wild. I went 
to school in the country till I was fifteen, and next to 
a village academy. I gave just as much attention to 
having a good time as I did to my school work. But 



COMELINESS INFLUENCED BY MEN 85 

I made up my mind that my daughter should not fol- 
low my example, but instead should give her time to 
profitable things. That is why I have kept her at a 
private school or at home and not let her indulge in 
any girlish follies. But what is the matter with 
her?" 

*^I can tell you in a few words/' the doctor replied. 
^^She is naturally a well-sexed girl. She needs the 
stimulus of the society of boy companions. She 
ought to be allowed to follow her nature. By which 
I mean that she be allowed to know and see and min- 
gle with young friends of the other sex. Otherwise 
she will become sexually starved. ' ' 

The mother was at first indignant. Finally, how- 
ever she began to think that the doctor might be right, 
and so agreed to act upon his advice. It took several 
months to bring about much improvement in the 
girl's condition, but in time she became her old bon- 
nie self. When, a year later, the mother brought 
her daughter to the doctor again the girl was 
laughing, bright-eyed, rosy-cheeked, full-chested, 
and sweet to look upon. A complete transformation 
had been wrought in her. Her mental condition had 
also so improved that she enjoyed her school work, 
and the boy friends with whom she associated did not 
interfere with her interest in her studies. 



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It doesn't often happen that a mother is quite as 
determined as was this one to the end of depriving 
a girl of the magnetic stimulus of male society, but it 
does too often happen that girls see less of boys than 
is good for them. 

Who is not f amiKar with the starved, sad counte- 
nances of the convent nuns, who blot the opposite sex 
out of their lives altogether. On the faces of these 
devoted creatures there is indeed an expression of 
spirituality, but do you doubt for a minute whether 
any woman with a sweet soul can better express that 
soul than through the medium of the exercise of the 
functions of the body as Nature intended and as God 
has commanded. 

Nature has made her wishes manifest to us in the 
most unmistakable of manners. The girl who is 
compelled to repress the longings of her heart and 
mind for boy friends gradually loses her good looks. 
There is not one faculty of her intellect or one part 
of her body that escapes deterioration. Her hair 
loses its gloss and sheen, her complexion its soft 
beauty, her form has no longer the womanly plump- 
ness which makes it so desirable. Even her voice is 
less sweet in timbre and less perfect in tone. A 
yoimg woman twenty-four years old, once remarked 
with an air of pride, '^I have never been kissed in my 



COMELINESS INFLUENCED BY MEN 87 

life. " ^' She doesn 't have to advertise the fact, ' ' said 
some one who had overheard her. ^^ Doesn't she 
know that she carries around with her personal evi- 
dence of an utter lack of those attractions that make 
men want to kiss their owners.'' 

It was sadly so. There is nothing in the world 
that can hide the fact when a girl is wanting in that 
magnetism which is born of a strong and perfect sex- 
uality. There is no escaping Nature's penalties or 
rewards in this respect. She wants the sexes to be 
much together, and the result of such commingling 
is a beauty of body which nothing else can bestow. 



CHAPTER XV 

PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LIKE IN A GIRL — THE MAG- 
NETISM BORN OF HEALTH 

" A woman capable at all points to bear cbildren, to guard them, 
to teach them, to turn them out strong and healthy citizens of the 
great world, stands at the farthest remove from the finnikin doll or 
the meek drudge whom man, by a kind of false sexual selection, has 
through many centuries evolved as his ideal." 

Have you ever noticed the type of girl who gets the 
most downright admiration from men'? Not the 
passing fancy that is forgotten in a day or an hour, 
but the kind of admiration that makes a man think of 
a girl when she is far away, the regard that makes 
him seek her society again and again, and be very 
proud of the fact that she is his friend? Uncon- 
sciously, often to men themselves, the qualities in a 
girl which appeal most strongly to men are mostly 
those which indicate that she will be a good mother. 

-In the several stages of the production of a new 
human being, there is a vast amount of nervous 
energy required. For the mother must transm.ute 
the food she eats into an organism with vast powers 
and possibilities, endowed with all the organs that 
make it possible for it to live and develop and flourish, 
and finally for it to help in reproduction. This takes 

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nervous energy, a great abundance of it. And the 
girl who, some day, is going to be a good mother will 
have a reserve fund of this same energy. People will 
say she is magnetic ; they may not understand at all 
what it is that makes her charming, they may not 
realize that it means she is storing up energy so that 
she may some day give life to children. But they will 
be powerfully drawn to her, irresistibly drawn to her 
all the same. 

Personal magnetism! She who possesses it has 
developed to the highest degree of perfection the 
charm which comes when every cell of the body is 
charged with that mystic, thrilling yet unseen force 
from which spring all manifestations of life. The 
girl v/ho is ^^ magnetic'' as we call it, has the first and 
foremost quality which makes and holds admirers. 

If you wish then to be admired by men, develop 
this personal magnetism, develop your life forces in 
all their inost acute intensity. Acquire that delicate 
sensitiveness of emotional nature which is easily 
within your reach by perfecting your higher physical 
instincts through physical culture. 

Men like to associate with intelligent women ; they 
appreciate their refinement and wit, but a woman 
must also have the charm of physical magnetism be- 
fore she can be really, truly and wholly loved. 



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It is the obvious duty of every intelligent girl, not 
only for her own sake, but for the sake of others, to 
nurture this force in all its acute possibilities. It will 
beautify her life, her personality, her capacities, as 
veritably as the sun brings gladness when it dissi- 
pates the gloom of a cloudy day. 

After personal magnetism comes a beautiful form. 
Most people may think a beautiful face would be sec- 
ond, but it is not so. If you think, you will remem- 
ber that actresses of little facial beauty are often ex- 
tremely attractive just because they have beautiful 
forms. 

The attractive figure is Nature's way of proclaim- 
ing that a woman has superior maternal capacity. 
This is shown first by a broad bosom and perfectly de- 
veloped bust. The chest must be held forward and 
the shoulders back. This indicates full lung power, 
so that a woman will be able to make good, pure 
blood for her child. A well developed bust and chest 
not only shows that she will be able to nurse a child 
well, but it also indicates that she is the owner of a 
strong, healthy uterus in which to carry the child. 
Strength and health in one indicate it in the other 
also. 

Phrenologists point out that the holding the head 
up and well back allows the freest circulation in the 



MAGNETISM BOEN OF HEALTH 91 

love faculty which is situated in the back and lower 
part of the brain. 

The next requisite for a good form is breadth in 
the lower part of the body, or a good pelvis. It is 
not entirely within the pelvis that the child is car- 
ried, for the uterus rises out of the pelvis further up 
into the abdomen after the first few months of preg- 
nancy. But when the child is born a narrow pelvis 
may prevent the passage of its head out into the 
world. The lives of children are often sacrificed on 
this accoimt. So a broad pelvis means that a woman 
will be delivered easily and without harm to the 
child. 

The instinctive love of a full bosom and a broad 
pelvis led women a few centuries ago to adopt the 
corset. This did not, of course, give them a full 
bosom nor breadth in the lower part of their bodies, 
excepting by contrast with a too small waist, and by 
pushing out of their natural position the organs 
which ought to be at the waist line, some of them 
being crowded up and some down. And as they did 
not understand why they liked these particular evi- 
dences of beauty, they did not know that they were 
preventing the very thing that was at the base of 
their admiration — their desire to look like good 
mothers. 



92 FEOM GlIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

A perfect pelvis gives lines of beauty also to the 
hips. 

Beauty of face is of considerably less importance 
than either magnetism or a beautiful form. But 
magnetism shows itself very largely in the face never- 
theless. 

The reason that we are too apt to assume that facial 
beauty is of the first importance is that it is often the 
only part of the body that we can know much about. 

We have to judge of the texture of the skin and 
the purity of the blood by the face because this is the 
only part of the body exposed. 

Every girl cannot possess harmony of outline, but 
nearly every girl can possess that which makes faces 
most pleasing and attractive which may be said to be 
physical wholesomeness, an appearance of health 
and internal cleanliness. The skin must be of that 
clear tint which gives it a warm, life-like appearance. 
The eyes must be clear, shining and expressive. The 
teeth must be regular and white and the lips of that 
red which indicates the purity of the blood that flows 
beneath their skin. 

It is not so much the mere contour of the features 
that arouses admiration ; it is their nobility or gentle- 
ness of expression. 

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MAGNETISM BORN OF HEALTH 93 

one's thoughts and environment. A girl who pos- 
sesses all else that is essential to beauty, but lacks 
sweetness of disposition, will not for long have feat- 
ures that are to be admired. Pure, sweet, kindly 
thoughts always show themselves facially and pro- 
duce a grace and charm that can be secured in no 
other way. 

In other words, it is not so much the way your face 
is shaped, as how you ^^wear it." The most classical 
features wearing a sulky and sullen expression can 
never be called beautiful, while the very plain feat- 
ures of a girl whose face expresses a good, clean 
wholesomeness of character and a sweet and loving 
nature, will possess an attraction that is irresistible. 

It has been said that the glory of woman is in her 
hair. Certain it is that a beautiful head of hair is 
an attraction which every woman strives for. The 
texture and gloss are of more moment than the quan- 
tity. If hair be fine and silken soft, with beautiful 
tints in it, no matter what its quantity, it is much 
more admired than is a great deal of coarse, dead- 
looking hair. 

And after all is done and said as to the power of 
physical beauty, we must conclude that it has its 
origin in beauty of mind and soul. 



CHAPTER XVI 

MENTAL QUALITIES MEN LIKE IN A GIRL 

" A creature not too bright or good 
For human nature's daily food. 
For transient sorrows, simple wiles. 
Praise, blame, love, kisses, tears and smiles." 

— Wordsworth. 

A great many people — women among them — im- 
agine that men admire only those qualities in girls 
which help the latter to be good housekeepers and 
good mothers. The prospective husband is pre- 
sumed to hanker after a mate that-is-to-be who shall 
prove thrifty and economical, patient and indus- 
trious, willing and untiring, in short a sort of better 
class servant. As a matter of fact the average man 
has a very different opinion as to what is requisite in 
the case of the woman who may be the mother of his 
children, but who may not be his housekeeper at all. 
In other words he doesn't want to marry somebody 
who is only capable of being a nurse or a drudge. 
Neither does he desire to unite his fate to a something 
that looks like and has as many brains as a doll. A 
girl's dimples can't make a man oblivious to the fact 
that she is an ignoramus. Though her eyes shine 
ever so brightly, their so doing cannot compensate 

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MENTAL GIFTS THAT MEN ADMIRE 95 

for a dull mentality. Her lips may be adorably red, 
but if she can't use them for talking as well as for 
kissing, the kisses are less sweet and soon pall upon 
him. Prettiness doesn't pass current to-day unless 
it bears the signature of some degree of intellect. 

The majority of girls know all this well enough, 
and with their knowledge of how to gain and pre- 
serve physical beauty has come the conviction that it 
alone, is of but little value to the possessor. If the 
beautiful casket in which man looks to find the jewel 
of mentality proves to be empty, he ceases to desire 
the first because of the absence of the last. 

Formerly girls thought it highly important to 
know how to make a complexion paste or a concoction 
that would rid their skins of freckles. To-day they 
realize that sunshine and rain are the best beautifiers 
of their faces, and they are more interested in under- 
standing the chemical changes which the sun has 
made in the pigment of their cuticle than they are in 
removing the results of those changes which are the 
dear little freckles. 

A girl was bemoaning her ^^ sun-spots 'j to her 
brother not long since. He, replying with brotherly 
brutality, said, *' Don't you know that a man had a 
darn sight rather have a girl with freckles and 
enough mind to know what made 'em, than a milk- 



96 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

and-roses face thing without brains enough to under- 
stand a chemical action when it is explained to her?" 

A girl does not necessarily have to know all that a 
man knows in order to be interesting to him. That 
which is required of her though is that she shall have 
a capacity for sensible appreciation. If a man is in- 
terested in photography, for instance, and wants to 
tell a girl something about it, he may take pleasure in 
explaining the difference between two kinds of de- 
velopers. But, when he has finished his explanation, 
he does not like to look down into a pair of sweet but 
intellectually vacant eyes. He much prefers to meet 
the gaze of a pair of sweet ones that are filled with 
some sort of understanding. 

A girl who can only reply with a vague and occa- 
sional ^^Ye-es," when a man talks about his hobby, 
her microscopic mind being filled with visions of that 
lovely new dimity which she is going to have made up 
to-morrow, and is wondering whether it is best to 
have it trimmed with blue silk rosettes or fluted ruf- 
fles, isn't a very satisfactory sort of a companion. 
Not that a man doesn't want her to think about new 
clothes. He likes to see her in them immensely, and 
she has got to think about them before she can have 
them, but he does want her to be able to think about 
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MENTAL GIFTS THAT MEN ADMIRE 97 

There is a girl in New York City at whom people 
on the streets turn and stare because of her beauty. 
She dresses with great simplicity so as to attract 
as little attention as possible. She has great masses 
of pale gold hair, her eyes are an exquisite blue, and 
her face is a delicate oval. Her chin is perfectly 
moulded, and she has dimples in her cheeks when she 
smiles — but she doesn't smile often, and that's 
where the point of the story is. She is a dressmaker. 
She lives with a friend of hers who teaches school. 
One day a motherly woman, known to the teacher, 
stopped the latter. 

^^What ails the little dressmaker T' she asked. 
^^Is she sick? She always looks so sad. She is such 
a beautiful girl that I can't help but notice her." 

*^She isn't sick," was the reply. ^^But if you are 
really interested in her and want to know what makes 
her look so unhappy, go and ask her. She will be 
glad of your sympathy." 

The woman went, thinking perhaps she could help 
the girl. She found the little dressmaker busily sew- 
ing. She had on a kimona and her hair hung down 
her back below her waist in two heavy braids. She 
looked exquisite. 

''Yes, I'll tell you," said the girl to her visitor, 
after some preliminary chat. ^'I am sad because I 



98 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMAE^HOOD 

have so much beauty and so little to balance it. You 
needn't be surprised that I speak so frankly of my 
beauty. I hear about it from every new friend I 
make and I can't be unconscious of it. But I hate 
it!" Here she burst into tears. '^I'd give every 
hair on my head for some ability to think, to reason, 
to talk like other girls do. Yes, I know how smooth 
and fair my complexion is, but I sometimes think 
that it is like my brain. My teacher friend tells me 
that the gray matter of the brain gets creases in it 
when we think. If I only had the power to think as 
I want to, I'd be willing to have a wrinkle on my face 
for every thought that came to me. ' ' 
: This little tale is not fiction, but fact. If you knew 
all about the case and had seen the little dressmaker 
again and again temporarily happy with new admir- 
ers, and then noted how each one of them lost all in- 
terest in her because, as she herself admitted, ^^She 
had no brains to balance her beauty," you could sym- 
pathetically appreciate how she felt. Men love beauty 
and will eagerly seek it, but if they find that it is not 
reinforced by some amount of mental gifts, it tires 
them more than does sheer homeliness. It does not 
often happen though that a girl who has but few in- 
tellectual attainments recognizes her shortcomings. 
She usually finds men friends who are her mental 



MENTAL GIFTS THAT MEN ADMIRE 99 

equals and so both she and they are, in a sense, satis- 
fied. 

Perhaps the one quality in a girl which is more at- 
tractive to a man than aught else is mental alertness. 
And just as a girl can't move quickly with lots of 
superfluous material in her body, so a girl can't be 
mentally agile whose mind is loaded down with trash. 
Your intellect is worth far too much to you, my dear 
girl, to warrant you in charging it with knowledge 
that does not bring you health or happiness. That, 
by the way, is a good test to apply to your thoughts 
in order to see if they are worthy of your thinking. 
Are they going to be a help or a happiness to you or 
some one else ? If not, you had better dismiss them 
on the instant. 

Some people use their mind as a glutton does his 
stomach. They take in anything that seems swal- 
lowable. Don't follow their example, but do as does 
the physical culture girl who has learned to eat pure 
food for physical health and to assimilate pure con- 
verse and pure thoughts for her mental health. 

Another thing that men like in girls is absolute 
truthfulness. Those of you who do not respect the 
truth cannot secure the respect of self-respecting 
men. Learn to avoid exaggeration even of a trivial 
nature. You may not mean to ^ell jintruths, but if 

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you get into a careless mental habit you may uncon- 
sciously aver that which is not so. 

It has been said of late years that girls' interest in 
athletics has helped to make them more truthful. 
They have learned that it makes a mighty difference 
whether they report the exact score of their basket- 
ball team or that of a game of tennis. They have 
learned that a record for a half mile run is not some- 
thing to be juggled with when telling their friends 
about it. They have been taught that it is unfair 
and unsportsmanlike to say that they know anything 
to be thus and so if they aren't sure of it. 

And men know that the truthfulness of physical 
culture girls is a very happy addition to their already 
large quota of charms. 



CHAPTER XVII 

PERSONAL QUALITIES THAT MEN LIKE IN A GIRL 

"Woman is the most moral element in all humanity." — Comte. 
"Men made the laws, but women the morals." — Guibert. 

A man appreciates a girl who is helpful, one who 
takes pleasure in being of service to others. Her 
so doing means that she is kind, unselfish, sweet-tem- 
pered, and patient and he realizes it. Let us examine 
the desirable characteristics named in detail. 

If a girl is kind she will never want to talk about 

another girl's shortcomings. She will not be ready 

to detect faults in her friends that escape the notice 

of others. Now there is nothing that lowers a girl 

more quickly in the estimation of a man than to find 

that she is ever ready to tell of Mary's ill temper, or 

Isabel's vanity, or Helen's ignorance. If she thinks 

that she can enhance her own charms by disparaging 

those of others she is vastly mistaken. Do you 

know that if you talk about another girl's qualities — 

be they good or bad — ^you impress a man with the idea 

that you have them yourself. And he always feels 

sorry for the girl you speak ill of, because he does 

not Relieve tvhat you say about her. 

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He puts it all down to what men call ^^ woman's 
spite. ' ' And instead of visiting you the next time he 
wants to call on a girl he probably goes to see her to 
whom you aUuded so unkindly. For by your evil 
speaking you will have aroused his chivalry in her 
behalf. So be generous and sweet in your estimate 
of your girl acquaintances for your own sake even 
if for no higher motive. 

The unselfish girl is one of the dearest creatures of 
her sex. In the first place she is a little gentlewom- 
an, for the essence of true gentility is the effort to 
make others happy, even at the expense of personal 
deprivation. She is willing to aid, comfort and direct 
at any time and any person. If it is a question of 
her or her sister remaining home with mother who 
is sick on the night of the dance or the theatre party, 
she is the one who volimteers to do so. If, in the 
presence of a sudden shower there are not enough um- 
brellas to go round, she it is who with a laugh de- 
clares that she hasn't anything on that will spoil and 
seems to enjoy the incidental wetting. Her life is 
filled with small, sweet, unobtrusive services to others. 
And the beauty of her nature so stamps itself on her 
physical personality that she usually has a number of 
admirers of the more desirable class, for as you know, 
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The thoughtful girl is well liked. Not the long- 
faced, moody, dyspeptic girl, however. Dear me, no, 
that's not the kind of girl that is meant. But the 
true, thoughtful girl who can be the joUiest, happiest, 
most engaging little mortal in the world. She will 
always be finding ways to put those with whom she 
comes in contact at their ease. She won't laugh at 
the mistakes that people make. She will help others 
before the latter quite realize their needs and she will 
do so as if she liked to and not as if she thought she 
had to. She will put her heart into all the services, 
big or little, which she renders to her friends whom, 
by the way, she has by the score. 

Men are very fond of girls who are gifted with 
sweet temper. This characteristic will endear a girl 
to her friends of both sexes. I know that most of 
you try to be good-natured when in the presence of 
a man anyway. But that is not sufficient. Dear 
reader, your true temper shows itself in a thousand 
ways that you little think of. No amount of gloss 
and deceit can keep a man in continued ignorance of 
your real self. If you are not innately sweet-tem- 
pered you will show that you are not, do what you 
may. Do you not know that your little brothers and 
sisters, your big brothers and sisters, your father and 
your mother even, will all bear witness as to what 



104 FEOM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

your temper actually is by their attitude towards 
you*? And men are ready to note the significance 
thereof. Indeed, they could not do otherwise but un- 
derstand what the behavior of your relatives toward 
you indicated. 

Don't get angry at trifles. Don't believe that 
things are done to purposely o:ff end you. If you 
quarrel with a friend, be ready to acknowledge your- 
self in the wrong if sober second-thought shows you 
to be so. It pays so much better to cultivate sweet 
temper than bad temper that you can well afford to 
make the first overtures to reconciliation. Don't let 
a wicked and foolish pride control your actions in 
this regard. It isn't so bad to make a mistake, but 
it is very bad to refuse to acknowledge that you have 
made it. The sweet-tempered girl always keeps her 
friends because she is ready to forgive and forget or 
ask for forgiveness at all times. 

Men like a girl who isn't afraid of being nice to 
people who happen to be in an inferior position so- 
cially or otherwise, to her. If you are so constituted 
that you can peep beneath the surface of conditions 
and see sweetness of mind and purity of soul in a 
house-servant as readily as you can in a grand lady, 
you are a girl whom a man knows will be a true 
friend to him and he will appreciate you as such. 



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Men are more natural in their daily lives than are 
women. They do and say what they really feel like 
doing and saying much more than do those of the 
other sex. Girls who have learned to be frank and un- 
affected have found that they made more and firmer 
male friends than if they had acted in the artificial 
manner of the average girl. Don't forget that a man 
has a touch of a baby in his make-up and so he will 
sometimes want you to treat him as if you were his 
mother. He will be delighted to have you tell him 
that he must or must not do certain things. Don't 
always expect him to be a ^^ grown up." Whether 
he is sixteen or sixty, he will every now and then pre- 
tend that he is less than six and act as such. And 
whether you are sixteen or twenty-six he will at such 
times want you to play a maternal part to him. It 
will make a lasting impression upon him for good if 
you take him in one of these infantile and impression- 
able moods and teach him what your ideal of a man is. 

But on the other hand there are times when a man 
wants you to look up to him and reverence and re- 
spect Ms opinions and ideas. A woman may learn 
how to do this without being in any way untrue to 
herself, even though she disagrees somewhat with his 
views of life as he is apt to express them at such 
periods. Be diplomatic and you will be happy. 



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Mrs. Almond Hensley says, ^^The woman who has 
learned when to baby a man and when to be a baby to 
him, has learned the secret of making a man what she 
wiU." 



CHAPTER XVIII 

A giel's ideal man 

" Neither social position or money should enter into the shaping of 
a girl's ideals regarding men.'' 

" She who seeks happiness through money or ambition is as one 
courting slumber on a bed of rocks and briers." — roNTAiNE. 

Do not harbor the silly idea that you are fated to 
fall in love with a man who will make you unhappy 
because of his lack of desirable qualities. Some 
girls — mostly those whose heads are filled with ab- 
surd notions bred of a literary diet of inane and ro- 
mantic novels — persuade themselves that they are 
doomed to a life of woe because of some magnificent 
villain who, in spite of his want of morality, has an 
irresistible personality. This is stupid vaporing. 
It is true that if you allow your affection to root it- 
self and bud and grow in the worthless heart of some 
bad man that you will suffer in consequence, but it is 
equally true that you can, early in your life, decide 
just what kind of a man you ought and intend to ad- 
mire. 

The man you will love will be that one who most 
nearly approaches your ideal, if you have such. If 
you have no ideal shape yourself one at once, for 

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your so doing will insure your falling in love with 
the right kind of a person, for the purity of your 
young heart will aid you in moulding your ideal 
aright. 

Millet, the famous Prencli artist, was once asked 
how it was that his grandchildren all looked like the 
pictures he had painted years before they were born. 
^^ Because," he said, ^^the children resemble their 
fathers. I taught my daughters to admire the kind 
of men I painted — ^because I painted men who were 
fine and true and strong, and of a certain physical 
type. Having these ideals before them, my girls 
made themselves the kind of women that such men 
admire. They could not fall in love with any other 
type of men. And so when the ideal men appeared 
in due season they could not avoid loving my daugh- 
ters, for the latter were the physical and spiritual 
complements of their own feminine ideals. '^ There- 
fore when you shape your ideal you must decide on 
what you too will be, and what your children are to be 
also. For the constant and vivid vision of an ideal 
will impose the obligation upon you of making your- 
self the woman who will satisfy him when he comes 
into your life. 

If you desire a fine man physically for a hus- 
band, you must develop your health and sti^ength, 



A GIRL'S IDEAL MAN 109 

endurance and vitality by every means known to you. 
If you want a man to love you who is well-de- 
veloped mentally, you must not dawdle about the 
house reading trashy, yellow-back novels. You must 
learn to use your brains to advantage or else, despite 
anything you say or believe, you do not really deserve 
the love of your ideal very much — and you won't get 
it, even if you find him. 

If you want a man to love you who is morally 
strong, you must be his counterpart morally. You 
must not be selfish or allow others to bear your bur- 
dens. You must not be too weak to correct the faults 
with which you may be afflicted. You must be able 
to say *^yes" or **no" even if the so saying costs you 
that which you greatly desire. 

It is a singular fact that a strong and continued 
desire for an object will in time breed the ability to 
acquire it. The wish that a certain type of man shall 
love you, will therefore make you willing to exert 
every power you possess to bring that love to pass. 
You will strive morning, noon and night to secure 
such a love. You will let nothing retard or discour- 
age you. 

But what kind of man ought you to thus desire? 
Let us picture him. He will have good lung power 
and so he will breathe deeply. This will endow him 



110 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

with vitality and pure blood. He will hold himself 
well and his head will be carried erect. Do you know 
that a good chest indicates afection ? Let your ideal 
have a broad, deep chest then. His eyes will be clear, 
his complexion indicative of much contact with cold 
water and fresh air. His breath will be sweet from 
a sound digestion. If his teeth are strong and 
white and of good size they betoken that he comes of 
sound parents and has a fine constitution. One's 
physical inheritance shows nowhere more plainly 
than in the case of the teeth. 

Intuition, in almost every instance, where the wom- 
an is perfectly healthy and when the sex instinct has 
not been dwarfed by the corset or other vices, will 
guide in the selection of a companion, lover or hus- 
band. For the purpose of the elimination of the 
weak and the perpetuation of the strong Nature has 
implanted desires in woman which she intuitively 
follows. For instance, women, as a rule, love physic- 
ally strong men. Fathers are known to impart more 
of the physical characteristics to offspring than does 
the mother. Women, therefore, instinctively and 
strongly desire men for their mates who are possessed 
of the physical requisites. The men they can love are 
tall, broad-shouldered, athletic, muscular and strong- 
featured. They feel a natural repulsion toward the 



A GIRL'S IDEAL MAN 111 

dwarfed and sickly weakling, made so usually by to- 
bacco, liquor or other impairing vices. 

Women instinctively love courage, prowess and 
force in a man. Throughout the entire animal king- 
dom the male is the natural protector of the female 
and offspring. Brave sons and energetic, strong- 
minded daughters descend from brave fathers, and 
therefore instinct leads women to crave courage 
in men. Women instinctively despise cowardice and 
sniveling and abominate bashf ulness, which is a phase 
of cowardice and comes from lack of character, phys- 
ical strength or from secret evil habits. 

Women look for firmness and stability in men and 
despise the wabbling, procrastinating, undetermined 
*^ putty" man whose lack of clear judgment, steady 
purpose and strong resolve is usually the result of to- 
bacco and other brain and character-destroying 
habits. Offspring derive perseverance, decision, 
back-bone and character chiefly from the firm father. 

Women long for nobleness, magnanimity, dignity, 
majesty and self-command in the man they would 
love. All highly sexed men possess such qualities in 
common with the lion and other superb animals of the 
animal kingdom. Intuition engenders scorn within 
them for the man who lets himself down, makes him- 
self mean, small and despicable. They despise the 



112 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

man whom they can order, hen-peck, over-rnle and 
subdue. 

Women crave gallantry, consideration and fore- 
thought in him who, all through the animal kingdom, 
is the vested guardian, and caretaker of the female 
during the period of motherhood. 

The final intuitional guidance that governs a wom- 
an 's choice under normal conditions is that which 
makes her select a man possessed of powerful sexual 
vigor. Potential virility is even more necessary in 
the father than it is in the mother. In him the life- 
force is implanted. Weak, senile and declining men 
bequeath their weakness to their children even if the 
mother be strong, while strongly magnetized fathers 
indelibly impress their virility and inherent force 
upon their offspring. 

If you are a decided blonde, a man of dark com- 
plexion will perhaps best suit you. But if you are a 
pronounced brunette select a blonde mate. If you 
are neither very light or very dark a man of medium 
coloring should be congenial to you. Yet after all 
there is no hard and fast rule in regard to such 
selections. 

The vexed question as to whether a girl's ideal 
shall have moral and intellectual qualities which are 
akin to, or directly opposed to those of her own, is 



A GIRL^S IDEAL MAN 113 

one that has puzzled the feminine heart and brain 
ever since men began to woo and maids to consent. 
Yetj if you have but an approximate idea of the true 
meaning and principles of matrimony, the solving 
of the riddle is but a matter of a moment as we shall 
presently see. 

The popular — but mistaken — belief in regard to 
the matter seems to be that a girl ought to marry a 
man who has nothing in common with her whatever. 
Thus, if you are spiritual, you are to believe that you 
should unite yourself with one who is eminently ma- 
terial; if poetical, with him who is practical; if 
thrifty, with a spendthrift, or, if you are a home- 
body with a man who is never happy unless he is on 
the gad. ^^ Marry your opposite" is a maxim that is 
pretty nearly as erroneous as it is ancient. 

Now the truth of the matter is that the essence of 
married happiness is distilled from communing tastes 
and interests. ^^And they twain shall be one flesh" 
is a Divine assertion that has a far deeper meaning 
than its mere words imply. Not only one flesh, 
should man and wife be, but one heart, brain and 
spirit. Not only two hearts that beat as one, but two 
souls that throb with the like hopes, desires and as- 
pirations. Man and woman, when living apart, may 
be compared to the two halves of a sphere — imper- 



114 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

feet and more or less useless forms. United, they be- 
come a perfected whole, ready to fulfill the mutual 
purposes of their creation. But if one half sphere 
be much smaller than the other, or if the edges of one 
be full of jagged irregularities, while the edges of 
the other are perfectly smooth, how can there be a 
union of them worthy of the name *? Similarity, mu- 
tuality and congeniality are the three golden bands 
that bind those who are truly married. Lacking 
them, toleration gives way to indifference and that in 
turn to disgust. Look the proposition squarely in the 
face, dear girls. Let us presume that you, being 
gifted with a fair share of intellectual talent, have 
married your ^^ opposite." Very well. But the 
glamour of courting days is gone or is diminished as it 
is bound to be, the honeymoon is over, and the novelty 
of your being addressed as Mrs. So and So has passed 
also. You are in touch with the duties and routine 
of real life and for you no longer are the dreams, 
trifles, fancies and excitements of your girlish days. 
So that you have to look to your home and your hus- 
band for recreation when you need it, consolation 
when you yearn for it, and inspiration when you de- 
sire it. 

But! You have married your ^^ opposite." So 
after a period of humdrum drudgery the very core of 



A GIRL'S IDEAL MAN 115 

your soul craves for the restful relief of a good lit- 
erary chat or a magazine article, or a poem — any- 
thing to relieve your intellectual starvation. But 
John, being your ^^ opposite," will, after the evening 
meal, bury himself in the sporting pages of his paper 
or talk shop, or take a run round to his club. In any 
event he will do anything but just the thing that you 
want him to do, simply because, poor fellow, he cannot 
understand your mental needs in the first place and 
couldn't gratify them if he did, in the second. He 
and you have nothing in common you must remem- 
ber. 

If you have a strong individuality and your ^^ op- 
posite" husband is strongly individual also, the situa- 
tion is fraught with much danger to both of you. 
Uncongeniality breeds dissension as surely as fire 
makes smoke. Now where the parties to a dissension 
are both possessed of much will power there may be 
a breaking but rarely a bending. And the graver 
the subjects around which centre the discussion the 
less likelihood is there of concession or retraction. 
A difference of religious or sociological or even polit- 
ical opinion between a strongly minded man and a 
similarly constituted wife may, for example, lead to 
the permanent estrangement of the pair. 

Of course there are exceptions to every rule and 



116 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

again the most perfectly mated couple may differ 
about unimportant affairs. But on the whole and to 
once more quote a Divine suggestion, ^^Be ye not un- 
equally yoked together." 

In any event try and centre your affections on a 
man who takes a cheerful view of life, who believes 
that the world is better to-day than it used to be, and 
who is on the lookout for good in his fellows rather 
than evil. For such a man is helpful to himself, to 
those whom he loves and to the world at large. He 
will be as true to you as to himself. 

The man who looks you straight in the eye when 
he talks to you, who grasps your hand firmly and ex- 
presses himself modestly yet without hesitation after 
he has overcome his initial nervousness, will make a 
good husband. For the signs in question betoken 
that he is on good terms with his conscience, being, 
as he is, one of sincerity having a clean sweet soul. 

Beware of the man who is shifty in his glances and 
uncertain in his hand-clasp. He has lost faith in the 
world, because he no longer deserves the world's 
faith, and incidentally he has lost faith in himself. 

The ideal man is generous. This does not mean 
that he will spend money in a lavishly foolish fash- 
ion. Very ungenerous men often do that much to 
the end of gratifying their vulgar vanity. But the 



A GIRL'S IDEAL MAN 117 

truly generous man uses his money wisely although, 
when the occasion arises, he can spend it royally. 

Find out how a man treats people with whom he 
comes in contact in business. Does he grind them 
down to the last penny ? Does he forget that they are 
human beings with feelings and interests similar to 
those of his own ? Or does he behave with consistent 
equity to aU, including those who work for him if 
such there be? And, by the way, it's an excellent 
thing for a girl to ascertain what a man's employees 
think of him. A man may show his sweetheart a 
sham personality. He will show his workmen his 
real self. 

Don't yearn for the love of a man who shines in 
society. The most desirable of men often fight shy 
of crowds and dislike the insincerity of conventional 
social life so thoroughly that they shun it as much as 
they possibly can. Men who are not fond of society 
are usually lovers of home-life and take the keenest 
pleasure in being with the one person whom they 
love. 

Above all things do not make the mistake of think- 
ing that money is as essential as the man. If he is 
the right sort, he can make all the money that you 
need, presuming that you are not cursed with avarice 
or ambition. Money does not bring happiness to a 



118 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOLIANHOOD 

wedded pair. If it did we w^ould not read every day 
in the newspapers about this or that millionaire suing 
or being sued for a divorce. Money does not luring 
happiness to a tvife» But manliness in her hushand 
does, A manly man ! That 's the kind of mate your 
womanly young heart wants. See that you secure 
such an one. 



CHAPTER XIX 

SIGNS IN A MAN THAT INDICATE WEAKNESS AND 

EFFEMINACY 

" The Creator has willed that there shall be masculine women and 
effeminate men — and only He knows why ! But of the two, the 
invertebrate in trousers is the more unpleasant as he is the more use- 
less." — Henry Inchcliffe. 

Beware of a man with a weak, uncertain mouth. 
He will be of vacillating character, shiftless disposi- 
tion and uncertain will. You want for friends only 
those men who are true and reliable, who know the 
powers and limitations of their own minds and can 
aid you in similarly knowing yours. 

After your character is formed, and if you are a 
woman of strong individuality you need not fear to 
be friendly with even weak individuals of the other 
sex, because you can assuredly be of great help to 
them. But it is well to thoroughly know those whom 
you propose to help and those from whom you can 
properly accept help. And while you are yet a girl 
you had probably better make only those of the latter 
class your friends. 

There is a famous doctor in Chicago who says that 
weakness of mind or body is more obvious in a per- 
son's poise than in anything else. However, one 

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may confuse mental, moral and physical weakness 
for all three or any one may demonstrate itself in 
the same manner. This is very interesting, and that 
it is strictly true you will find by observation. A 
man of weak will power, a man who is tricky, or a 
man who has consumption, walk in the same way; 
and each has a sunken chest and carries his chin 
thrust forward and downward. A man who is sen- 
sual and a man who has a poor spine will each have 
a hollow below the waist line while the lower part of 
the body is thrust forward. 

A man of indi:fferent physique or a man who can- 
not decide a question of importance for himself will 
have knees which seem to knock together when he 
walks. 

A man who doesn't hold up his head may be lack- 
ing in self-respect, or on the other hand, he may be 
absent-minded or suffering from nervous exhaustion. 

There are other physical peculiarities due to mental 
or moral causes as well as physical weaknesses. Thus 
a man's voice may lack clear resonant firmness be- 
cause he has throat trouble, wants confidence in his 
ability, or is an habitual liar. 

A man's hand may tremble because he is over- 
worked, or is an excessive smoker or has done some- 
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SIGNS OP WEAKNESS IN MEN 121 

A man's face may be flushed because he is unused 
to the society of ladies, or has been drinking alcoholic 
beverages or is possessed of thoughts that he is 
ashamed to confess to himself. 

A man may turn pale when he is addressed by a 
woman because his circulation is poor or through 
sheer nervousness. 

A man may tremble so much when he sees you 
that his gait is uncertain, either because he loves you, 
or because he has spinal trouble. 

Do you think that the man who is everlastingly 
talking of doing things but never does them, the man 
who persists in thinking of the future and won't get 
to work in the present, is the man to whom you ought 
to entrust your life and your heart, handsome and 
engaging though he may be ? I do not. 

So you see that physical and mental suggestions 
can't be said to be always due to physical defects. 
Yet for all that you may be assured that a man who 
has a bad complexion, a bad breath, a shambling gait 
and drooping shoulders is not the man who lives the 
clean life that you want your prospective husband to 
live. 

Particularly would I impress upon you the danger 
of forming a friendship or perhaps intrusting your 
life and future happiness with the so-called moderate 



122 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

diinker or smoker. Now, my readers, believe me, 
there is no such thing as moderate drinking or smok- 
ing. Both of these vices work in almost the same 
serpent-like, insidious manner. There is a fate that 
comes to every moderate drinker and smoker which, 
could he recognize its approach, would cause the 
sweat to form on his brow and fear to seize him. 

Slowly but surely these two vices dull the sympa- 
thies and paralyze the affections. The nerves, as 
they endeavor to protect themselves against the 
poison, become sheathed in tissue and so hardened 
that their functional processes are performed only 
with great difficulty. You may not note the effects 
of this gradual change on the young man, but look at 
the dull, glazed eye, the phlegmatic, expressionless 
countenance of the chronic alcohol or tobacco sot. 
No life, no energy ; but little intelligence there. He is 
apparently living but he is really more dead than 
alive. He is ready for the grave, but still he manifests 
life. As I said before, the young man may not show 
evidence of this gradual nerve decay within him be- 
cause of his vigorous constitution and good health, 
but recall to mind the cruel unhappiness that is 
caused in thousands of homes of married couples be- 
cause the husband who seemed full of love and tender- 
ness a few short years ago, has lost the fine qualities 



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that are so necessary to permanent, satisfying love. 

That, my girl readers, is the effect of tobacco and 
liquor upon the love of a man. Love that depends 
upon human sympathies, and upon the delicate poise 
of the nervous sensibilities. A man to love must be 
a man in every sense of the word, must thrill with 
nervous and vital power. No foreign poison should 
ever be allowed to dull the activity of his bodily func- 
tions. No stimulation must ever numb the delicate 
. sensitiveness of his nervous organism. 

I want every one of the girl readers who under- 
stand the full meaning of these words not only to 
recognize the danger that lies in tolerating tobacco 
and alcohol in any form, but I want you to fight this 
great destroyer of human love and happiness. If 
you have a father, a brother or a male companion, 
convince him that every drop of alcohol he takes and 
that every bit of tobacco that he consumes will help 
to steal just so much of his affection from you. Con- 
vince him that the habit is not only evil and unclean, 
but that it dulls and deadens his nervous sensibilities. 
It is impossible for him to retain his affections and 
high moral tone in all its original purity and strength 
if he is an alcohol tippler or a slave to the tobacco 
habit. 

Now these men who do not live healthy, happy or 



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useful lives, may be very mucli helped by youi^ ex- 
ample and advice. But wait imtil you have had such 
experience of mankind in general as will enable you 
to be sm'e of youi'self before you try to aid them. 
And don't expect that a man is redeemed for all time 
when, under the influence of regard for you, he 
changes his life for a few months. Before you be- 
lieve a man's statement that he is really reformed 
he must prove to you that he prefers a clean, pure 
life to his old recreations, friends and associations 
by shunning the latter for a long or permanent period. 



CHAPTER XX 

TEMPTATIONS THAT COME TO GIKLS — EFFECTS OF BAD 

HABITS 

" Health and good estate of body are above all gold, and a strong 
body above infinite wealth. There is no richness above a sound 
body." — EccLESiASTicus. 

To very many of you who read this book there will 
be no temptations to overcome in regard to your 
bodies, presuming that you have the needful knowl- 
edge of your physical beings. If, when you were 
yet young your mother or your father or your teacher 
saw to it that you knew just what was and what was 
not good for you, you will, in the interval, have made 
no mistakes about yourself. In that case, your body 
has never been hurt or injured by you or have you 
prevented it from attaining its perfect growth. 

You may have heard from servants or playmates 
something about those things against which you have 
been cautioned. But if properly warned, you will 
have had no desire to do that which you have been told 
was so harmful to you. 

There are however, girls, and these, it is pitifully 
sad to say, are in the majority, who have never had 

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given them a word of tender admonislnnent or of lov- 
ing advice. 

There are many of such who have never been 
taught the necessity of keeping every part of their 
bodies perfectly cleansed, and so, in their endeavor to 
allay the irritation resulting from accumulated secre- 
tions which should have been removed by bathing, 
have imiocently learned the terrible habit of self 
abuse. The fault and the sin lies at the door of the 
parents or guardians of the victim. 

In the chapter on the Organs of Sex, there has been 
given such a full description of them that you wiU 
understand right here what is meant. If around and 
about the labia and the clitoris, mucus and other 
secretions are allowed to gather there will of neces- 
sity be great discomfort. And any girl would nat- 
urally try to relieve herself. Thus she learns to touch 
those parts of the body which Nature has taken spe- 
cial care to put in a position where they need never 
be handled, excepting for cleansing purposes. They 
are acutely sensitive, and cannot be tampered with 
without resultant harm of some kind. One of the 
most grievous of the results of so handling them is 
this — that you feel you are doing something very 
wrong. At first you shrink from the idea, but by de- 
grees you don't mind it. And when this condition 



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of mind becomes habitual you are on the downward 
path. The habit makes you shrink from your 
friends and your family, and impels you to think of 
yourself as something vile, unclean. You lack cour- 
age to attempt any reformation because you believe 
yourself too weak morally to consummate it. Fail- 
ing to believe in your own moral power, you under- 
estimate that of others, and you become cynical and 
pessimistic. Self-abuse, abusing yourself! Of 
course you would never have begun it had you under- 
stood its consequences morally and in other ways. 
For no girl wishes to harm her character even in her 
own estimation. But what does it do to you men- 
tally? Well, among other things, it fills your mind 
with evil thoughts which keep you from concentrat- 
ing your attention on any work that you have in 
hand. It distorts your views of life. You cannot 
think normally of love and marriage. Very often it 
creates an aversion to the normal uses of the organs 
of sex. And the terribly persistent hold which it 
takes upon a young life cannot be described. Even 
if you learned the habit innocently, so to speak, yet, 
when you came to see that it was a vile habit you may 
have tried with all your girlish strength to shake it 
off. Again and again you made the effort — and 
failed. Gradually your will power weakened, or 



128 FEOM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

rather your belief in your will power did. And when 
you tried to exercise decision in connection with 
other affairs of life, you found that you could not do 
so. By degrees you developed into an irresolute and 
moral nonentity. 

What has self -abuse done to you physically "? It 
has taken the girlish bloom from your cheeks and 
left them a pasty white. It has stolen the crimson 
from your lips, and the brightness and sparkle from 
your eyes. It has given you indigestion, and tainted 
your breath. It has caused scorbutic attacks — the 
befouling of your complexion — ^which you have tried 
so hard to remedy. When you began to develop into 
womanhood, it was probably responsible for the pains 
you then suffered. Very often it leaves you with a 
childish body when you should have one matured and 
womanly. It halts the development of your features, 
and gives you the facial insignificance of childhood 
instead of the decisive and charming countenance of 
womanhood. Your voice never possesses the perfect 
quality and sweetness of that of a well-sexed girl. 
All of which means that you lack the charm of a 
normal girl, and therefore the ability to make any 
man love you with a love worth the having. 

One of the happy facts in Nature is that we find 
pleasure in the performance of all the functions of 



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life. This is as true of the sexual act as it is of eating 
or drinking. But the act in question is the only one 
of our existences in which another human being is 
involved. If the pleasurable sensation incidental 
thereto is produced by yourself alone, there is no ex- 
change of magnetism as there is when the act is nor- 
mal and the consequence is that through want of 
reciprocity you lose a tremendous amount of vitality. 
Now you are not to have the idea that there is any- 
thing essentially wrong in sexual feeling, but only 
that its gratification in an abnormal way brings you 
terrible results. Nature has so ordered it that self- 
abuse destroys the body, and benumbs the mind so 
that she who should have been a bright healthy 
maiden becomes a poor unsexed apology for a woman. 



CHAPTER XXI 

HOW TO CURE BAD HABITS 

"Habit is the deepest law of human nature. It is our supreme 
strength, if also in certain circumstances, our miserablest weakness." 

— Carlyle. 

You have all heard the old saying about habit be- 
ing a cable, of which we weave a thread every day. 
Well, it may be broken in just the way that it was 
made. That is, a little, a very little at a time. Do 
not be discouraged if you find that an undesirable 
habit of yours camiot be broken all at once. And be 
encouraged by the thought that as you gi^adually rid 
yourself of the bad habit, you may coincidently form 
a good one. Furthermore, the strength of the good 
one is going to be just as great as was the power of 
the bad one. 

The best way to free yourself of an evil habit 
is to understand how it originated. If it came into 
existence through lack of cleanliness, give cleanliness 
yoiu' close attention. Wash yourself frequently with 
warm water and white castile soap, being careful to 
remove every morsel of secretion that gathers in or 
about your sexual organ. Be sure that you change 

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your clothing frequently, and that no part of it chafes 
your person. It is much better to wear open under- 
clothing than closed, as this allows of the free circu- 
lation of air around the body, and prevents over- 
heating. Wear as thin clothing as you can with 
comfort, both winter and summer. 

Deep breathing exercises will be of great value to 
you. You must understand that you have been in 
the habit of directing too much of your nervous 
energy and blood to one part of the body. Now you 
must learn to send it elsewhere. Practice the exer- 
cises given in the chapter on beautifying the arms, 
bust and chest. Running for short distances is also 
good. Have a special time of the day set aside for 
your exercises and do not neglect them. But if in 
the interval the inclination comes to you to do your- 
self harm, practice the breathing exercises forthwith 
and you will find that by so doing you will stifle the 
temptation. 

You must pay especial attention to the cultivation 
of your will power. Have faith in your ability to do 
that which you want to do. Determine that you will 
not permit your mind to harbor evil thoughts. The 
greatest help in breaking a habit is to kill the memory 
of it and its debasing pleasures. 

Do you know that you can absolutely control your 



132 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

thoughts'? You may not be responsible for those 
that insist on intruding themselves on you, but you 
are responsible for those that you give shelter to. 
Your brain will readily receive the thoughts that you 
teach it to receive. You have cultivated a certain 
part of your brain to an abnormal extent by thinking 
about and doing certain things too much. Now 
you must decrease the size of that overgrown part 
of your brain by not feeding it with the thoughts 
that made it what it is. You can rid yourself of 
any undesirable thought by turning your attention 
to some other thing in place of it. But have some 
definite line of meritorious thought ready which you 
may use every time that you are tempted to indulge 
in the old bad reveries. 

One view of the case is that self -abuse is the nat- 
ural result of prudish teaching in childhood. There 
is much truth in this. If little boys and girls were 
allowed to play together, unrestrictedly caress and 
kiss each other, as they always want to unhindered 
by the vulgar jests or harsh reproofs from unwise 
elders, it might be that the longing for sexual ex- 
pression would in such ways be normally satisfied. 
But when there is no possibility of a legitimate out- 
let for the sexual emotion on the pure and natural 
lines indicated, it takes an illegitimate channel that 



HOW TO CUEE BAD HABITS 133 

means ruin to the poor misguided child. This idea 
of the subject is of value as suggesting preventative 
measures. You have found perhaps that you do not 
care to associate with boys and young men since you 
formed the habit. Now pursue the opposite plan. 
Mingle with them as much as possible. Be enter- 
taining and helpful, and find some way of making 
yourself of interest to them, so that they will seek 
your society. Let no shyness or remembrance of 
your sin stand in the way of carrying out your resolu- 
tion in this regard. Then again, occupy yourself 
with something that will keep you with your family 
or friends. In the morning when you waken, get up 
at once. After exercising, take a cold sponge bath. 
When you become sufficiently robust try a cold 
plunge. 

Pay attention to your diet. It will be a great help 
to you if you will adopt a strictly physical culture 
diet. Eat a great deal of fruit. Keep your bowels 
open. Don 't take your last meal after four o 'clock in 
the afternoon if you can help it. The best plan is to 
eat at about ten and again at four. This may not be 
always practicable for you, but adapt yourself as 
nearly as you can to these rules. 

At night before you go to bed, have a short walk 
or, better still, a run in the open air, breathing deeply 



134 FPvOM aiELHOOD TO WOIIANHOOD 

wMle so doing. See to it tliat your room is well 
ventilated, and that the bed clothing is not too heavy. 
Centre your mind upon the purest and happiest 
things that you know of before you go to sleep and 
you will probably dream of them. 

And now, my dear child, when you are beginning 
to break the fetters of the vice that we have been 
talking about, do not think of yourself with loathing 
and abhorrence. The habit is bad surely, but then 
you yourself are not the habit. A professor at Har- 
vard College said, during a talk to young men on the 
subject of self -abuse, that he believed the self hate 
with which one who practiced the vice came to look 
upon himself did more harm than the habit itself. 
If then you stop believing yourself to be degraded 
beyond redemption the battle is more than half won J 
You must and should have confidence and faith in 
yourself. 

Be patient and hopeful, and never for one minute 
doubt but that in the end, you will be victorious. And 
when the time comes that you are once more the com- 
plete mistress of yourself, having all the glowing 
beauty of healthy young womanhood, you will feel 
amply repaid for your struggle for freedom. 



CHAPTER XXII 

EVn: THOUGHT AND CONVERSATION MUST BE AVOIDED 

" A girl who is pure minded, whose mother has won her confidence 
and trust, will follow more readily that mother's instructions and 
obey her than she will listen to the poisoning words of a viciously- 
inclined and mentally diseased companion." — Dr. A. W. Jackson. 

A young girl cannot be too careful in her choice of 
friends and companions of her own sex. All of us 
have met that class of degenerated girls v^ho are ready 
to think and talk of evil, who create a feeling of repul- 
sion in those with whom they come in contact. Don 't 
have anything to do with these. They should be 
religiously shunned for, corrupt themselves, they are 
apt to try to corrupt those who associate with them. 

All that is good and sweet and true in a girl, un- 
less she is of exceptionally strong character, will 
suffer by contact with the evil-minded. You cannot 
afford to take the chance of getting your purity be- 
smirched. You camiot afford to risk contamination 
through the medium of the acts or words of others. 

Girls who have never been taught that sex is a pure 
subject, have distorted and degenerate ideas regarding 
it of which they are actually ashamed, but yet which 
they want to confide to others. Say to them when 

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they try to broach the subject to you that you have 
no curiosity to satisfy in regard to such matters. 
You know about your body and what the functions 
of the di:fferent parts of it are. That is sufficient for 
you and hence you have no interest in their prurient 
notions. You, having been properly taught, look 
upon sex as something that is quite as normal as it is 
pure, and so you will not listen to any unclean specu- 
lations or theories regarding it. Say as much as this 
to them and you will find that no girl ever had to 
talk to evil acquaintances more than once in this 
fashion. You have advanced an argument in behalf 
of clean talking and clean thinking which they can- 
not gainsay and which make dumb their impure lips. 



CHAPTER XXIII 

SIGNS THAT INDICATE AWAKENING LOVE IN A MAN 

" Love is the consummation of the highest ideals of the spiritual 
nature of man. Love ' seeketh not its own.' Love ' thinketh no 
evil'."— G. G. Pendell. 

^'He loves me. He loves me not. He loves me!'' 
You have sometimes, many times perhaps, pulled the 
petals from a daisy and waited, all anxiety, to see 
which way the counting was to end. For there is 
nothing in the world more fascinating to a girl or a 
woman than the solving of the problem as to whether 
*^he" loves her. 

When a man is a very, very young man, say, in his 
teens, it is not difficult to ascertain if he is, or thinks 
himself to be, in love with you. Under the influence 
of the tender passion he will develop a sudden inter- 
est in the details of his toilet, and the cut, color and 
^^set" of his clothes become of tremendous conse- 
quence to him. His shoes will seem like ebony mir- 
rors, the tint of his ties cause him much thought, he 
watches anxiously for tokens of a mustache and he 
refrains from onions while he indulges in perfumes. 

His brother who is a little older than he will also 
furnish tokens of his fancy being 'lightly turned to 

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thoughts of love/' but in a somewhat different fash- 
ion. He does not wear his heart upon his sleeve 
quite as obviously as does the other boy. His signals 
of hope and longing, entreaty and desire are a sort of 
private code to be read only by the girl herself. If 
you are that girl he will treat you as a being set apart 
from all the world and made of altogether different 
clay to that of common mortals. He will probably 
become tongue tied in your presence when he most 
desires to be eloquent. He will find that his hands 
are dreadfully superfluous when you look at him, 
though he had never found them to be too many or 
too large before. He will wonder how his sister dare 
take such liberty as to put her arm around the waist 
of such a divinity as yourself, precisely as if you 
were just an ordinary girl. And it will take him a 
long, long time to find out that you devoutly wish that 
he wouldn't expect you to be so vastly different from 
other people. 

But the lovers who cannot conceal their affection, 
those whose cases can be diagnosed at a glance, are 
not the kind that make girls lose their sleep. It is 
the man who is versed in a maiden's ways and moods 
that has to be studied with care to the end of finding 
out the meaning of the things which he does, or says 
or leaves imsaid. It goes without saying that there 



AWAKENING OF A MAN'S LOVE 139 

are many advantages in being able to assure yourself 
whether a man does or does not love you. 

In the first place, if he does do so and you can't 
return his love, you may save him much pain by 
tactfully letting him understand just what your feel- 
ings are regarding him. It won't be necessary to use 
many words in so doing. But you can tell him kind- 
ly and gently, that while you like and respect him — 
if you really do — ^that you do not think you can enter- 
tain for him any feelings except those of friendship. 

In the second jolace the power to read a man's heart 
will enable you to tell when he is making the mistake 
of thinking that he loves you when he does not. For 
men often confuse a fleeting emotion with a lasting 
affection. 

In the third place, your intuition wiU warn you 
when a man is trying to make you think that he loves 
you, when he really entertains no regard for you 
whatever. 

A mistake that young girls too often make is in 
supposing that words softly spoken and eyes looking 
long and tenderly in their own are unmistakable 
tokens that a man loves them devotedly. 

My dear girls, many men are made that way. Such 
Individuals can't give an order to a pretty waitress 
in a restaurant without lowering their voice to a pitch 



140 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

of tenderness and saying sweet things with their eyes. 
It means nothing at aU to them. They act thus for 
the same reason that ducks quack — ^they cannot help 
it. 

Then too, it does not of necessity mean that a man 
is much in love with you because he takes you out a 
great deal or calls upon you frequently. Before 
you jump at conclusions regarding such of his atten- 
tions ask yourself the question whether there is any 
other girl whom he could more conveniently visit 
than you. In small cities there are almost always 
several girls in a man's own set who are easily avail- 
able for social purposes. But in a big city where a 
man is often living away from his youthful friends 
and acquaintances, it not infrequently happens that 
he knows but very few girls who are congenial to 
him on whom he can call when so inclined. And 
when the social desire seizes him it may happen that 
you are the most convenient person with which to 
gratify it. So that you may receive a deal of atten- 
tion from him without his loving you the least little 
bit. Man is a gregarious animal, you know, and likes 
to flock with his kind, especially girls, and hence he's 
not going to stay at home or go out alone with men, 
you see. 

But what is it, then, that indicates the presence of 



AWAKENING OP A MAN'S LOVE 141 

a man's highest and purest and sweetest emotion 
— a true love? His desire for your happiness, ex- 
pressed in countless ways, that and nothing more. 
Not the desire for you to recognize his love, not even 
a desire for you to return it, but only a desire to in- 
sure you lasting pleasures, sincere joys and the giv- 
ing of ungrudging services on his part to that end. 
The man who really loves a girl will yield her to 
another if by so doing he thinks he can encompass 
her happiness. Unselfish devotion is the basis and 
token of true love. Such a love will make a man 
careful of your interests in every way. It will make 
him want to do the things that you like rather than 
those that he himself prefers. If he has a very 
strong personality he may in time teach you to ap- 
preciate and desire the things that he does, but he 
will never attempt to shape your tastes by persuasion 
or dictation. The desire on the part of a man to 
make that of himself which he knows you wish him 
to be indicates very emphatically that he loves you. 
Crimg-stained men have before now been so influ- 
enced by their love for a pure, sweet woman that they 
have forsaken evil, atoned for their reckless pasts 
and have developed into admirable citizens. Again, 
the man who loves you will find in you those beauties 
of feature and form that even you yourself did not 



142 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

dream that you possessed. So it will be that he 
will lavish admiration on what you say and do, 
when no one else notices that there is anything of 
moment in either one or the other. He will neces- 
sarily believe you to be the purest, sweetest, dearest 
little woman in all the world. He may not tell you so 
very often, perhaps, or rather his so doing will de- 
pend upon his temperament and his nationality. If 
he is of Celtic or Latin extraction he will be apt to 
] declare just what he thinks of you many times a day. 
If he is Scotch he may never tell you at all, but his 
dogged tenderness and reverent manner will be suffi- 
ciently convincing. If he is of English descent and 
has got rid of some of the stolidity of his ancestors 
he may tell you so occasionally, and when he does he 
will mean it absolutely. If he is an American he 
will try to express himself by finding every day a 
new way to make you happy. 

Don't believe that there is any love test which may 
be applied indiscriminately to all men. For each 
man is different from every other man, and so all 
love making, either of the spoken or unspoken sort, 
is tinctured by the individuality of the lover. 

But if all signs seem to fail and you are stiU in 
doubt as to whether a man loves you, what then ? 

Why, then, put the question to your womanly intui- 



AWAKENING OF A MAN'S LOVE 143 

tion, and that will be more likely to answer aright 
than your reason, powers of observation or even your 
heart I 



CHAPTER XXIV 

THE ATTITUDE OF A GIRL TOWARD THE MAN WHOSE LOVE 
SHE DESIRES TO WIN. 

" In women men find beings wlio have not wandered as far as they 
have from the typical life of earth's creatures; women are for men 
the human embodiments of the restful responsiveness of nature. 
To every man, as Michelet puts it, the woman whom he loves is as 
the earth was to her legendary son; he has but to fall down and kiss 
her breast and he is strong again." 

— ^Havelock Ellis. 

If you want a man to love yon, be yourself. Don't 
be a sham in any way or manner whatsoever. Don't 
try to make him think that you are anything in the 
world but that which you really are. That doesn't 
mean that you must not let your love help you to cor- 
rect your faults. A girl's character is often trans^ 
formed by the influence of a strong love. But don't 
disown or cover up your shortcomings ; correct them 
instead. If you truly love, the thought that the one 
who is the object of your affection approves of this, 
or disapproves of that, will make it possible for you 
to attain a moral and intellectual plane to which you 
otherwise would not have even aspired. 

Don't ignore the faults of a man, neither expect 
him to be without them. Be indeed very thankful 
that he has some. A girl wants to love a real, live 

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WINNING THE LOVE OF A MAN 145 

man, 'and not an impossible angelic sort of being. 
Yet for all that, it is as much your duty to try and 
correct Ms faults as it is for him to assist you in over- 
coming yours. But such correction calls for much 
tact and patience. Suppose, for instance, that the 
man you love is a confirmed smoker. Now don't nag 
him about the habit. Don't scold him or worry him. 
Nevertheless realize from the first that a man can 
stop smoking if he wants to, and if he doesn't want 
to he won't. So that his response to your endeavors 
to get him to cease will be even more a test of the sin- 
cerity of his affection for you than it will be of the 
strength of his will power. 

The truth of the matter is, my dear girls, that a 
man who has the instincts of a gentleman apart from 
the promptings of a lover will never venture into the 
presence of a woman while reeking of stale tobacco 
smoke. Even the nostrils of a case-hardened, nico- 
tine-pickled smoker do not enjoy the odor of deceased 
cigars, pipes or cigarettes. Yet the alleged lover will 
not hesitate to come to the sweet, wholesome young 
creature whom he professes to love with his lips yel- 
low with nicotine juice, a breath of foulness, stained 
nails and fingers, and clothing exuding a stench most 
sickening. And he feels hurt if she shows some 
signs of physical repulsion when he attempts to take 



146 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

her in his arms and press his loathsome lips to her 
untainted ones. 

Don't be afraid to tell such a lover, if you have one 
like this, that he is making himself repugnant to you 
physically by his habit. If he departs in a rage and 
doesn't come back again, congratulate yourself on 
having got rid of somebody who valued your affec- 
tion less than he does a cheap cigar or a packet of 
cigarettes. His love for you was probably worth 
just half on this basis of comparison. Girls who are 
clean in habit, body and mind have a right to insist 
on similar modes of cleanliness in their friends, 
sweethearts and husbands. Remember always that 
men will only come up to such standards as their 
women require of them. Women to-day are, as a rule, 
more cleanly in their habits than are men, for they 
do not smoke, get drunk, or indulge in other vices, 
largely because men will not tolerate such habits. 
Men hold women to a high standard of acts and be- 
havior, while women allow men any standard which 
they choose, and accept them nevertheless. However, 
there are not wanting indications that the old order 
of things in this regard is passing away with the as- 
sertion of the independence and individuality of 
womanhood. 

When you begin your missionary work with him 



WINNING THE LOVE OF A MAN 147 

and after your preliminary frank avowal of your 
dislike for stale tobacco odors, talk the subject over 
in a spirit of comradesliip. Show him that smoking 
is harmful physically. Dwell on its evil influence on 
his nerves, and tell him that it takes far longer to 
repair the nerve tissues of the body than tissues of 
any other sort. Point out to him that no man who 
smokes can ever be as good a father as a non-smoker, 
because his children are robbed of nervous vitality 
before birth. Appeal to his affection for you if you 
will, but — stand your ground. As has been said, if 
he prefers to leave you rather than his tobacco let him 
go, and be thankful. He puts the same estimate on 
you as did he in Kipling's poem who was called upon 
to choose between cigars and his fiancee. His con- 
clusion was : 

" A thousand superfluous Maggies are willing to wear the yoke, 
And a woman is only a woman, but a good cigar is a smoke ! " 

If you want to win a man's love never show jeal- 
ousy when he admires other women. Eemember that 
you do not monopolize every womanly attraction, no 
matter how charming you may be. Every man takes 
pleasure in seeing beauty in any woman who pos- 
sesses it. So let your friend or admirer talk un- 
checked by you in regard to the grace and symmetry 
of other girls. Sympathize with his appreciation of 



148 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO ^OMAXHOOD 

beauty. Call his attention to a head of haii^ on an- 
other girl of a tint that yon know is esi3ecially X3leas- 
ing to him. Look for him to enjoy the brightness 
and giamoiu' of a woman's eyes, whether she be your 
dearest friend or the reverse. 

Talk over the facts of life T^ithout fearing that he 
will think it wi'ong of yon to do so. A man is quick 
to resjDond to yonr purity of word and piu'pose if he 
is himself iDiu^e, and he will admire you all the more 
if you show that you are not afraid to acknowledge 
the imx^ortance of a discussion between men and 
women of the things that most vitally concern them. 

Don't expect too much of a man in the way of con- 
forming to conventional rules and regulations. Don 't 
make him call on you regularly once or twice a week, 
but let him do as he pleases in that and other regards. 
If he comes to see you when he feels so inclined, you 
may be suit of his being good comj)any on such occa- 
sions, but if vou hold him to a hard and fast rule as 
to how often he must come it will sometimes hai^pen 
that he calls when his inclinations prompt him to go 
elsewhere, and he may not in such instances under- 
stand why he does not have the good time with you 
that he usually does. The exi^erience often repeated 
may in the long run make him love you less. 

Don't talk worrv to a man. Don't sav that vou are 



WINNING THE LOVE OP A MAN 149 

worried lest you lose your car, or be late at the thea- 
tre, or fail to get seats at a lecture. Don't look after 
those things that fall to the lot of a man to attend 
to, unless he, being your escort, is remiss in his 
duties or lacks sense of time and location. It does 
sometimes so hap|)en. A famous lecturer in New 
York acknowledges that he would never be able to 
keep an appointment unless his wife remembered 
where and at what date and hour he is scheduled to 
lecture. She finds out how he is to get to his destina- 
tion, and relieves her husband of all thought as to 
other details of the engagement. 

When you have an appointment with a man for a 
certain hour keep it. Don't make him wait for you. 
Men don't like girls who are invariably fifteen min- 
utes overdue. 

Never try to pique a man by flirting with other 
men. No nice girl ever flirts. Remember that. 
Flirting is trying to make a man believe that you care 
more for him than you really do. It's all right to 
accept legitimate attention from men friends of your 
acquaintance and have an honestly enjoyable time 
with them, but that is quite different from flirting. 
It is a despicable thing to try to make one man jeal- 
ous by kindling an affection in another's heart which 
you cannot and do not intend to return. Moreover, 



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every intelligent man sees through your ill-concealed 
intentions and, instead of making him jealous or more 
vigilant in his love toward you, he will hold in con- 
tempt the smallness of your act and, if he is high 
spirited, you will lose his affection instead of 
strengthening it. 

There is no man, however careless he may be of his 
person, who does not admire neatness and daintiness 
of dress in a girl. Not that you need to dress fash- 
ionably or have many clothes, but those that are yours 
should be kept in good order. A soiled petticoat or a 
dress skirt with the braid coming off, an untidy shirt 
waist or ruffled hair will, any one of them, often nip 
in the bud what might have otherwise been an affec- 
tion worth having. It is not hard to ascertain from 
a man's own lips what kind of a woman he admires. 
The average man is always ready to talk about his 
likes and dislikes, and by means of a Little clever ques- 
tioning you will be able to find out the characteristics 
of your sex which are most attractive to him. If 
you are entirely different from the kind of woman he 
likes, don't spend too much time in making yourself 
all over, so to speak. Life is too short for that kind 
of thing. Somewhere, be assured, there is a man 
who will like and love you very much as you are. 
Thus I do not advise you to try and develop a faculty 



WINNING THE LOVE OF A MAN 151 

for music if you are by nature utterly lacking in it 
just because a certain man loves music. You have 
qualities that perhaps could be easier developed and 
to better purpose that another man will duly appre- 
ciate. Cultivate those qualities and faculties that 
you feel that you are richest in, and some day you 
will find that they are just those that will attract the 
man whow, abote all others, you desire to win. 



CHAPTER XXV 

HOW A MAN CAN BE INSPIRED BY THE GIRL WHOM 

HE LOVES. 

" That a new code of manners between the sexes, founded, not on 
covert lust, but an open and mutual helpfulness, has got to come 
is obvious enough. The cry of equality need not, like a red rag, 
infuriate the Philistine bull. That woman is in general muscularly 
weaker than man, and that there are certain kinds of effort, even 
mental, for which she is less fitted, — as there are other kinds of effort 
for which she is more fitted — may easily be granted, but this only 
means in the language of good manners, that there are special ways in 
which men can assist women, as there are special ways in which 
women can assist men." — Edward Carpenter. 

The responsibilities of womanhood are growing 
slowly but surely. The '' eternal feminine " has be- 
come more nearly man's equal physically and men- 
tally stnd, eoincidently, she has obtained more power 
over him. She has always recognized the fact that 
she could bend him to her wishes when the iron of his 
will became as soft as wax and as easily moulded by 
being subject to the flames of love. 

But in the days that were, woman used the knowl- 
edge of her power very differently to the manner in 
which she now does. Ancient records seem to indi- 
cate that she loved to set men by the ears, princes 
against princes, kingdom against kingdom. She 
joyed in the tournament, where steel-clad knights 

charged and hacked and slew and were slain for her 

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amusement and in her honor. Cavaliers rode to death 
with her name on their lips and her glove in their 
casques and she was pleased thereat. Helen of Troy, 
Cleopatra, Mary Queen of Scots — ^the list is a long 
one. In those days it would seem that instead of go- 
ing to a matinee or a dance, the average woman 
who needed recreation started a duel of two or a war 
that involved nations. And she usually began the 
trouble by appealing to the love or jealousy of one or 
more of the combatants. 

But as woman advanced forward to the place which 
Nature has meant her to fill in this life, her influence 
became more real and tender and beneficent, and 
to-day is measured by the strength and sweetness of 
her womanliness. She knows now that her influence 
is not a something which she will but rarely if at all 
exercise during her lifetime. On the contrary, 
she knows that its power is in being every mo- 
ment of her existence and, if she be a true woman, for 
good at that. She knows she need not rob a man of 
reason through his passion for her, in order to influ- 
ence him. She may keep him a sane and reasonable 
comrade, whose loving friendship for her is a part of 
his life, helping him in many and varied ways. 

Woman is no longer the power behind the throne. 
SHE IS THE POWER AT THE SIDE OP THE 



154 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

THRONE. Her attitude of servitude has been re- 
placed by a position of equality. Not blindly and 
dumbly, but with clear sight and ready lips, does she 
now inspire man to do his best, such inspiration be- 
ing one of the greatest of the factors of his life. If 
a girl or woman wields her power wisely, the man 
who is influenced by it does great deeds, and the 
world is the richer because he has lived. If a man 
lacks the stimulus of womanly love and friendship, 
however, the powers that he may possess too often 
lie dormant and useless. Many men have lived and 
died without giving to their kind anything of value, 
not because they wanted physical and mental gifts, 
but because they lacked a woman's influence to 
vitalize them. 

Don't think that you have got to be in long skirts 
with your hair coiled on the top of your head in order 
to exercise womanly influence. 'You may be a mere 
slip of a girl, with flying curls and short dresses, and 
yet have much to do with the shaping of a life for 
noble purposes. Every womanly girl is lovable long 
before anyone has asked her to share her life with! 
him, and hence it is that she has boy and young men 
friends who love her. 

Before she has chosen him to whom the great love 
of her life is given, she will love many who are in need 



INSPIRING A MAN BY LOVE 155 

of her to round out their existences on lines of hap- 
piness and usefulness. If you realize this, you will 
assuredly exercise your womanly power to good ad- 
vantage. And it will bring you the sweetest, most 
enduring rewards of life. 

Don't read this and think of it as a vague, indefin- 
ite statement that has reference to something that 
has to do with your future. It is a power you pos- 
sess to-day. Then how are you using it ? Ask your- 
self that question. Eealize that a boy or a young 
man loves to have a girl or a woman influence him for 
good, and that he learns to love with a firm and last- 
ing tenderness one who does so influence him. 

The good that is in human nature is a far greater 
power than is the bad. If you understand yourself 
aright, you may call into expression the best forces 
in some manly nature every day. You can inspire a 
man to be generous and kindly, thoughtful and lov- 
ing, strong and hopeful, true and loyal, or if you 
ignore or neglect your power you can let him sink to 
the level of mediocrity, and instead of being that 
which he might have been he becomes selfish and 
unkind, thoughtless and unloving, weak and doubt- 
ing, false and shiftless. Can you afford to let a man 
te less than the test that he might have been simply 
because you neglect to inspire him to he that best? 



156 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

Every thought, word and deed of yours when you 
are with a man can, if you so desire, be an inspiration 
to him. Just think what " inspiration " means — 
a ^' breathing in." A man therefore '' breathes in " 
ideals from you. Whatever he sees you do and hears 
you say will have its weight with him. But will it 
inspire him? Will it help him ? Do you know that 
when a man has done anything of a notable nature, 
be it good or bad, the world credits a woman with 
being the motive power thereof? Think of the bit- 
terness of having been the woman to wreck a man's 
life! To have guided him into paths of evil! But 
think again of the woman who knows that her smiles 
or tender words or example have helped a man to 
great achievements. And a woman there always was, 
his mother, sister, a dear little friend or sweetheart, 
who was certainly the basis of his attainments. 

There is a large co-educational university in Cen- 
tral New York where, a few years ago, a law college 
was established. In all the other colleges of the uni- 
versity men and women studied together the liberal 
arts, fine arts, medicine, architecture, science, etc. 
But in the law department and for the first two years 
no women were registered. The dean of the law col- 
lege regretted this very much. He said that the men 
were careless of their personal appearance, used bad 



INSPIRING A MAN BY LOVE 157 

language, smoked and drank and were harder to con- 
trol in class. Finally he declared point blank that 
tliey did not rank as high in their classes as did the 
male students in the colleges of the miiversity where 
were young women. So thoroughly did he regret the 
want of feminine influence that he wrote a personal 
letter to a young woman whom, he had been told, was 
thinking of taking a course in law, inviting her to 
register. The members of the senior law class hear- 
ing of this, also wrote her a letter through their sec- 
retary, to the effect that they wished that she would 
come to the college, as they realized that they needed 
the influence of the other sex. 

It is a beautiful fact that a woman's mind and a 
woman's soul are as necessary to the inception of the 
great ideals and great enterprises which men hold 
and develop as is a man's physical stimulus necessary 
for the inception of the human being which a woman 
develops and nourishes. 



CHAPTER XXVI 

LIVES MADE MISERABLE BY A WRONG ATTITUDE TOWARD 
A POSSIBLE LOVER. 

"More lives are wrecked by our misunderstanding others and by 
being ourselves misunderstood than by the cardinal vices." 

— L'FOSSIER. 

The girl who hesitates to let a man see that she 
loves him for fear of losing her influence over him is 
guilty of a great mistake. 

How is a man to know what your feelings are to- 
wards him except through your words and actions ? 
And do you suppose that if you lead him to think that 
you care nothing for him, he will continue to pay 
court to you? How would you like it yourself? If 
one whom you secretly loved was apparently cold and 
indifferent to you would you be likely to disclose your 
affection for him to him? Don't you think that you 
woidd be much more likely to conceal it ? In such 
matters men are in no way different from women. A 
man must have some evidence that you appreciate his 
attentions or he will assuredly cease to pay them to 
you. 

Many a likely match has come to nothing because 
a girl has not understood these things. Therefore 

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WEONG ATTITUDE MAKES MISERY 159 

use discretion if confronted with such a situation. 

Every man makes love in a diifferent fashion. So 
then let a man express his individuality in his affec- 
tion as he will. He is a puppet of a fellow who makes 
love according to story-book rote, rule and fashion. 
Don't think that a man who really loves you has to 
write notes, send flowers, buy books and bring you 
candy in the same way as does the hero in your favor- 
ite novel when courting the heroine. He may do all 
that, or he may do none of it, but in any event he will 
not restrict himself to the ways and means of any 
lover found in a story book or out of it. 

It often happens that discord and misunderstand- 
ing between girls and their men friends arise from 
things of minor importance rather than from matters 
of much moment. A girl is apt to judge of a man's 
actions and manners from the viewpoint of conven- 
tionality instead of from that of usefulness, helpful- 
ness and beauty. Remember, it not infrequently 
happens that that which is conventionally correct is 
ethically wrong. 

Don't expect a man to understand you unless you 
sometimes explain yourself to him. For he will not 
be able to interpret you if he lacks experience with 
womankind. A woman often comprehends a man 
much better than he her, because of her powers of 



160 FROM GIELHOOD TO TTO^vIANHOOD 

intuition. But man is reasonable instead of intui- 
tive, and so a girl's actions cannot in many instances 
be imderstood by one wlio insists on applying the 
rules of reason to them instead of those of the heart. 
"When you see, therefore, that a man does not compre- 
hend the why and wherefore of your likes and dis- 
likes or if you observe that he is more or less puzzled 
hj and likely to misinterpret you, explain yourself 
frankly to him. By so doing you will at least secure 
his regard where you might have lost a friend and 
possibly an admirer. 

Don't ask a man to swear to you that he never loved 
any other girl than you. If he never has, let him 
keep the knowledge of such a calamity to himself. 
Do not insist on his advertising it. If he has not 
loved it is probably because he lacked the abUity or 
the opportunity to do so, or of some misfortune upon 
which you have no right to turn the searchlight of 
your curiosity. 

It may make a man lose all interest in or become 
exasperated with you to find that you insist upon 
knowing all about his past love affairs. Not that he 
does not want to confide in you. He probably does, 
but he objects to tell about them under compulsion. 
He will confess all in due season if you'll only give 
him time and let him see that you are not a ridiculous 



WRONG ATTITUDE MAKES MISERY 161 

child who is jealous of every other girl whom he has 
ever known or cared for. A man likes to talk about 
himself, and any girl may learn all that she wants 
regarding him by encouraging this propensity of 
his. Of course, he may be inclined to color the tales 
of himself just a little highly, but your womanly in- 
tuition will help you to understand what is the truth 
or non-truth of his narratives. 

Don't make a mystery of your monthly siclmess. 
When you are menstruating do not break an engage- 
ment with a man without giving him a sufficient rea- 
son for so doing, as girls sometimes do. Such an 
action is apt to make him think that you do not espe- 
cially care for his society. Tell him frankly that you 
do not feel well enough to keep the engagement, but 
that you will be glad to have his company at some 
other time. A girl for the reason given often breaks 
an engagement so abruptly that the man thinks that 
he has offended her in some way. If you tell him 
honestly that you are not in your usual health, he will 
probably imderstand your meaning at once. A sen- 
sible custom observes in some European countries of 
alluding to the function in question with no more 
hesitancy than one does of sleeping or eating. Such 
a custom, it is hoped, will before long find a footing 
in this country. 



162 FEOM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

Don't throw yourself at a man's head, as the ex- 
pression is. Eemember that he wants to do the court- 
ing, and if you deprive him of his privilege in this 
respect he is likely to go out of your life, and he will 
surely do so if he is a strongly-sexed man. For Na- 
ture has decreed that man shall seek and woman shall 
be sought. It is therefore a huge blunder on your 
part to attempt to reverse the order of creation. It is 
only a girl who has some masculine qualities that are 
far from attractive to men who exhibits a tendency to 
usurp a man's prerogative and do the courting her- 
self. 



CHAPTER XXVII 

YOU MUST KISE ABOVE AND BEYOND THE ERKOKS OF THE 

PAST 

"I hold it truth, with him who sings 
To one clear harp in diverse tones, 
That men may rise on stepping stones 
Of their dead selves, to nobler things." 

— Tennyson. 

^' Can I ever expect to be happy ? " This is a ques- 
tion which the girl who has once '' gone wrong '' finds 
persistently ringing in her ears. She sees her com- 
panions of her own sex with their lovers, she under- 
stands the sweet, tender confidence which has nothing 
to conceal that is established between the happy pairs, 
and the bitter tears of regret spring to her eyes. '' I 
couldn't let a man love me and deceive him about 
myself," she thinks, " and yet if I told him the truth 
he might despise and certainly would leave me.'' 

Don't be so sure about that, my dear, erring re- 
pentant child. Men are larger-hearted and of a more 
liberal spirit than women believe them to be. 

" But," the unhappy girl will ask, " do you mean 
to say a man would forgive a sin like that of mine ^ " 

Will he? The girl herself must decide that ques- 
tion. And it is decided by the way in which her sin 

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164 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

has affected her. If she has failed to forgive herself 
no man will forgive her. But when she has learned 
to see that one sin does not of necessity mar a whole 
life others will take that view of her case also. 

Let us consider the situation. Suppose a woman 
does some beautiful deed of kindness. Has she the 
right to count upon that one good action giving her a 
lien upon the love and regard of her friends for all 
time 1 Do you suppose that if she stops being kind 
and sweet that people will continue to call her admir- 
able and praiseworthy because of her single com- 
mendable action ? Why, no. As, then, one good act 
doesn't make a good woman, so one bad act doesn't 
make a bad woman. Why, it is the acme of selfish- 
ness on your part to think about your one mistake all 
the time. You were meant to be a sweet, useful wom- 
an. You can't be such an one if you insist on 
groaning in spirit over the casual sin of the past. 
The present is yours and so is the future ; the past is 
dead ; let it bury itself therefore. 

The great poet Shelley says : 



" It Is the dark idolatry of self, 
Which, when our thoughts and actions once are gone, 
Demands that man should weep, and bleed and groan; 
O vacant expiation! be at rest — 
The past is Death's, the future is thine own; 
And love and joy can make the foulest breast 
A paradise of flowers, where peace might build her nest." 



RISING ABOVE PAST ERRORS 165 

Don't you see what a fruitless expiation it is to sigh 
and cry and hate yourself? What you were yester- 
day has nothing at all to do with what you are to-day. 
But what you are to-day and to-morrow must be de- 
cided by yourself. 

Don't brood over your mistake. Don't even think 
of it. Put it out of your life altogether. Rise above 
it by accepting the lessons it has taught you, and you 
will be a stronger, nobler, sweeter woman by the ex- 
perience. 

Ask the great men and women of the world what 
taught them the prof oundest and most valuable les- 
sons in life and they will unhesitatingly reply, the 
mistakes that they made. For success in life 
does not consist in avoiding mistakes. It is the out- 
come of learning to accept the precepts taught us 
by them. 

A girl who has once done wrong ought thereby to 
be sympathetic and tender-hearted toward others who 
make mistakes also. If she has learned her lesson 
aright, she wall assume the kindliest attitude of help- 
fulness toward one of her sisters who has sinned in 
the like or any other fashion. It is said that women 
who have been sick make the most efficient nurses. 
So if you, dear reader, have ever sinned and repented, 
you should have a S3mipathetic, helpful instinct for 



166 FEOM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

those who need to have moral strength and courage 
imparted them. You know somewhat of the pitfalls 
that await young girls, and you will be better able to 
aid, warn, and admonish. You know the grief that 
follows sinning, and when you find a girl who is in 
the plight that you once were, comfort her and show 
her that life, while apparently so dark to her, is yet 
filled with prospective brightness. 

Give help and sympathy to anyone you meet who 
needs it for any cause whatever. There is nowhere 
in the world that you can't find people who are in 
trouble of some sort. Go to them and comfort them, 
and the incidental development of your womanly ten- 
derness is going to make some good man love you, 
and very dearly at that. Tell him of your mistake ; 
how you have lived it down ; that it has helped you to 
understand and sympathize with people. And if he 
is the man that he should be he will love you all the 
more for your honesty and confidence in him. 



CHAPTER XXVIII 

CULTIVATE HAPPINESS, ENCOUKAGE A PLAY SPIKIT 

" Oh, the blessed and wise little children 
What excellent things they say. 
When they can't have the things they ask for 
Take others and cry, " Let's play ! " 

We start life all right. As children we know how 
to play. What little one is there who can't always 
find something to play with, something to make it 
happy? It doesn't take a great deal to allow of a 
child exercising her faculty for happiness. It's al- 
ways available just as the " sadness faculty " is too 
much in use and too much in evidence in the case of 
*' grownups." 

Everybody in this world has much with which to be 
either glad or sorry. And the people who do not 
know better usually give attention to the sad things 
and weep in consequence. But the wiser ones know 
that the sad things hurt, and so they turn to the glad 
things and laugh. This, when we are no longer chil- 
dren. But a child had as much rather be glad than 
sad as it had rather be well-fed than hungry. It 
will choose joy in place of sorrow just as instinctively 
as it will select a sweet peach instead of a sour apple. 

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168 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOIMANHOOD 

Have you gotten away from the cMdish habit of 
having a good time whenever you could ? Have you 
lost the ability to put your whole heart and soul into 
a good romp ? If you haven 't thank Grod for it. For 
the play faculty is a very valuable possession; it 
keeps one young in heart, wholesome in mind, healthy 
in body, pm^e in sioirit. It conserves to you the best 
of your childhood. 

Do you know what the word melancholy means? 
It is derived from two G-reek words meaning '^ black 
bile.'' This, because the ancients found that a de- 
pression of one's spirits was often associated with a 
bilious attack. Biliousness does indeed make one 
melancholy, and long-continued melancholy induces 
dyspepsia. 

Girls learn all too early to stop playing. Some of 
them, while they are yet in short dresses with their 
hair down their backs, are made to discard their doUs 
and toys. Perhaps you were one of these small un- 
fortunates. But never mind that. You are never 
too old to learn to play all over again. If you see 
that your little brother and sister are having a jolly 
time of it, go and join them. Don't be afraid that 
you'll harm your girlish dignity by so doing. Dig- 
nity, indeed ! Why, a childish game is the best digni- 
fier and beautifier in the world. It will paint your 



ENCOURAGE A PLAY SPIRIT 169 

pale cheeks with carnation and cause your eyes to be 
as bright as stars. It will make you take great, 
glorious, deep breaths and be ashamed of the fact 
that you wear a corset. It will send the blood danc- 
ing and singing through the remotest capillary of 
your body, and your heart beats will punctuate the 
rhj^hm of health. 

Did you know that the only kind of dignity worth 
having is the dignity that doesn't have to be remem- 
bered by its owner ? The dignity that is just as evi- 
dent in a young matron of thirty when she dons a 
gymnasium suit and turns somersaults, as it is when 
she plays the piano in a lace gown. The dignity that 
is as obvious as it is unmistakable when, wearing a 
bathing suit she runs along the beach and does 
'' stunts " in the water, as it is when she promenades 
the avenue in a correct afternoon costume. 

It is a sham dignity that keeps you in the house 
when the sun is shining and the winds blowing just 
because you are not ^^ dressed.'' It's a sham dignity 
that alleges that you must not sit on the grass under 
the trees and tell stories to your small brothers and 
sisters, yet permits you to use an uncomfortable chair 
and read to them. It's a shoddy dignity that makes 
you give one thought to itself. What would you 
think of a girl who wondered if she smiled, sneezed 



170 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

or coughed aright *? She would be ridiculous, 
wouldn 't she ? Yet the girl of alleged dignity is ever- 
lastingly worrying over the fact that she is doubtful 
as to whether every look or action of hers is in accord- 
ance with it. 

Dignity of the conscious kind is merely a form of 
hypocrisy. Its possessor is trying to impress on 
others the fact that she is that which she is not. It 
is an assumption of importance born of egotism allied 
to a secret disbelief in oneself. It is as uncomfort- 
able as a big pimple on one's nose, and is quite as evi- 
dent and unpleasant to others. Incidentally the 
^^ dignified" girl never owns that grace and ease of 
manner which renders the natural girl so attractive 
to men folk. 

William George Jordan says: ^^ Simplicity is rest- 
ful contempt for the non-essentials of life. It is rest- 
less hunger for the non-essentials that is the secret of 
most of the discontent of the world. It is the con- 
stant striving to outshine others that kills simplicity 
and happiness." 

Don't let the advice of teachers, parents or friends 
keep you from playing — real playing. You remem- 
ber what playing was when you were six years old^ 
Those glorious times of runs and romps and rumpled 
frocks? Well, it will make you just as happy and 



ENCOURAGE A PLAY SPIRIT 171 

light-hearted to play at sixteen as it used to make you 
at six. 

You have unquestionably thought that because you 
have lessons and dresses and beaus that your play 
days must be forgotten. Dear girl, that's the very 
reason why they should be remembered. You can 
learn French verbs easier, you can solve problems 
in geometry more quickly, you can plan a prettier 
new dress or you can entertain a young man better if 
you know how to throw yourself with whole-hearted 
abandon into a game of hide-and-go-seek or tag or 
just a plain romp ! 

A New York woman out of her twenties had been 
entertaining some childi-en of the East Side slums 
one afternoon. When the youngsters were through 
playing, one little damsel walked up to the hostess 
and said, **Are you a big lady or are you a little 
girl?" ^^ Which do you think?" she asked smiling. 
*^Well," said the small one, ^^You look big like a 
lady, but then you seem like a little girl, so I don't 
know." 

The woman in telling the story said that children 
often asked her that same question, and she never 
had a compliment from a grown person that pleased 
her more. 

Cultivate a play spirit. Don't be impleasantly 



172 FKOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

proper and horribly precise. Be a toin-boy if you 
feel like it, climb trees, jump fences and run races. 
Tou will be all the more vivacious, healthy and cheer- 
ful for so doing, in fact the kind of girl that people 
love. Do you know that there's just as much differ- 
ence between a girl of twenty who retains her child- 
hood's love of play, and the girl who has outgrown it, 
as there is between fresh roses and the faded flowers 
that drop out of old books. There is life and reality 
in the first, there's only a ghost of life in the second. 
If you want to be old while still young, if you don't 
care to make the most of j^ourself, if you wish to 
wither the bloom of your body, mind and spirit, then 
quell every impulse that comes to you to be playful. 
If you want to be lovely, loving and lovable, cher- 
ish and develop your play spirit. Play in the sun- 
shine, and carry the sunshine about with you at all 
times. Play will do more to keep you young than 
anything else. Age is not a matter of years but of 
looks and feelings. Look young and feel yoimg, and 
you will be young. Play and romp as much as you 
please and you will be able to snap your fingers in the 
face of Father Time. 



CHAPTER XXIX 

NATURAL PLAY EXERCISES ARE THE BEST 

" Knowest thou the excellent joys of youth ? 
Joys of the dear companions and of the merry word and laughing 

face?- 
Joy of the glad light-beaming day, joy of the wide-breathed games ? 
Joy of sweet music, joy of the lighted ball-room and the dancers ? " 

— Walt Whitman. 

Who taught the squirrel to be supple and agile? 
Where did the fawn learn to move with such exquis- 
ite grace'? Who gave your cat lessons in the beauty 
of motion? Have you not at times envied each of 
these animals its special gifts as indicated? 

Now, the squirrel never went to a gymnasium. 
The fawn is ignorant of lessons in Delsarte. The 
cat knows naught of physical culture. No, all they 
know they learned from Nature. 

Children are graceful creatures, because they too 

go to Nature's school. When you were a baby you 

kicked and cried and yelled lustily. You doubled up 

your tiny fists and punched the air unmercifully. 

All because your instinct taught you that you must 

exercise your muscles and develop your lung power. 

You were hindered somewhat by the clothes you 

wore, but on the whole you did pretty much as Nature 

prompted. 

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174 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

Then as a wee maiden you ran about from morning 
till night, and your mother used to say that she won- 
dered why you were not tired to death when you went 
to bed. You were tired, but not exhausted, and when 
you fell asleep your slumber was happy, restful and 
dreamless. When, however, you got a little bigger,, 
you may have been one of those unfortunates who are 
taught that it is improper to play because one is a 
girl. So, just at the age when you began to develop 
most and ought to have had all the simshine and fresh 
air and exercise possible, you were ordered to sit still 
in the house. Later, people began to remark upon 
your awkwardness. Awkward? No wonder, consid- 
ering that the development of your physical being 
was nipped in the bud at its most critical period. 

And now what shall you do to bring about a resto- 
ration of your childish ease and grace *? Well, if you 
can't do better, swing Indian clubs, or dumb-bells, 
exercise with wands, learn to punch a bag or use an 
exerciser. But natural play exercises will be much 
better for you. Playing ball, flying a kite, cycling, 
wrestling, swinmiing, rowing, skating or coasting — 
that's a good list to choose from. When engaged in 
these sports you have the advantage of being out of 
doors, and they call for greater mental activity than 
do set and studied exercises. There is no one of the 



NATURAL PLAY BEST EXERCISE 175 

sports named that a girl should not engage in and 
enjoy. There is not one of them that won't help 
her to develop a beautiful body. 

Housework is also good exercise. But it is apt to 
become monotonous and the worst argument against 
it is that it is not often undertaken in congenial com- 
pany. 

Have you ever seen the effect of welcome compan- 
ionship upon a young girl who has household duties 
to perform ^ No matter how distasteful they may be 
to her, yet if a boy friend drops in and offers to get 
the apples ready for her pies, or pare the potatoes 
for dinner, while she may have been listless and 
dispirited before, now she is bright and eager and 
busy. She doesn't care how long she has to stay in 
the kitchen or how hard she works there. Her visitor 
has wrought a magical change in the situation. It 
is a shame that any woman, young or middle-aged or 
old, should have to work alone in a home day after 
day, week in and week out. A social condition which 
makes it necessary for her to do so is radically wrong 
somewhere. Slavery of women, while theoretically 
defunct, survives in many instances and notably in 
the kitchen of the average household. 

If you're playing tennis you have the exhilaration 
of the company of your girl or young men or boy 



176 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

friends. If you're out bicycling you have the phys- 
ical benefits of the exercise allied to those derived 
from congenial society and besides, you are in touch 
with Nature. It is as much of a benefit to you to have 
3^our interest excited by wild flowers, a glowing sun- 
set or a picturesque winding road, as it is to have 
your muscles exercised by the pedals. Coincident 
and pleasurable exercise of brain and muscle is pro- 
ductive of lasting good. 

Wrestling was one of the forms of exercise which 
the beautifully formed Spartan maidens used to in- 
dulge in. It is a very exhilarating play exercise, 
which calls into use every muscle of the body and 
brings one into healthy rivalry with others. It is 
also conducive to mental alertness and muscular 
agility. It would be a good thing if every girl prac- 
ticed wrestling as she developed toward maturity. 
It is well to remember, though, that it must not be 
attempted if your antagonist is much stronger than 
yourself, for fear of your being overstrained. 

Another great advantage of play exercises over 
work done in a gymnasium is that breathing in the 
former case is usually done more naturally. When 
you are rowing, for instance, you are much more apt 
to breathe deeply and fully at the time that the lungs 
really need air than you are when you are doing 



NATURAL PLAY BEST EXEECISE 177 

a. 

stunts in a gymnasium under the eye and direction 
of an instructor. 

In natural play exercises you are also more likely 
to develop individuality than you are when using 
dumb-bells or getting your development in some such 
cut-and-dried way. This cannot be too strongly 
urged as an argument in favor of natural play. That 
which you do because you like to do it, and of which 
you, of your own volition devise new and pleasant 
ways of doing, is a thousandfold better for you than 
any arrangement on the part of another person can 
be. In thus playing you develop mental faculties 
which will help you to. be a useful woman. The ability 
to think out problems and meet emergencies is some- 
thing that play teaches far better than does pre- 
scribed work with gymnastic apparatus. 

In playing, too, you are not apt to develop muscu- 
lar force at the expense of nervous energy. When 
you get tired of one pla,}^, you can stop and do 
another, for there is an unending list to choose from. 
If you are lifting dumb-bells, you may perhaps 
have determined on a certain task or limit to reach 
which may require you to do too much work or over- 
strain yourself. And thereby you not only lose the 
value of all the benefits that you may have secured but 
you may harm yourself in addition. In play, too, 



178 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

there is usually an equitable distribution of exercise 
to the different parts of the body. 

So by all means play, if you can. But if your 
work keeps you from so doing you will find the other 
form of exercise a substitute which your good sense 
must adapt as nearly as possible to your needs. For 
your body must be used in order to be healthy, and 
when you cannot find time and opportunity to exer- 
cise it in play, then take systematic exercise of the 
other sort both night and morning. 



CHAPTER XXX 

HOW A GIKL SHOULD DKESS 

" If dress reformers would only remember that beauty is one of the 
fundamental requirements and that any reform which ignores this 
is really no reform at all, women would be readier to adopt their 
ideas. 

You must remember what dress is designed to do 
when considering what is best for you to wear. In 
the first place dress is a protection against cold. It 
is also a covering for the body. In either instance 
it should be beautiful. 

We will not discuss the wisdom or unwisdom of 
wearing clothes merely as a covering ; we must accept 
their use in that regard as one of the necessities of 
our times. That it harms us to put on clothes when 
we do not need them to keep us warm, is undeniable. 
Therefore, let us wear as few of them as possible. 

Girls nowadays know the harm that corsets cause 
them. They know how these contrivances push the 
stomach and liver out of place, and crowd the delicate 
pelvic organs into spaces so small that they cannot 
possibly perform their functions in a satisfactory 
manner. Corsets are responsible for bad complex- 
ions, red noses and irritable tempers. They prevent 

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180 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

all ease of movement, and make a girl immovable in 
just the places where perfect freedom of action is 
most necessary in order to insure her a graceful bear- 
ing. Worse than anything else is their effect on the 
abdominal organs, by which a girl is deprived of sex 
impulse and feeling. That this view of the corset 
question is not more freely discussed is due to the 
prudish prejudice against any and every allusion to 
sexual topics. When a girl puts on a corset she is 
dwarfing and perverting the instinct most essential 
to her development, her physical and mental welfare 
and her happiness in general. 

Tight bands of any kind worn around the body 
work harm. They create inflammations and conges- 
tions in the parts constricted by them. Some girls 
think that their clothes do not fit well unless they are 
extremely tight. The secret of a good appearance 
lies in wearing only a very few garments, the outer 
one of which will naturally adapt itself to the con- 
tour of the body. You will not feel the need of a cor- 
set if you do not wear several garments underneath 
your dress waist, which soon gets wrinkled and out of 
shape if you do. 

Try and have your dresses made in one piece, in- 
stead of wearing a separate waist and skirt. Do 
away with bands at the waist line. Nature indicates 



HOW A GIRL SHOULD DRESS 181 

no division of the body into two sections such as the 
modern dress suggests. Such a division is an of- 
fence against artistic taste and standards. Have 
your skirt and waist of as nearly the same color as 
possible. Princesse gowns, or those which approach 
the Grecian in style, are much more beautiful than 
those that have the skirt and waist separated. What- 
ever dress reform you adopt be sure that it is of a 
beautiful and not of an ugly nature. 

In summer time, socks worn with the regular gar- 
ter which men use are a great deal more comfortable 
than are the high stockings. Thin gauze combi- 
nation or union suits are also more comfortable than 
the huge umbrella drawers and muslin underwear. 
A combination suit may be as short as you like. The 
regular gauze undervests can be bought long enough 
so that they may be utilized as short summer com- 
bination suits by cutting small legs in them. 

In winter time when you need warm clothing, do 
not wear heavy underskirts and a heavy dress skirt. 
But get a warm combination suit whose weight is 
equably distributed over the whole body and not im- 
posed upon the waist and hips. 

Do not submit to the smothering process ! Struggle 
against it if you value your beauty and health. A 
great many much-to-be-pitied girls are compelled 



182 FEOM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

by their mothers to submit to coddling as soon as the 
cooler weather approaches. They are bundled up 
into several layers of woolen garments, thick woolen 
stockings, furs, fur clothes and pads and protectors 
of every description with the foolish idea that they 
will be prevented from catching colds. No wonder 
we have many girls who are pale looking and who have 
a dull, sallow complexion. Generally girls who are 
bundled up too much, thus preventing air from reach- 
ing the skin of the body, are puny, undeveloped, weak 
and, let me say, *^ always catching cold." Such girls 
will never grow up to be tall, fine specimens of wom- 
anhood. '^Catching cold" is caused from the very 
thing that is used to avoid it, namely, ^'bundling" 
the necks and throats and heating the chest with un- 
necessary garments. I know of several young girls 
who always caught cold during the chilly months 
season after season. I advised them to leave off their 
furs and restricting clothing around the upper part 
of the body and to bathe with cold water each morn- 
ing. They did as I instructed them to do, hardened 
their skins against the colder weather and since then 
they have not known what it is to have a **cold." 

It is the girl whose mother allows her to wear easy, 
loose, flowing garments as light almost in winter as in 
summer, who has dresses that permit of the greatest 



HOW A GIRL SHOULD DRESS 183 

amount of freedom and the exercising of every muscle 
of the body, that acquires the beautiful, graceful, su- 
perb figui'e, and splendid carriage that is so much 
admired in women. 

Don't allow yourself to be bundled up, girls ! Let 
your neck be in free contact with the air so that it be- 
comes inured to the cold. Do not pile clothing on 
the chest and do not wear woolen garments next to the 
skin. Wear linen under-garments. If you feel you 
need more warmth, then put a thin woolen garment 
over the linen. To dress in this manner is to put in 
operation one of the vastly important secrets of how 
to grow into an ideally healthy woman. 

The girl who does not wear a corset must learn to 
have her skirts made of light-weight material like 
brilliantine, cashmere or something similar even for 
winter wear. They must also be unlined. They will 
not then cause discomfort or back-ache by their 
weight. 

Wear sensible shoes. The low, broad heel or, bet- 
ter still, the spring heel shoe with a good broad last 
to fit the natural shape of the foot will keep your feet 
in proper shape and aid you in being a graceful 
walker. 



CHAPTER XXXI 

DIET OF THE UTMOST IMPOKTANCE 

*' Some ^ eat to live ' ; others ' live to eat/ but if you so live that 
the highest and most intense enjoyment can be secured from eating 
then that superb health which, at times, thrills every nerve with sur- 
plus power will be your ever-present possession." 

The subject of diet is of so extensive and important 
a nature that in order to do it full justice it should be 
discussed at length and exhaustively. As that is not 
possible in the limits of this work, it can only be 
touched on in a brief and general manner. 

The question of what, and when, and how to eat, is 
one to which none can reply but yourself as far as 
you are concerned. You may be helped a little by 
what others think, and say and do, yet the final de- 
cision must be left to your judgment. But in eating 
as in all other affairs of life, you should do that which 
in the end will bring you the most happiness. If you 
keep this fact in mind and try to abide by it at meal 
times, you will not go far wrong in a dietary sense. 

Your stomach is not an all-powerful organ. It 
was made to help digest the food necessary for re- 
pairing the waste of your body and providing suit- 
able material for your growth. It was not made to 

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receive food that you eat merely to tickle your palate. 
And if you use it for this last purpose, it gets so 
thoroughly out of order that it can't even do the work 
for which it was originally designed. 

It's all right to enjoy your food of course. Un- 
der proper conditions you should never eat a morsel 
of food that you do not relish. But it sometimes 
happens that one has so perverted one's palate by ac- 
customing it to highly-seasoned dishes that a desire 
for plain food is quite lost to it. A fast will restore 
your natural appetite provided that you have the 
will-power necessary to undertake and accomplish it. 
At the end of the ordeal, however, your longing for 
fudge and caramels and Welsh rarebit and other un- 
canny things will have gone and you will have in- 
stead, a wholesome craving for good fruit, nuts, vege- 
tables, and plain bread and butter. 

There is no one diet that can be said to be the best 
under all circumstances. Plain food is unquestion- 
ably the most desirable, but not every girl can con- 
trol her diet to the extent of saying just what food 
she shall eat. Perhaps if she gave up meat entirely, 
she could not get a satisfactory substitute for it at the 
home table. Perhaps on the other hand she could. 
It would be preferable if she, as far as possible, dis- 
miss meat from her diet, because animal flesh creates 



186 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOIMANHOOD 

animal propensities. It heats the blood and develops 
tendencies that lead to evil practices. The impuri- 
ties that are contained in meat are frequently the 
sole cause of facial eruptions, blotches, blackheads 
and skin diseases and I have known all of these un- 
sightly and disagreeable defects to disappear with the 
abandoning of animal flesh. If you want your food 
to digest perfectly, masticate it thoroughly. If you 
do not want the saliva and gastric juices of the 
stomach to be so diluted that they cannot help as they 
should in the process of digestion, do not drink at 
your meals. If you eat as slowly as you should you 
will not want to drink while eating anyway. 

If you keep your stomach working overtime by 
putting food into it at all hours of the day and night, 
it will use up much energy that you need for the func- 
tions of other parts of the body. If you eat late at 
night you will not sleep nearly so well as you other- 
wise would. And you will awaken less sweet-tem- 
pered and happy and satisfied with the world than if 
you had gone to bed without a heavily laden stomach. 

When you get up after a restless night of indiges- 
tion you may imagine yourself an abused little dar- 
ling, when in reality it is your stomach that is an 
abused little organ and is trying to call your atten- 
tion to the fact as it best knows how. 



CHAPTER XXXII 

HINTS ABOUT THE COMPLEXION, BATHING AND THE HAIR 

" Fair tresses man's imperial race ensnare 
And Beauty draws us with a single hair." — Pope. 

If you were making bread, you surely would not 
throw into the bread pan all sorts of things and ex- 
pect satisfactory results in the way of looks, would 
you ? This is to say nothing of the way that the stuff 
would taste. 

Well, the kind of complexion that you have is due 
to the things which you eat, and to the way in which 
you dispose of the waste material of your body. If 
you have unusually good lungs, kidneys and bowels 
you may for a time consume a good deal of pastry 
and other rich foods and yet not note that your com- 
plexion is suffering thereby. But some day the in- 
evitable will happen. Your skin will lose its fine 
texture, its delicate coloring and its velvety softness. 
And the skin which your children will inherit from 
you will be as bad as is yours. 

Irish potatoes and buttermilk are the staple diet 
of the peasant girls in the north of Ireland. And 
they work in the fields, week in and week out at that. 
Their cheeks are rosy and their skin is of the finest 

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188 FROM GIRLHOOD TO W0:MANH00D 

textui'e. But when Bridget leaves her home and 
hires out as a help she has to eat oui' regulation ill- 
concocted dishes, besides being confined indoors all 
day. The result is that, in a very few months her 
fresh beauty disappears and her cheeks assume the 
regulation saffron hue of our average woman. 

The upper class women of England have beautiful 
complexions because they are a great deal out of 
doors. They often walk ten miles or more a day. 
In fact, the taking of long walks in the o^Dcn air 
results in establishing a com^Dlexion such as no cos- 
metic or other artificial means could bring about. 
Especially is this so when the cooler season aj)- 
proaches and when girls are apt to remain indoors too 
much. "Where is the girl among my readers who does 
not desii^e to be out and about when the air is crisp 
and cold and when it makes the warm blood within the 
body tingle with exhilaration, gladness and life! I 
feel very sorry for the girl who does not love to take 
long walks in company with a lot of other jolly girls 
or with an older person or with a manly brother, for 
she is doomed to have 23ale cheeks, dull, lustreless eyes 
and a sickly, unattractive appearance. You can or- 
ganize walking parties among yom* girl friends and 
make small excursions out into the country, if you 
are a city girl. Oh ! how many girls have I seen that, 



COMPLEXION, BATH AND HAIR 189 

at the beginning, did not have a rosy complexion and 
beautiful eyes, but who resolved to take the long 
walks into the country that I have mentioned. They 
returned home with cheeks flushed like roses, eyes 
sparkling with health and happiness, the dimples in 
their cheeks seemed larger, and they anticipated with 
a keen appetite the meal that awaited them. 

The girl who will grow up to be a fascinating, 
much-admired woman is the girl who indulges in long 
walks in the bracing air. 

Girls sometimes wonder why it is that their faces 
are scorbutic when other parts of their body are free 
from eruptions. The explanation is that much of the 
waste of the body is thrown off through the skin. 
Now, if you are living on rich foods there will be a 
great deal of work for the skin to do. But as most 
of it is continually covered with clothing and is there- 
fore inactive, the eliminative labor is performed by 
that portion of it which alone is capable of the 
function, this being the skin of the face. For it is 
bathed frequently and is freely exposed to the air. So 
that the work that ought to be shared by the skin 
of the entire body has to be done by that of the 
face. And the ugly little blotches which form on your 
cheeks, and which will mar the most beautiful coun- 
tenance while constituting one of Nature's ways of 



190 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

ridding the body of waste, tell also of overworked 
facial pores. 

A good cold sponging every morning followed by a 
friction bath with a brush, and one or two warm 
baths taken during the week ought to keep the skin 
of the body in such a condition that the cuticle of the 
face will not be imposed upon in the manner de- 
scribed. 

It is seldom necessary to put soap on the body when 
it is cared for as directed. Pure water is usually 
sufficient. It may be that some parts of the body 
through contact with dirty substances may need the 
application of soap. But girls who want beautifully 
soft, velvety complexions will be careful not to apply 
it to their faces too frequently. 

Those who are unaccustomed to cold baths may 
take tepid ones at first, gradually reducing the tem- 
perature until the body finds delight in a thoroughly 
cold^^tub." 

The hair must be so cared for that it will be 
glossy and free from every particle of dust or dan- 
druff. It should be washed at least once a week in 
warm water and olive oil soap. Einse it several 
times and, if possible, dry it in the sun. If you can- 
not do that, then, after it has been shampooed and 
rubbed gently but firmly with soft towels, let it hang 



COMPLEXION, BATH AND HAIR 191 

loose and dry by exposure to the air. Never use arti- 
ficial heat of a high temperature to rid it of moisture. 
Such heat saps the vitality of the scalp and interferes 
greatly with the growth of the hair. 

If, while the hair is still damp it be pinned up in 
waves with small combs and allowed to dry in that 
way, it will retain the waves. 

In combing the hair be careful not to be too vig- 
orous of action. The hair is readily torn from the 
scalp by a comb. If, when it is let down at night the 
fingers are carefully run through it, there will be no 
danger of any harm from this most gentle manner of 
combing. 

Don't twist the hair too tight when you do it up. 
That, too, breaks it. A soft coil is always more be- 
coming than a tight one. Beautiful hair is one of a 
girl's greatest charms and well worth a good deal of 
attention to secure it. 



CHAPTER XXXIII 

BEAUTY IS MEEELY HEALTH AND PHYSICAL COMELI- 

• NESS 

" Whate'er she does, where'er her steps she bends, 
Grace on each action silently attends." 

— TiBULLUS. 

The author of the maxim that beauty is only skin 
deep is credited with a truth aptly expressed. True, 
beauty is skin deep, but in more senses than one. 
In reality the maxim is a terse statement of a most 
profound fact as we shall see. 

What makes a good skin ? Pure blood, good kid- 
neys and strong lungs. What makes pure blood? 
Perfect digestion. And what makes perfect diges- 
tion? Plain food and not too much of it, together 
with exercise and other things that tend to good 
health. It is easy to see then that a fine skin comes 
from good health, and beauty therefore is but skin 
deep in the sense that there can be no beauty unless 
there exist the conditions that demonstrate them- 
selves in the shape of a beautiful skin. That then, 
is something for which every girl should be thankful, 
for you see that she can control her health and 
through her health her attractiveness. Eemember- 

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BEAUTY IS MERELY HEALTH 193 

ing this she need not be concerned about the color of 
her eyes, the size of her nose, the tilt of her chin, or 
any other of her inherited characteristics. These 
may add to or detract from her looks, but they will 
never determine her true beauty, which lies outside 
the region of facial perfection and in the domain of 
perfect health. 

The beauty of physical health is a force which 
people often appreciate without knowing just what 
it is that compels their admiration. If asked to an- 
alyze the attractions of a given girl they would prob- 
ably fail to do so. When told that that to which they 
have been rendering homage was merely good health 
they would probably be sceptical. Yet what in re- 
ality has so attracted them? Simply, rosy cheeks, a 
sprightly manner, a good poise, beautifully rounded 
limbs and delicate curves of face and body. And all 
of these are only indications of perfected health. 

The story is told of a country doctor and his wife 
who visited the Museum of Fine Arts in Central 
Park, New York. They were more interested in the 
statuary than anything else. The doctor's wife was 
entranced with the charms of the female figures and 
could not sufficiently express her admiration for their 
beauty. Finally she turned to her husband and said, 
** Wouldn't it be fine if all the women in the world 



194 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOIMANHOOD 

were as lovely as the sculptors have made these 
statues!" 

The doctor made a wry face and looked at his 
spouse disapprovingly. 

^* Where would I find any patients if all women 
were like that?'' he grunted. "You don't suppose 
that these superb creatures ever had dyspepsia or 
ieadaches or any female weakness, do you ? Beauty 
is all right in a museum, my dear, but if the time ever 
comes that all women are as beautiful as these, 
there'll be no work for us doctors. " 

It would be hard to find a girl over fifteen years of 
age who would not submit to any sort of torture if 
she thought that it would give her beauty. Yet no 
agonies need be suffered to get it and keep it. When 
the words ** beauty" and *^ health" come to be 
synonymous terms in a girl's mind, she will be willing 
to practice some amount of self denial in order to 
secure the former. She will, for instance, decline to 
eat chocolate creams, lobster, animal flesh, fried oys- 
ters, or drink quarts of so-called ** sodas." She will 
no more dream of swallowing harmful things than 
she would of wearing an unbecoming dress, or a hat 
that did not harmonize with her hair or complexion 
and, what is of vastly greater importance, she will 
inaugurate a system of ten or thirty minutes of exer- 



BEAUTY IS MERELY HEALTH 195 

cise daily, since this is one of the secrets of keeping 
the blood pure and the internal organs clean and in 
perfect working order. Every famous beauty and 
every actress celebrated for her personal charm 
knows this secret, and they consequently persistently 
cling to their exercises and cold baths for the sake of 
the resultant youthfulness and beauty that they im- 
part to face and figure. 

Who does not know what a girl will go through to 
get a pretty dress, or a new hat? Won't she cheer- 
fully sit up half the night to sew? Won't she de- 
prive herself of small luxuries and even necessities 
if she can thereby secure something which she be- 
lieves will add to her charms? When a girl once 
knows that health is beauty, and beauty is health, 
she will make just as vigorous efforts to increase her 
health as she has made heretofore to enhance her at- 
tractiveness by the use of fetching millinery and 
pretty dresses. 

Some amount of effort is necessary on the part of 
those who wish to be healthy. But the reward is im- 
measurably greater than the labor. The day will 
assuredly come when health and beauty will be \mi- 
versal. The indications are that it is not so far 
distant. When that time arrives, the prudish teach- 
ing to the effect that we must be ashamed of our 



196 FROU GIRLHOOD TO WOIMANHOOD 

bodies, will vanish and there will be a general recog- 
nition of the fact that the beautiful is pure and the 
pure, beautiful. 



CHAPTER XXXIV 

HOW STBENGTH AND BEAUTY OF THE BODY CAN BE 
EASILY ACQUIRED AND RETAINED 

" Nothing is granted to mortals in this world without labor." 

— Horace. 
" She who would eat the kernel, must break the shell." 

— Plauticus. 

The girl who, having had her attention called to 
the laws of physiology and hygiene while she is still 
young, has an understanding of the needs and func- 
tions of her body before it has attained maturity — 
which it does when she is about twenty-five years of 
age — ^is fortunate indeed. 

Use always means growth. Disuse is equivalent 
to degeneration. The muscles and the organs of the 
body through exercise acquire strength and beauty. 
Those which we neglect to bring into action are 
stunted or weakened. Is there any more pitiable 
sight than the body of a paralytic whose muscles are 
shrunken, pale and flabby through want of usage? 
Compare it with the body of an athlete and note the 
powerful curves, the long graceful outlines, the glow 
and the bronze of health that characterize the latter. 

In working for a good development, compare the 
measurements of your body with corresponding 

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198 FROM GIELHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

measurements of perfect figures. This will give you 
an idea of the location of your more notable defects 
and enable you to pay special attention to the parts 
in question. Your past work or play that you liked 
best will probably have brought about certain irregu- 
larities of external measurement, or the development 
of one organ in excess of its fellows. Thus it may be 
that you lack lung power, and so will have to give a 
great deal of attention to increasing lung capacity. 
Eight here, let me point out to my girl readers the 
deplorable fact, that there are thousands of women 
at the present day who lack the normal power of 
breathing because of the deadly corset that they fas- 
tened around their bodies in early girlhood and at a 
time when the vital organs were not yet fully de- 
veloped. Poor, ignorant women! They go about, 
sickly, anaemic, with beauty gone, magnetism gone 
and every fascinating quality that belongs to a strong, 
healthy woman. All because they do not possess lung 
power and because they are shallow breathers. In 
wearing a corset a girl's lungs cannot expand, can- 
not grow in size any more than can the feet of a poor 
Chinese girl who must submit to the foolish custom 
of having her feet cramped in a special device used 
for the purpose. The deeper you breathe, the more 
of the lungs that you expand, the more oxygen is 



SECURING STRENGTH AND BEAUTY 199 

absorbed and, consequently, the finer your complexion 
and the more powerful your personal magnetism will 
become. Shallow breathing, my girls, means shallow 
mental qualities, and what man can be attracted by a 
shallow woman? Shun the corset which prevents 
free, deep breathing and which dwarfs your lungs so 
that you cannot develop into well-formed, beautiful 
womanhood. Learn to breathe deeply by taking 
breathing exercises, and you will have learned the 
secret of becoming a strong, captivating and magnetic 
woman. You may also need to take special exercises 
on behalf of your arms or your legs. It is very seldom 
indeed that a girl finds herself with so even a develop- 
ment that she does not need to give specific attention 
to certain parts of her body. 

Never try to progress too rapidly. Whether you 
are taking natural play exercises or whether you are 
developing yourself by enjoyable work with dumb- 
bells, punching bag, or other apparatus or in what- 
soever way you are striving to make yourself strong 
and beautiful, guard against over exertion. Stop 
work and rest when your muscles begin to feel 
fatigued. Exhaustion after exercise shows that you 
have done yourself more harm than good. It is all 
right to be healthily tired, but between that and the 
fatigue of sheer exhaustion there is a vast difference. 



200 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 

Such fatigue shows that your nervous energy has 
been unduly wasted. 

Try and make your indoor exercises — if these be 
the ones that you must take — as much like out-door 
play as possible by accompanying them with all the 
fresh air and sunshine obtainable. Also wear as few 
clothes as possible, indeed absolute nudity is to be 
preferred to the restrictions of even the lightest gar- 
ments. 

After you have once secured bodily symmetry it 
will take only a few minutes of well directed exercise 
each day to retain it. Even if you have to work for a 
good portion of the day, you can surely find a few 
minutes before dressing in the morning, or after dis- 
robing at night for the requisite exercises. 

Remember to keep yourself properly poised what- 
ever you may be doing during the day. Don't always 
lean to one side. Don't always bend in one direction. 
When you do bend, let it be at the hips. Never allow 
the shoulders to fall forward. Keep the head well 
back and up. If these little points are remembered 
and put into practice you will have no cause to find 
fault with your carriage. A little defect, such as 
one shoulder being a trifle lower than the other, will 
appreciably mar what otherwise would be a good 
figure. 



SECURING STRENGTH AND BEAUTY 201 

A perfect bodily development brings with it a re- 
alization of the best delights of life. With every 
part of your body tingling with virility, yon taste 
sweets unknown to you before you gave it a chance 
to develop as Nature intended it to. Those char- 
acteristic emotions of girlhood and j^oung woman- 
hood which never reach perfection except through 
the medium of complete and superb health, will then 
be yours. 

If your girlhood is lacking in that sweetness which 
is its due, if you do not feel a spontaneous and ex- 
quisite pleasure in life, you may depend upon it that 
your body has been neglected or abused and a revo- 
lution in your daily habits is imperatively necessary. 
Begin therefore to develop your body by using it 
every day, cherish it and care for it as a most prec- 
ious possession upon whose healthful and perfected 
condition depends your happiness, not alone in 
your girlhood days, but in the coming times of wife- 
hood and motherhood also. 



CHAPTEE XXXY 

EXERCISES FOR DE^^LOPIXG AXD BEATJTIFyiNG NECK AND 

SHOULDERS 

'• Her neck was like rosy alabaster and I would have given my 
sword-hand to have been that knot of ribbon on her perfect shoulder." 

D'AXFORT OF BrITTA^'Y. 

In an evening gown or in her bathing suit at the 
seashore, a girl's neck and shoulders are to be seen 
in all their ivoried beauty. Even in a school dress 
or a business suit it is possible now-a-days to show 
somewhat of an en^T.able neck and yet not be so un- 
conventional as to excite X3rudish conmient. 

That t}T3e of petticoated prude who objects to low- 
cut gowns, on the score of ^ ^ suggestiveness " is, for the 
most part, possessed by envy, having scrawny shoul- 
ders and a scraggy neck. However, the innate 
purity of a girl's mind must dictate to her in this 
matter. But she need not give much attention to 
what the evil-minded peox)le alluded to may say about 
her. 

There is no better preventative of throat troubles 
than an uncovered neck. Have you ever thought of 
the hardihood of Jack Tars who leave their necks 
bare to wind and rain and cold and heat ? Every girl 

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BEAUTIFYING NECK AND SHOULDERS 203 

can save herself from affections of the throat by ac- 
customing herself to low neck dresses in warm 
weather, and dresses without collars in cold weather. 

The enveloping of the throat in furs cannot be too 
strongly condemned. It makes it su|)ersensitive to 
every slight change of temperature and the girl who 
wears furs takes cold at the slightest provocation. 

The hollows in a girl's neck are often produced by 
habits of improper position. If a girl stands and 
sits with the crown of the head pointing up and back, 
her so doing will keep the collar-bone hidden and so 
prevent hollows forming around it. 

Tight lacing, which makes a girl throw up her 
shoulders every time she wants to relieve herself by 
taking a deep breath, is still another cause of the 
formation of the hollows. The collar bone is forced 
up in the attempt to give the lungs more room. If 
the organs were free to expand downward, as they 
would naturally, the deformity in question would be 
unknown. 

Neck and shoulders of beautiful contour are with- 
in reach of any girl who will faithfully endeavor to 
get them. And they well repay one for the time and 
attention given to their acquirement because they 
are the only parts of the body besides the arms which 
custom decrees can be uncovered. 



204 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



BREATHE DEEPLY AND FULLY 


WHILE TAKING THESE 




EXERCISES. 




Exercise /. Stand as shown in 


illus- 


tration. Now with elbows rigid, 


raise 


arms outward from side to high 


over 


head. Back to original position. 


Con- 


tinue until tired. 




Exercise 2, Beginning from position 


illustrated, with elbows rigid, raise the 


arms forward to high over head. 


Back 


to original position. Continue until tired. 




Exercises for roundinsr and beaut if yinof the shoulders. 



206 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise 3. From position, with arms 
hanging at the side, raise arms backward 
as high as you can; see illustration. Now 
try to raise still higher. Bring arms back 
to the side. Do not allow arms to swing. 
Continue until tired. 



Exercise 4- From position illustrated, 
bring arms forward and upward shoulder 
high. Back to original position. Continue 
until the muscles tire. Do not allow arms 
to swing. Make the movement quickly 
and vigorously. 




Exercises for rounding and beautifying the shoulders. 



208 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise 5. From position facing the 
front, turn the head as far as you can to 
the right as illustrated in opposite photo- 
graph. Now turn the head around as far 
to the left as you can. Continue turning 
your head from right to left until muscles 
tire. 




Exercise for rounding and beautifying the neck. 



210 FKOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise 6. From position facing the 
front, bring the head over as near to the 
right shoulder as possible. (See opposite 
photograph.) From this position bring 
head far over as near to the left shoulder 
as possible. Continue exercise bringing 
head from one shoulder to the other until 
muscles tire. Do this exercise slowly and 
bring the head as near as possible to each 
shoulder. 




Exercise for rounding and beautifying the neck. 



212 FEOM dlRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise 7. Bring head far back as 
shown in the opposite illustration. Now 
bring head forward until the chin touches 
the chest. Continue the exercise back and 
forth until muscles tire, bringing the head 
as far back as possible each time. 




Exercise for rounding and beautifying the neck. 



CHAPTER XXXVI 

EXERCISES FOE DEVELOPING AND BEAUTIFYING THE ARMS 

AND CHEST 

" The unconcealed glories of her arms, 
Told of her opulent and hidden charms." 

— Maid Marian. 

Few girls and young women have well-developed 
and properly proportioned arms. This truth is 
illustrated very forcibly if you compare the arms of 
an average normal girl with those of some famous 
example of the sculptor 's art. 

Well molded arms are absolutely essential to the 
perfecting of a beautiful figure. They must be firm, 
well-rounded and pleasing in contour. The Hogar- 
thian line of beauty should be much in evidence in 
regard to them. 

A large arm, overloaded with fatty tissue is the re- 
verse of attractive, but a fine muscular arm rounded 
into seductive curves by having just the right deposit 
of adipose is adorable. An arm that satisfies an 
artist is nearly always a strong arm. When ex- 
ceptions to this rule are found, the beauty of contour 
will be of very short duration. An arm of symmetry 
and strength usually retains its beauty until ad- 
vanced old age. Women with wrinkled faces and 

214 



DEVELOPING ARMS AND CHEST 215 

snow-white liair not infrequentl}'' lia^'e arms and 
shoulders of surprising loveliness. 

A sensible and attractive custom that has obtained 
a vogue daring the last few years is that which allows 
a girl to wear short-sleeved shirt waists, or short 
sleeved gowns, at any time and place or occasion. 

Some of our out-door sports develop the arms cap- 
itally. The golf girl, who, with her shirt waist 
sleeves rolled high, spends a good deal of time on the 
links, has brown arms with gracious curves that form 
no small part of her total charms. 

The girl who rows gains a beautifully bronzed 
arm with accentuated and delightful lines of strength 
and grace. Rowing also gives her a good chest de- 
velopment, as it calls into play the powerful muscles 
of the upper part of the body and increases her lung 
capacity by stimulating deep breathing. 

A high full chest gives a girl individuality and a 
sense of self confidence which no other beauty of per- 
son can. She impresses others with a sense of her 
vitality and the ability to succeed in whatever she un- 
dertakes. This usually helps her to get that which 
she wants. AVhether it is the presidency of her class, 
a situation as stenographer, or a place in some good 
man's heart, the girl with the high, full chest is pretty 
sure to secure the thing upon which she has set her 
heart and centered her magnetic personality. 



216 FEOM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD ' 



Exercised, From position illustrated 
in this photograph, shoulders back, arms 
at the side, fists tightly clenched, strike out 
forward as far as you can, then bring 
arms back vigorously to original position. 
Breathe deeply and fully while taking this 
exercise. 



Exercise p. From position illustrated, 
strike straight upward as high as you 
can, reaching up as far as possible. Back 
to original position. Continue until 
muscles tire. 



Exercise I o . From position illustrated, 
strike downward and backward as far as 
you can. Bring arms back to original 
position. Continue until muscles tire. It 
is of the very greatest importance that 
you breathe freely and expand the chest 
frequently to its fullest capacity while tak- 
ing these exercises. 




Exercise for developing and beautifying the arms and chest. 



218 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise 1 1 . From position illustrated 
in opposite photograph, bring arms for- 
ward on a level with the shoulders, and 
strike the open palms sharply together. 
Now bring arms outward vigorously, 
back to original position, allowing them to 
go back as far as they can, keeping them 
at all times on a level w^ith the shoulders. 
Breathe fully and deeply, expanding the 
chest to the fullest extent while taking 
this exercise. 




Exercise for developing 



and beautifying the arms and chest. 



220 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise 12, Cross arms as shown in 
the opposite illustration. Now bring both 
arms outward on a level with the shoul- 
ders, back to the position illustrated. En- 
deavor each time the arms are crossed to 
bring them further across the chest. In 
the illustration it will be noted that the left 
arm is under the right. Alternate during 
each movement, bringing the right arm 
under at one movement, and the left arm 
at the next. 




Exercise for developing and beautifying the arms and chest. 



CHAPTEE XXXVII 

EXEECTSES FOE DE^-ELOPIXG AXD BEArXIFTrS'G THE 
WAIST AXD HIPS: OF SPECIAE YAErE TO GIRLS WHO 
WAXT TO THROW ASIDE THEIR COESETS 

Of all tlie misslLai^en apologies for himian beings, 
the most luij^leasant is the fleshy girl, who, desiring 
a small waist, wears tightly laced corsets. The re- 
sult is that she has bulglag hips and a jDrotniding 
abdomen, while the obvious want of free movement 
of the lower part of her torso is. to put it mildly, 
most unsightly. If a giil is inclined to be stout her 
saving grace is a suggestion of absolutely free and 
unrestricted movement. The petite girl who moves 
gracefully is a charming bit of femininity of the 
Dresden china ty|je. But a giil of large proportions 
who has perfect control of her bc'dy can be more than 
graceful, she may be queenly if she so desires. Ee- 
member this dear reader, if you happen to have a 
foiTQ and stature above the average. 

It is beyond comprehension that anyone shoidd 
prefer tight bands and clothing to the comf<.')rt and 
beauty of loose gamients. Of coiu'se no giil wants 
to look like a meal-bag at the waist line, but she can- 
not hope to seem othei^wise if she does not adopt some 

099 



EXERCISES FOR WAIST AND HIPS 223 

means of bringing about a normal muscular and 
fleshy condition in the region involved. This applies 
not only to the stout girl who invariably wears tight 
corsets, but to the girl who wears them anyhow. 
For they can't be worn at all without interfering 
with the muscular action of the torso in general. 

An unrestricted circulation and an unhampered 
waist and hips are most necessary to health. Uterine 
ailments, kidney, liver and stomach diseases are often 
traceable to the constriction of the waist as told. 

When you first begin the movements for the de- 
velopment of the abdominal muscles there is apt to 
be a discouraged little woman who wonders what 
makes her stomach pain and her back sore and causes 
her to feel tired all over. The explanation is easy. 
When you have not allowed the muscles in question to 
do their duty for years, it is going to take some time, 
trouble and patience to bring them into anything like 
a normal condition. When you have finally realized 
the ideal of unfettered yet controlled motion, you will 
feel amply repaid for your efforts toward that end. 

The hips to be beautiful should be neither too large 
nor too straight, but fully rounded and in just pro- 
portion to the figure as a whole. Square hips or exag- 
gerated hips are alike an abomination. 



224 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise 1 3. Stand with left foot in 
front, hands interlaced behind the head, 
and body bent far back as show^n in illus- 
tration. Now bend forward as far as you 
can, keeping the knees rigid. Back to the 
position illustrated, going as far back- 
wards as you can each time. The posi- 
tion of the feet can be alternated at every 
other exercise. Continue the exercise un- 
til tired. 




Exercise for developing and beautifying the waist and hips. 



226 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise 14- Stand upright with the 
hands on hips. Now bend far forward to 
the right, keeping the knees rigid. Then 
bend over to the left as far as you can. 
Continue bending from one side to the 
other until the muscles tire. 




Exercise for developing and beautifying the waist and hips. 



228 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WO^IANHOOD 



Exercise l5. As you bend forward 
resting your v/eight on the left leg, bring 
your right leg backward and upward as 
far as you can. Same exercise resting 
the right leg on the floor and raising the 
left leg as far as you can. Repeat this 
exercise until tired. If you cannot keep 
your knee rigid, it can be bent slightly, 
and with little practice you will be able to 
perform the exercise in the manner men- 
tioned. 




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CHAPTER XXXYIII 

DEYELOPIXG AXD BEAUTIFYING ITPPEE PAET OF LEGS A^v^D 

CAL^^ES 

AYlien a girl realizes that without well developed 
legs she cannot be a graceful walker, she will be apt 
to take more interest in those members of her body 
than she othermse would. And hardly any other 
parts of the body respond so readily and satisfac- 
torily to care and exercise as do the legs. 

The lines of the limbs from the thighs down are 
most satisf}i-ng in an artistic sense and it should be 
her pleasure, as it certainly is her duty, to develop 
them up to the point of perfection. 

The grace and perfect poise of women of the stage 
is in a great measure due to the perfect development 
of the upper part of their legs and calves. The exer- 
cise that actresses find necessary to keep their legs 
perfect in outline also gives them the strength and 
suppleness that breed beauty of motion. 

Bicycling and dancing, in both of which nearly 
all girls delight, are to be conmiended as means of 
calling into play the muscles of the legs. But the 
girl who has a proper regard for her health will be 

230 



DEVELOPING THIGHS AND CALVES 231 

careful not to dance or exercise to excess in hot, ill 
ventilated ball rooms, or stay up till the early hours 
of the morning in order to satisfy her terpsichorean 
cravings. She who does so will do herself more harm 
by loss of sleep and exhaustion than she secures good 
by the exercise. 

Running is a very pleasant form of exercise which 
girls, after they reach fifteen or so, are too apt to neg- 
lect. It develops the legs symmetrically and is be- 
sides, a fine tonic for the system. There is no reason 
why a girl of sixteen shouldn't run just as much as a 
girl of six. And such a girl who tries it will find that 
it exhilarates her just as much as it used to in the 
days of her childhood. 



232 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise l6. From an erect position, 
hands on hips, bend knees until you as- 
sume the position illustrated in opposite 
photograph. Raise to an upright position 
again. Continue the exercise until the 
muscles tire. If you cannot bend the 
knees as shown in the illustration, bend 
them as much as you can. Gradually 
suppleness will be gained, and you will 
be able to perform the exercise exactly as 
illustrated. 




Exercise for beautifying and developing the upper legs. 



234 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise ly. With hands on hips, 
raise as high as you can on toes. When 
you raise as high as you apparently can, 
make one or two attempts to raise still 
higher. Lower the body to former posi- 
tion. Continue the exercise until the 
muscles of the back part of the calves tire. 




Exercise for developing and beautityiiig the ealves. 



236 FROM GIRLHOOD TO WOMANHOOD 



Exercise l8. Raise the toes from the 
floor as shown in the opposite photograph; 
back to original position. Continue this 
exercise until muscles of the calves tire. 
It is sometimes difficult to perform this 
exercise at the beginning, as these 
muscles are used but little by most women. 
A little practice, however, will enable you 
to perform it with ease. 




Exercise for developing and beautifying the calvi'.s 



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CONXKNT.^ 

Chapter I. — Superb Womanhood. Its great Talue. 
Life not a aueoess without it. Marvelous, all-Inspir- 
ing power of beauty. Beauty cau be retained to ad- 
vuLiced age. 

Chapter II. — Present Physical Condition of Woman. 
Physical \vTec;ks everywhere. Womuu can be almost 
equal in sireugth to man. Truth of this is proven by 
circus perloruK-rs, savages and the lower animals. 
I'hysioal condition of women of the stage and of those 
In society. Even country girls are far below physical 
standard. 

Chapter III. — Causes of Wrecked Womanhood. Ab- 
normal and weakening influences begin in babyhood. 
Overfeeding, excessive clothing, bad air, fear of sun- 
light. Fearful results of prudishuess. The hidden cri- 
sis at puberty. Schools murder millions. 

Chapter IV. — The Curse of Prudishnesa. The kinder- 
garten of all evilu which follow. Filthy minds produce 
filthy bodies. Ignorance not Innocence. Well-sexed 
gii-ls cannot ignore their sexual nature without danger 
to mind, morals and body. The curse of prudishness 
exerts a di-lillug influence all through life. 

Chapter V. — Self Abuse. Plain duty of mothers and 
fathers. Must daughters secure their knowledge from 
vulgar asisociates, or from pure sources? Prevalence 
of this frightful evil. It destroys or defiles every 
mental and physical power. 

Chapter VI. — Marital Excesses. Marriage a physical 
anion, founded on physical attraction. Instinct the only 
eight guide in "falling in love." Influences before 
marriage prevent the development of this instinct. I)e- 
pruvtd idea of modern marriage. Excesses that result 
In serloiis weakness. Consumption and other diseases 
caused hy this unnatural excess. How a woman can re- 
tain aud strengthen a husband's love by forcing him to 
folk'W the guide of her instinct. 

Chapter VII.— Crushing the Play Spirit. This nat- 
nral instinct created in every growing girl. A crime to 
crush it, Parents the eause of children's weakness. 
Prtc'vciousness weakens and prevents development to 
full iLiaturity. 

Chapter VIII. — Corsets. Origin of the use of this 
device. Courtesans at the time of the degeneracy of 
Greece Introduced it. False standard of beauty perpet- 
aates it. Delicacy no longer a sign of beauty. 

Chapter IX.. — Corsets Weaken Digestion. The work 
of digestion largely a muscular process. The blood is 
the source of all power. Pressure on the stomach and 
other Intestines seriously retards circulation. Impossi- 
ble to breathe naturally In a corset. 

Chapter X. — Corsets Destroy Beauty. Every sign de- 
noting true beauty lessened by the corset. The blood 
loses richness. Cramped lungs and stomach cannot make 
rich blood. Vigor of early youth able to resist its bane- 
ftil influence. 

Chapter XI. — Corsets Increase Natural Size of Waist. 
Corsets weaken muscles surrounding waist line. Con- 
tents of abdomen are held by corsets instead of muscles. 

Chapter XII. — Corsets Age Women Prematurely. 
Anything that lessens vital strength will hasten deoiiy 
and old age. The natural bodily activity seriously 
hindered. 

Chapter XIII.— Corsets Destroy Womanhood. They 
take away or prevent the coraplete development of 
womanly instinct. Female complaints almost universal. 
All this suffering the result of a ca\ise. Corsets one of 
the main causes. The deadly downward pressure of cor- 
eet.s misplace, weaken and destroy the organs of sex. 

Chapter XTV. — Excuses for the Corset. A corset or a 
less harmful snhatitnte may be worn until body begins 
to acrinlre strength and symmetry from proper training. 
Should be nltlmntelv discarded. 

Chapter XV.— The Evils of Tight Skirts, Shoes, etc. 
Baneful influence of tight garments. Hinder freedom of 
muscular movements. Physical slave becomes a mental 
slave. 

Chapter XVI. — Operations that are Crimes. The knife 
recommended for every .'ibnormal manifestation pro- 
duced by impure blood. Many surgeons seem to have 
gone mad. A cure possible in every case without a dan- 
gerous and nnsexlng operation. 

Chapter XVII.— Can Wrecked Womanhood be Re- 
claimed? All can be vastly Improved. Many can re- 



cover, even add to lost power and beaaty. Natvire Is 

kind. Exercise, breathing, proper diet, etc., the ^jrcat 
reuicdles. 

Chapter XVIII. — Diet. The great Importance of prop- 
er foods. Four important rules. Vegetarian and mlxf:* 
diet, influence of an abstemious diet on the complex- 
ion. 

Chapter XIX. — Fasting Cures. How to fast t» 
produce results. Two methods of fasting. What ta 
drink. Care necessary in breaking fast. 

Chapter XX. — How Exercise Beautifies the Body. The 
proper use of a muscle strengthens and beautifies it. 
Sparta's beautiful woman. No danger of developlny 
prominently outlined muscles seen in men. 

Chapter XXI. — Showing Photographs of Defective 
Figures. Aciual photograjjhs showing most of the usual 
defects in the female figure with reference to exercise* 
for remedying them. 

Chapter XXII. — Exercises for Developing Suppleness 
and Symmetry. A special system of exercises illus- 
trated by photographs. 

Chapter XXllI. — Exercises for Bust Development. A. 
special system of exercises illustrated with photographs 
for developing firmness and a perfect contour of the 
bust. 

Chapter XXIV. — Exercises for Remedying Physical 
Defects. Special exercises, illustrated with photographs' 
for remedying such physical defects as knock-knees, b(.'\v 
legs, round shoulders, flat chests, large knee joints, 
scrawny necks, unsightly hollows, hollow cheeks, large 
abdomens. 

Chapter XXV. — Exercises for Remedying Femal* 
Weaknesses. A system of exercises lllustrat'^d with 
photographs for strengthening the organs of sex and 
adjacent parts. Danger in certalo exercises. Necessity 
for care in weakened condition as certain exercises are 
liable to produce injury. Plain instructions. 

Chapter XXVI.— Jfatural Treatment of Female Weak- 
nesses. Symptom, cause and n«tural home remedy for 
following: — Congested or Inflamed Ovarie.s — Ovarian or 
Womb Tumor — Suppressed Menstruation — Scanty M-^u- 
struation — Profuse Menstruation and Uterine Hemor- 
rhages — Painful Menstruation — Sterility — Catarrh or In- 
flammation of Female Organs — Displacement of Woinl*- 
— Leucorrhea or Whites — Cancer of Womb or elsewhere. 

Chapter XXVII.— Childbirth made Painloss by Exer- 
cise. The Idea that motherhood impairs health is er- 
roneous. Agony at childbirth can easily be avoided. 
Exercises recommended for strengthening the body pre- 
paratory to childbirth. 

Chapter XXVIII. — Walking and Outdoor Exercises. 
Walking usually the best, if pleasureable. Increase vl 
tal and nervous powers. Detailed description of tw< 
very fine breathing exercises. Cycling, dancing, fanc| 
dancing, skating, hill climbing. 

Chapter XXIX.— Air Baths. Pure Air. Great benefit 
that can be derived from air b.iths. Great tOTilc to the 
skin. Quieting influence on the nerves. How thca? 
baths can be safely taken. 

Chapter XXX.— Bathing and "Wat?r Treatment. Clean- 
line.«»s necessary to superb health. Activity of the pores 
reoulred. A substitute for soap. Comments on hot 
baths, cold, sponge, plunge or slti: haths; cold baths a 
tonic. Who can and who canont take them. 

ChP.pter XXXI.— Infallible P-emedy for Constipation. 
Sp^clp.l exerclsefi for remedying the trouble, illustrated 
with photogrHrhs. 

Chapter XXXII.— Massage as a BeautiSer. Com- 
ments upon the value of this means of acceleratlns 
circulation. When it weuld be beneficial. 

Chapter XXXITT.— Friction Baths. Great valne o? 
this means In giving the skin velvety softness and 
berutv of tevtnre. 

Chnnter XXXIV. — A Perfect Complexion. A superior 
Complexion simnly a sign of norfeot digestion. Error* 
as to causes of poor complextlon. Drucs smd lotions 
injurious. Diet of great importance. Complexion In. 
fluenced entirely by the blood. How the compleilon 
mav he made as near perfect as possible. 

Chapter XXXV.— Proper Carriage of the Body. In- 
fluenoe of oarrli'ge of the body on appeanuice. dlgestloi 
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New Hair Culture 

Rational Natural Methods for Cultivating Strength 
and Luxuriance of the Hair. 

NEW EDITION GREATLY ENLARGED. 140 PAGES, 15 FULL-PAGE ILLUSTRATIONS. 

...CONTENTS... 



CHAPTER I— HEALTH AND HAIR. 

Great Influence of Condition of Health Upon Hair — 
Horse Loses His Lustrous Coat — A Diseased Dog a 
Fine Hair Depends Upon the Purity of Blood— A Sick 
Frowsled, Ill-Kept Covering. 

CHAPTER n— CAUSE OF LOSS OF HAIR. 

Either Local or Constitutional — Local when Caused 
by Dandruff or a Diseased Condition of the Scalp — Con- 
stitutional when from Weakness Brought About by 
Fevers, Dissipation or Otherwise — Why Women Hitv(> 
Stronger Hair than Men — Growth of Hair — Remarkable 
Instances of Long Hair. 

CHAPTER ni— SCALP MASSAGE. 

Accelerate the Circulation of the Scalp — How to Mas- 
sage with the Fingers Described and Illustrated — Mas- 
sage from the Pulling Process and from Friction Se- 
cured from Brushes. 

CHAPTER IV— MASSAGE BY PULLING THE HAIR. 
The Especial Value of this Method Described — How It 
is Done Described and Profusely Illustrated — Dead Hair 
Must be Removed — Kill the Life of Hair Roots if Al- 
lowed, to Remain— Plain Cause of Hair Loss— This Ap- 
parently Odd Theory Proven a Fact. 

CHAPTER V— HOW OFTEN SHOULD THE SCALP 
BE WASHED? 

Errors in Reference to This — Scalp Must Be Kept 
Clean Same as Other Parts of the Body — Where Hair is 
Grown Long, Cleansing is Needed Less Frequently — 
Some Valuable Information in Reference to the Care of 
Children's Hair. 

CHAPTER VI— HOT AND COLD APPLICATIONS. 

Great Value of this Means as a Stimulant to Circula- 
tion — How They Are Applied — Its Value for Treatment 
for Baldness. 

CHAPTER VII— BRUSHING AND COMBING THE 
HAIR. 

Value of a Brush for Friction — Cleanses and Stlmn- 
lates the Scalp — Manner of Brushing the Scalp lUua- 
trated — How to Select Proper Brushes and Combs. 

CHAPTER VIII— CAUSE OF BALDNESS. 

Various Causes of this Unfortunate Condition — Can be 
Remedied Only in Rare Cases — No Power on Earth can 
Grow Hair if the Hair Roots are Dead — Means Sug- 
gested for Stimulating Growth If Life Remains — The 
Method of Killing Microbes — Warning Against Hair 
Tonics. 

CHAPTER IX— LUXURIANT BEARDS— BALD HEADS. 

Plainly Explaining Why a Man Can be Bald and Still 
Have a Heavy Beard — Pulling Process Strengthens 
Beard — Reverse Conditions and Man's Face Would be 
"Bald." 



CHAPTER X— EXCESSIVE LOSS OF HAIR. 
Cause of this Loss — Plain Advice for Women — Descrip- 
tion in Detail for Remedying this Trouble — Similar Ad- 
vice for Men. 

CHAPTER XI— BRAIN WORK. OBESITY, UNHAP- 
PINESS. 

Their Influence on Hair — Brain Work Not Necessar- 
ily Injurious to Hair if Given Proper Care — Too Much 
Fat in the Blood Apparently Lessens the Nourishment 
Furnished to the Hair — Most all Obese Persons are Bald 
or Have Very Thin Hair — Danger of Obesity — Baneful 
Effects of Perspiration — The Scalp Should Always be 
Cleansed After Perspiring Profusely. Deteriorating Ef- 
fects of Unhappiness on the Hair. 

CHAPTER XII— DANDRUFF. 
Dandruff not Necessarily a Disease — It is Always 
Present in the Most Healthy Scalps — Only When it Ap- 
pears in Profuse Quantities or in Large Flakes is it Ab- 
normal — Easily Cured by Proper Methods. 

CHAPTER XIII— GRAY HAIR. 

Hair Obtains its Color from Glands — Color Glands can 
be Destroyed and the Hair Still be Strong — In Some 
Cases Gray Hair May be Restored to its Normal Color — 
In Nearly Every Case the Whitening Process can be 
Stayed. 

CHAPTER XIV— ABNORMAL HAIR GROWTH. 

Great Difficulty Found in Stifling Undesired Hair 
Growth — Numerous Caustics for Remodying this Trouble 
—Some Dangerous and but Few Effective — A Receipt 
Given of a Simple Caustic Used by a Famous Physician. 

CHAPTER XV— EYEBROWS AND EYELASHES. 
How They May be Made to Grow Thicker and Longer 
—Plain Illustrations Showing the Process. 

CHAPTER XVI— FAKE HAIR GROWERS— COLOR OF 
HAIR. 

Scathing Arraignment of the Hair Tonic "Fakirs" 
Who Grow Hair on Bald Heads — Gambling a Highly Re- 
spectable Business Compared to This — Frequently Bald 
Themselves — Influence of Color of Hair Upon Character. 

CHAPTER XVII— GENERAL INFORMATION. 

Importance of Regular Bathing — Evil Effects of Tight 
Fitting or Heavy Hats — Effects on the Hair of Excessive 
Dietetic Indulgences — Emotional Life — Can Baldness or 
Thin Hair Be Inherited? — The Effects of Dissipation on 
the Hair — Sun Bath — Singeing — Curling and Crimping — 
Injury Resulting from Dyes — Indestructibility of the 
Hair— Does Hair Grow After Death? — Strength of Hair. 

CHAPTER XVIII— ABBREVIATED INSTRUCTIONS. 

Instructions for Both Men and Women for Ordinary 
Daily Care of the Hair. 



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Some Practical Hints to those striving for the rich rewards 
in store for the leaders in the strenuous race for Success 

By BERNARR MACFADDEN 

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CONTENTS : 



Chapter I, — The Primary Essentials of Success- 
Physical Vigor and Strong Nerves the Broad Founda- 
tion — Self-Mustery Life's Greatest Victory — A Definite 
Object in Life Essential to Succ.-ss — He Who Depends 
on Luck Is Doomed to Failure — The Average Man Fails 
Pitifully. 

Chapter II. — Face Life as a Battle, for this Age Is 
Strenuous and More Courage Is lieqairtd than in the 
Fiercest Wars — Dun't Be a Skulker — Victory Is Only 
for the Bravo, Strong and Resulute. 

Chapter III. — The True Dignity of Labor— Temperate 
and Congenial Work Should Be Play — Inactivity and 
Death Are Companions — Laziness Easily Cultivated — 
DrouRS Are Always Ciphers — The Highest Development 
of Human Life Is Acquired Tbrtugh Temperate Ac- 
tivity. 

Chapter IV. — Alcoholic Beverages One of the Greatest 
Foes to Success — The "Good Fellow" Always a Failure 
— He Is an "Easy Mark" — Tuo Much "Kindness of 
Heart" Dulls the Instinct of Self-Protection — Russell 
Sage's Advice on Success — He Believes in Total Absti- 
nence and Intense Concentration — A Remarkable Ex- 
ample of the Results of Unswerving Purposes. 

Chapter V. — Love of Your Work Essential to Success 
—Persistence, Determination, Attention to Detail, All 
Depend on This — Remarkable Success of the Farmer's 
Son, James B. Duke — Life Like the Games We Play 
In Y'outh — If Engaged in an Uninteresting Occupation, 
Quickly Change. 

Chapter VI.— Life What We Make It— Happy Spirit 
Adds to Chances of Success — A Hearty Laugh Increases 
Functional Power — Don't Be a Dignified Fool — Dignity 
Induces Stiff Joints, Rheumatic Twinges and Prema- 
ture Senility. 

Chapter VII. — Unswerving Integrity Essential to Suc- 
cess — Honesty Pays as a Business Investment — "Do 
Others Before They Do You" a Bad Maxim — Occasional 
Rewards Mav Com"e from Dishonesty, but They Always 
Make Tltima'te Failure More Certain and More Pitiful. 

Chapter VIII. — Jack of All Trades Master of None — 
Highest Type of Ability Comes with Concentration — 
Specialists in Any Branch Always Command the High- 
est Remuneration — Concentrate Your Efforts — Interest- 
ing Work and a Definite Aim Necessary to Intense 
Concentration. 

Chapter IX. — Lack of Self-Confidence a Bar to Suc- 
cess — Solf-Conof'it and Self-Confidence Discussed — Don't 
Be a "Cheap Man" — And Don't Exaggerate Y^'our Worth 
— How to Estimate Your Worth on a Salary. 

Chapter X. — Time Wasted in Envy a Bar to Success — 
The Envious Fool Stands in His Own Light — Envy and 
Hatred Are Poisons that Should Be Stamped Out of 
Y'our Character — Tear Down the Walls of Prejudice and 
Stand Out n Free Man. 

Chapter XI. — Some Plain Truths About Education — 
Helpless College Graduates — Education that Depends 
Upon Memnrv without Reasoning Is Nothing but "Read- 
ucation" — Have a Mind of Your Own, Search for the 
Truth, and Don't Depend too Much on Books — Prnctical 
Experience in the School of "Hard Knocks" the World's 
Greatest Teacher. 

Chapter XII. — Machine-Made Intellects Can Develop 
Little Cnpacity for Success — Mental Slavery an Unsur- 
mountable Barrier — Search for the Truth and Don't Be 
a Human Sheep. 

Chapter XIH,— Do Not Expect Gratitude— You Per- 
form Admirable Deeds Because They Give Y'ou Pleasure 
— Do Not Allow the Tnerntitude of Narrow Souls to 
Worry You or Mar Your Success 



Chapter XIV. — Alcohol, Tobacco, Over-eating and Sex- 
ual Excesses the Principal Cause of Failures and Op- 
pression — Only Weaklings "Get Drunk" to Drown Their 
Trouble. 

Chapter XV. — How Prolonged Misery Bars the Way 
to Success — Strive to Forget All Woes and Calamities 
— Cultivate Happiness — Crush Sorrow. 

Chapter XVI. — No Success for the Coward — This 
World Is Already too Full of Mental and Physical 
Weaklings — No Middle Ground Between Courage and 
Cowardice — Throw Aside Superstition — Don't Be Afraid 
of Mysteries. 

Chapter XVII. — Suffering Is After All an Educator — 
It Can Be Made a Stepping-Stone to a Greater and a 
Nobler Life — Don't Allow Difficulties to Overcome Yon 
— It Is By Conquering Difficulties that Superior Men 
Are Developed. 

Chapter XVIII.— The Mad. Wasteful Chase After Mill- 
ions Cannot Lead to True Success or Give Happiness— 
Where the Acquirement of Financial Wealth Is the Sole 
Ambition, Life Is Always a Failure. 

Chapter XIX. — Wealth Does Not Necessarily Bring 
Permanent Pecuniary Independence — Money that Cornea 
Without Effort Is Not Appreciated and Often Wrecks 
Man's Highest Characteristics — Inherited Wealth a 
Grave Danger — Like Powder in the Hands of a Novlee 
It Is Liable to Lead to Ruin. 

Chapter XX. — The "Sharp" Man Is Not a Success- 
He Is too Sharp, and Overreaches Himself as Well as 
Others — Even His Employers and Associates Share the 
General Distrust of Him — The Sharp Man's Entire Time 
Is Spent in Acquiring Knowledge that Is Useful Only 
to Take Advantage of His Fellows. 

Chapter XXI.— Overworked Employees Rarely Succeed 
—Do that Which You Can Do Well— Clock-watchers 
and Griimblers are Miserable Failures— Strive for the 
Ability to Do Yonr Work Without Supervision— A Plain 
Talk To Those Working for Wages. 

Chapter XXII.— The Value of Having a Specialty in 
Your Line of W'ork — Don't Be Satisfied with Being 
Merely an All-around Man — It Is the Man Who Knows 
More About One Kspecial Branch of His Subject Than 
Anyone Else Does that Gets Ahead Rapidly. 

Chapter XXIII.— Healthful Recreation a Great Aid to 
Success — The False Kind and the Real — Recruit Your 
Energies by Refreshing Enjoyment of Well-Earned 
Leisure. 

Chapter XXIV. — Personal Appearance a Vital Factor 
In Success— Inestimable Value of a Healthy Physical 
Appearance— Pale-faced. Decrepit. Illy-Nourlshod Peo- 
ple Excite Natural Repulsion — Personal Magnetism the 
Result of Abundant Health and Physical Virility- 
Neglect of Personal Hygiene a Bar to Success. 

Chapter XXV.— To Attain Greatest Success Body and 
Mind Must Be Kept In Perfect Condition — "We Are 
Fearfullv and Wonderfully Made" — The Living Body 
a Delicatelv Constructed. Marvelous Machine — Every 
Part Must Be in Perfect Working Order to Attain High- 
est Results — Close Relation Between Body and Mind — 
Proper Food and Drink Assumes Great Importance. 

Chapter XXVI.— Definitions of Success Vary Greatly 
— The Fool's Scheme of Success- Life's Truest Success 
Is Marked By the Development of Strong, Beautiful 
Children — The Value of Money Recognized— Money to 
Be Used as a Tool — It Should Not Be Mistaken as Life's 
Sole Object— The True Goal Attained. 



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The Three Great Remedies of Nature 

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BRI£r SYNOPSIS OF CONTENTS 

PART I-FAHTING 

Chapter I— Learn to interpret your Instincts 



to 
Every organism a self-regulating apparatus. Nat- 
ure's protests apainst health-destroying habits. 
Starve a man and you also starve his diseases. 

Chapter II — Power of habit. One or more 
meals daily. Brain work interferes with diges- 
tion. Curiitlve influence of meager diet. No- 
brcakfast theory. 

Chanter III — Dietetic restrictions. Stimulants 
injurious. Animal foods. Unnatural appetites 
no natural limit. Disease caused by eating in 
exe-ss of supply of gastric juice. 

Chapter IV — Protracted fasts. Instances of 
remarkable cures. Fasting cure. Instinct. Sick 
man made more sick by feeding. Overeating a 
vice of enormous prevalence. No microbe has 
a chance against fasting method. 

Chapter V — Soven-day fast of one of the au- 
thors. Its effect on mind and body. Illustrated 
with photographs showing feats of strength per- 
formed and wasting of body. 

PART II-HYDROPATHY 

Chapter VI — Cold nature's specific for cure of 
germ disease. Agues yield to influence of cold 
air. Northern inhabitants stronger than South- 
ern. Hydropathy a true remedy. 

Chapter VII — The cold water cure. Cold bath. 
The water doctor and water cures. Supposed 
peril of taking cold plunges when hot. Cold 
bath beautifies complexion. 

Chapter VIII — Air baths; their remedial effect 
equals that of cold water. Ignorance as to cause 
and cure of colds. Pulmonary diseases unknown 
in extremely cold climates. Cold a tonic. Cold 
air remedies digestive disorders. 

Chapter IX — Climatic influences. The moun- 
tain cure. Consumptives cured in outdoor winter 
camps. 



Chapter X — Ventilation. The nlght-alr delu- 
sion. Colds never taken in open air. The draft 
delusion. Confined air produces consumption. 



PART IIl-EXERCISE 

Chapter XI — Gymnastics substituted for drugs 
2,000 years ago. Gladstone's exercise before 
breakfast. Effect of exercise on some diseases. 

Chapter XII — Outdoor exercise. Pedestrlan- 
Ism. How a consumptive miner was cured. Out- 
door sports. 

Chapter XIII — Indoor exercise. Gymnasiums, 
blacksmith's shop, amateur carpentering, house 
cleaning, etc. 

Chapter XIV — Gymnastics. Mental culture and 
gymnastics should be as inseparable as soul and 
body. Warning against excessive fatigue. 
Clothes a hindrance. Various feats of strength. 
Quick benefits from movement cures. Bag punch- 
ing, rowing machines, etc. 

Chapter XV — Free movements of sanitarium 
exercises illustrated with seventeen full-page 
photographs. Original exercises for treating 
diseased conditions. 

PART IV 

Chapter XVI — Detailed advice for treatment. 
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Disease, Lumbago, Malaria, M-^.-isles, Neuralgia, 
Palpitation, Pneumonia, Rheumatism, Salt 
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••MAN, KNOW THYSELF" 

Exact i^nowledge the Basis of Physical Training 

THE TRAINER'S ANATOMY 

A Complete Manual of the ilanian Body and Its Functions 
Thoroushly Illustrated. Just Off the Press 

By ALEXANDER MARSHALL 

gT-ww; ]^r{ften under the Editorial super<vrsion of Bernarr Macfaddcn 

For Physical Instructors, Students of Physical Culture* Athletes and Everybody 

Just what Physical Culture does forthe body, how and why, scientifically exjilained* 
Why you should do certain things, and not do other thiags This book, while thoroughly 
scientific and complete, is written in language so clear thuL even a child could understand 
it, ana should be in the possession of every one who desires an intelligent understanding 
of the vastly important subjects of physical developmeat and nature cure. It will enable 
you to understand clearly the construction and workings of every organ and part of your 
body, and thus help you to develop vigorous health, strength and vitality. This book 
will be used Sk% a text book in Macfadden's College for Health Instructors which 
o|}ens this winter. 

CONTENTS; 





Chapter I. — Some Preliminary Technical Terms 
and Definitions — Chemical Elements Found in 
the Body, and Forms in Which They Exist — 
Proteids, Carbo-hydrates and Fats — Protoplasm 
— Cells: Their Constituents, Properties and Re- 
lations to the Body — Connective Tissue, Carti- 
lage, Bone and Dentine — The Nerve Tube and 
the Cavity in Which the General Organs Are 
Found. 

Chapter II. — The Skeleton in General — Divi- 
sions of Head, Trunk and Limbs — The Group of 
Bones — The Spine and Its Parts — Sternum and 
Ribs — Clavicle and Scapula — Fractures, Sprains 
and Dislocations. 

Chapter 111. — The Articulation of the Limbs 
of the Body — The Bones of the Arm and Hand, 
and of the Leg and Foot — Structures and Uses 
of Each Bone or Group of Bones. 

Chapter IV. — Muscles, Voluntary and Involun- 
tary — Muscles that Work Only at Command, and 
Those that Work Even When We Sleep— Striated 
and Unstriated Muscles — Their Structure — The 
Characteristic of Motion — How Muscles Are 
Rested, Exercised and Nourished Into Improved 
Conditions — The Characteristic of "Irritability" 
— "Origin" and "Insertion" of Muscles — Func- 
tions of Different Kinds of Muscles — How Exer- 
cise and the Other Components of Wise Physical 
Training Benefit the Muscles. 

Chapter V. — Muscles of the Neck, Shoulders 
and Back — Muscles of the Chest and Abdomen — 
Origin and Insertion of the More Important of 
These Muscles, and Their Functions. 

Chapter VI. — The Larger and More Important 
Muscles of the Arm — Where They Are Located, 
Their Structure and Uses — Why It Is Important 
to Have Strong Arm Muscles — The Tendency 
Among Athletes to Over-Development. 

Chapter VII.— The Muscles of the Wrist and 
Hand — The Wonderfully Ingenious Mechanism 
of That Member, the Hand, Which Executes 
More of the Brain's Dictates Than Does Any 
Other Member of the Body. 

Chapter VIII.— The More 
Important Muscles of the 
Legs Described in Their 
Essential Details — How 
These Muscles Aid the 
Bones in Keeping Man, of 
All Animals, in an Erect 
Position — The Muscles That 
Are Subject to the Greatest 
Strain — Track Athletics and 
Other Forms of Exercise 
That Aid in Building Up 
the Perfect Muscular Leg. 
*& fc-JT'i.ngg'Jl •BfVLajtt Chapter IX.— The General 
wi *"''*~'~^ Muscular Structure of the 




Foot, and Some of the More Important Mus- 
cles. 

Chapter X. — The Digestive Tract and Its 
Processes — Vitalization and Distribution of 
Waste Matters — The Parts Played By Nourish- 
ing Fuids — Elimination of Air, Water and Exer- 
cise in These Tasks of the Human System — 
Work Performed By the Organs. 

Chapter XI. — The Heart and the Arterial and 
Venous Systems — The Capillaries — How the 
Pure, Rich Blood is Sent Out By the Heart 
Through a System of Canals Mo'"e Wonderful 
and Intricate Than Any That Ma". Could Devise 
with the Whole Earth for His Field— Perfection 
of the System By Which Every Microscopic Part 
of the Body is Reached and Rebuilt — The Sup- 
plementary System of Canals Through Which 
the Venous Blood Is Carried Back, Taking with 
it All the Waste Matter of the Body— The Great 
Mission and Importance of the Lungs — ^What 
Respiration Accomplishes, and the Need for Deep 
Breathing of Pure Air at All Times. 

Chapter X 11.- What Nerves Really Are— The 
Great Master Organs of the Body — ^Voluntary 
and Involuntary Nerves — Sensory and Motor 
Nerves, and Nerves of Special Sense — The 
Nerves in Health and in Disease — How the 
Nerves Discover Conditions and Report to the 
Brain, Then Carry the Brain's Orders to the 
Muscles — Why it Should Be the Aim of the 
Physical Trainer to Foster the Nerves of a Pupil, 
and How This May Be Done — The More Im- 
portant Nerves and Their Functions. 

Chapter XIII.— The Organs of Special Sense- 
Hearing, Seeing, Smelling, Tasting— The Fifth 
Sense, Touch, as Exercised by the Skin — Value 
of Keeping It in Health by Every Known 
Means — The- Skin an Important Ally of All the 
Other Organs — Normal Health Impossible With- 
out a Healthy Skin— Why?— Air, Water and Ex- 
ercise the Great and Only Skin Tonics — Beauty 
and Health of the Skin Inseparable One from 
the Other — The Skin as an Index of Health. 

Chapter XIV.— The Need 
of Nature's Great Unri- 
valled Tonics, Air Water, 
Exercise, and Proper Rest — 
Why These Are Needed in 
Their Proper Quantity and 
of the Right Quality— The 
Opinions of Great Thinkers 
on These All-Important 
Subjects— Why He Who Is i&fisH-'- 
Not a Physical Culturist in ^"""•^'^ 
ibP Trnpst Sense Can Be Very Little of Any- 
thing Else. 




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